yup, and while that's goin on, they're realin' ya in, the hook is set, and your caught baby!!!!

 

I didn't mean to but I lied to you guys. When I told you guys it was over, I thought it was. It wasn't though. I've seen her a few more times since then. I knew it was over but I wanted to be with her. I finally grew a pair tonight and really ended it. She called me, talking my ear off, sweet as sugar. She asked if I was going to see her tomorrow, like we planned. I told her no. she didn't say anything. normally, she would have went off. she knew something was up, see (I haven't talked to her in two days). I started asking her questions about her ex-fiance (just some personal knowledge I wanted to know). I finally I swung the convo around to her and me. I told her I didn't think she was the one for me. she told me "That's fine. I didn't give you my whole heart. If you want to step, step." she then prodceded to tell me rediculously sweet things that almost had me crying. I kept my pair though and stuck with it.

I've been hurting and crying so much because I knew it was over lng before tonight. The good part about all the pain is that it made tonight so much easier. I was already prepared for it and was able to really end things with some dignity.

Don't be angry fellas, I didn't mean to lie. I really thought it was over (and it was, in a sense, just not "officical" like I thought)

I feel free. I feel good. I didn't expect to feel this way but I feel like I can move on now, that I've done my best, and that I'm sure of my decision. Too many of you posted on here talking about abusive and crazy ex's. I've seen too many in person.

I saw a friend of mine saturday. He's married to a woman like my kimmie. something happened with him and her while I was with him. Holy Hell, it was me and kimmie. it freaked me out good. I was looking at my future. I think it helped me grow'em back.

I know when I'm lying in bed tonight some weird stuff will be going through my head, but you know what, I've seen too much. there are 10 pages of this thread of men (and women!) telling me I'm nuts for staying with her. I've seen it in person. I've opened my eyes.

 

Just read this whole thread. Man I feel for you, sorry your going through all this.

I'm with everyone else and STAY AWAY FROM HER FOR GOOD!

You sound alot like me, just a simple dude wanting only in return what he gives.

The last girl I dated was about year ago and I still find myself thinking of her and wishing it could have worked. She strung me along for a couple months only to find out she was sleeping around and ended up pregnant by some other dude.

Hang in there dude and hold on to your dignity with everything you have. You will be much better off in the long run!

 

Bill, Someday when you least expect it, you will meet a girl who will be on your level, you will just click and there will rarely ever be drama, and it will be for good. I have had mine for 25 years now and have never regretted it once..............Do your own thing, forget this chick (she's crazy BTW), quit looking.....and before you know it, that new girl will find you.

 

Hey Paco, thanks a lot man. I'm sorry to hear about your own heart break. It hurts, really really bad. Seems like us good ole' boys have a hard time finding a good ole' girl.

You know something though, guys? This girl knew things about me I haven't told anyone about. She could read me like a book. She knew about an addiction I've fought with for years. Nobody told her. Nobody told her family. Nobody knew that WOULD tell her family.

She could look me in the eyes and know almost exactly what I was feeling, or thinking.

Kind of creepy now that I think about it.

Anyone else here know a woman like that, or knew one?

 

Bill,

The most difficult thing in the world to do, is to try to make someone see that they CAN survive, without 'someone' in particular.

You CAN move on. You just have to WANT TO.

Carrying a 'torch' for someone, in an adversarial relationship is self-destructive.


It's time to move forward.
Leave your past. . . . in the past.

Right now is the very best time to set a few new goals.
Running. Lifting weights. Push-ups. Sit-ups.
In other words. . . exercise!

Get up. Get out. Meet some 'new' people, or even visit some old friends.

 

Hey Keith,

That's exactly what I've been trying to do. I've been getting out and meeting new friends and trying to keep my mind busy. It really does help. I just want to forget about her. I wish I had never met her.

 

everyone you meet along the steping stones of life, are an important part of life. had you not meet her, you would not know what to look out for in the next person. there is also some good in there, or you would not have been so smitten with her. keep moveing along, and love will find you. don't look for it, or it will not find you. just be yourself, and enjoy life. if you close your eyes, and think of someone, and the only thoughts you come up with are bad memorys, it's time to move on. good luck Bill, if you hit a speed bump, and need to rant at someone, I am only a phone call away.

 

There you go. She told you what you needed to hear my man!

For a relationship to work, you must give your whole heart...not part....whole.

Plus, one must grieve. It's part of the healing process. Nothing wrong with a good, healthy "cry".
Rick Van Shelton sang, "I've cried my last tear for you, wasted my last year on you. There's no trace of the heartache that I knew. It was raining pain when you walked out, but baby that's all over now, cause I've cried my last tear for you."

Life is too short to go around being unhappy all the time.

Richard

 

delete her number... its tough to do but I think its best that after something is done, to make sure its done.

dusty was right about how its all just part of learning who we really want in life.

 

I do feel better about things. The more time I spend away from her, the clearer my head becomes. I know I'm making the right decision. I know it was my own fault all of this Hell happened. I can see things a lot more clearly now. While it still hurts like nothing else I know she's just a nutty fruit bat. She doesn't REALLY care about me. If she did she wouldn't have had to slip into the conversation about what she used to do to her fiance when she got drunk (I didn't let her get into all that but she said enough to sting me before I could stop her). I'm just looking forward to moving on with my life and forgetting about her. Hopefully I'll get that job and be able to build my savings back up that she sucked out of me.

I hope I never have to see her again. She thinks she's hot stuff 'cause she's blonde, blue eyed and very well built. I never did tell her I like red heads better. Ha!

 

beauty is in the eye of the beholder. what is important, is what's inside. you wont be beautiful all your life, but if you are wonderful inside, that will last

 

that's the truth. I'm not looking for a beautiful woman, I'm looking for love.

looks don't hurt but that's not why I was with kimmie. like I've said in the beginning we just hit it off and things were GREAT. I just thought I was blessed to have a beautiful, sweet loving woman. as it turned out, she's just pretty, but that's it.

we all get old and ugly. if you really love someone, the love stays.

 

Thats the spirit buddy!

 

Jimmy Soul pretty much summed it up in a fun song!

YouTube - Jimmy Soul - If you wanna be happy