relationship issues.. really furious.
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Keith!!! I LOVE THIS POST......you're Daddy must have been awesome to sit and chat with......
you wont find me getting pee'd at this....I am not your NORMAL female with NORMAL liberal BS views....
I feel a womans place is in the home, taking care of her children, man, and home.....unfortunately that isnt possible these days anymore.....
it is kinda sad...
but I do have to repeat....I LOVE THIS POST....I hope you dont mind if I borrow it!!!
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
you wont find me getting pee'd at this....I am not your NORMAL female with NORMAL liberal BS views....
I feel a womans place is in the home, taking care of her children, man, and home.....unfortunately that isnt possible these days anymore.....
it is kinda sad...
but I do have to repeat....I LOVE THIS POST....I hope you dont mind if I borrow it!!!
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
Tammie,
Feel free to use my Dad's quote/comments, at any time!!
My Dad is one of the 'treasures' of our family. He's battling Alzheimer's Disease (3rd Stage - advanced), but, he is a GREAT old man, at 85!
The funny part of his comment is. . . . when he said it, he kinda/sorta rolled his eyes and nodded toward my Mom!!!
You see. . . Mom is not (now) the most shapely (Dad still says 'round' is a shape, though!) woman, but, she has a heart of gold and a personality that is addictive!
Family has ALWAYS come first. Well, right behind the church. (But, we won't get into that, since we're in 'general conversation'!)
With regard to Dad's comment, Mom just looked at Dad and said, "Hank, you need to look in the mirror. You're no Pat Boone, yourself!"
Ha!
Dad's comment had the desired effect. He got Mom to admit that she was 'listening in' on our conversation!
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First of all.. I want to apologize to anyone who may feel as though I am ignoring your thoughts / opinions, etc etc.. My computer is simply not fast enough to actually quote each one of you and thank you all. I do want every single one of you to know I really am grateful, and that I am touched you all care as much as you do.Thank you all very much.
Tim, I am indeed your friend. Thank you man.
After tonight, I think it's safe to say it's over. I miss her like crazy and I'm heartbroken. I feel like I have been pushed in front of a semi-tractor. I was crying in my truck until I finally opened the door to throw up. Yeah, I think it's safe to say I do love her. But after tonight, she's made it clear she is just going to keep treating me like an animal.
I have her pictures all over my house, my room. I have them all turned face down. I'm having a hard time forcing myself to go to bed. I wake up at night thinking I'm holding her; when I fully wake up, I realize it's the pillow. Now that things have really gotten flushed I'm sure I'll have more nights like those.
She's emotionally abusive. She's a bully. She's cold. She's lied to me about very serious issues. I know I'm making the right decision by letting her go; but it still hurts like Hell.
Sigh. I shouldn't say this, but I will. I am actually regretting not picking her up last night. I hate myself for saying that, but it's how I feel. I keep telling mysef I made the right decision and I'm making the right decision by ditching her. Still hurts. I wish one of you would just beat me in the head until I forget who I am.
I'm hurt and angry. I know time will heal these wounds but right now I'm just wishing I never met her. Son of a
Tim, I am indeed your friend. Thank you man.
After tonight, I think it's safe to say it's over. I miss her like crazy and I'm heartbroken. I feel like I have been pushed in front of a semi-tractor. I was crying in my truck until I finally opened the door to throw up. Yeah, I think it's safe to say I do love her. But after tonight, she's made it clear she is just going to keep treating me like an animal.
I have her pictures all over my house, my room. I have them all turned face down. I'm having a hard time forcing myself to go to bed. I wake up at night thinking I'm holding her; when I fully wake up, I realize it's the pillow. Now that things have really gotten flushed I'm sure I'll have more nights like those.
She's emotionally abusive. She's a bully. She's cold. She's lied to me about very serious issues. I know I'm making the right decision by letting her go; but it still hurts like Hell.
Sigh. I shouldn't say this, but I will. I am actually regretting not picking her up last night. I hate myself for saying that, but it's how I feel. I keep telling mysef I made the right decision and I'm making the right decision by ditching her. Still hurts. I wish one of you would just beat me in the head until I forget who I am.
I'm hurt and angry. I know time will heal these wounds but right now I'm just wishing I never met her. Son of a
Your thoughts and emotions are 'normal'!
Without giving my life's history. . . I was in a B A D marriage, many years ago.
It lasted 7 years, and there was an incredible little girl (she's now 27!) created during that marriage.
Long story short. . . my first wife walked out on me, without ever saying why.
She lied to friends and family and said that I had 'hit' her.
Never happened. My Dad always taught me (and said), "Boy, don't you EVER lay a hand on a woman. Women are made to be loved. Not hit."
I have NEVER laid my hands (and never will) on a woman, in any manner other than loving.
Well, I came home (early) one day, to find my wife and her 'boyfriend' (and her mother) moving everything out of MY house!
That was (thankfully) the end.
For about a month, whenever I came home, or got out of bed, etc., etc., etc., it felt as if there had been two deaths in my household.
Neither my wife, nor my daughter were there.
Time heals all. You will find another girl/woman to spend your time with.
One that is deserving of YOU.
I only ask one thing of you. Don't do as I did. Do NOT reach for alcohol, to 'drown' your sorrows.
As my former boss told me (after seeing what I was dealing with, and how I was dealing with it):
"I know what you're going through. I honestly do. However, you will NOT find the answers to your problems, at the bottom of that bottle. . . . "
No truer words. . . ever spoken.
Now, I thank my first wife for her leaving me. Don't get me wrong. My first wife was GORGEOUS. It was her personality (or lack of) that 'ruined' her.
You see, if it had not been for my first wife leaving, I never would have gotten back together with a wonderful woman that I had dated years before ever meeting my first wife.
She (my second and LAST wife) and I have been married for many, many, many years, now. (And they just keep getting better!)
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Thanks Keith. Reading that almost made me cry. I'd give you a man hug right now if I could, lol.
The temptation to drink is there but I'm trying to keep my mind busy. It's hard because I'm out of work, so my thoughts are pretty much focussed on one thing. No worries though, I'm not going to drink. It's just highly tempting right now.
I know she'll call me. She's the type that will have to call me to get the last word in, and tell me why I'm a horrible person, boyfriend, human being,etc.lol. I'm not looking forward to that phone call. I highly doubt that phone call will end nicely. Ideally she would call me and be humble and actually TALK. That just isn't her, though. I can't say a word without it being a fight.
You know how you get hurt, and it's hard to hold still? Like say you cut your hand really bad? You know how you can't hold still, you have to keep power walking to try and keep your mind off of it? That's how I feel. I just can't hold still. Grrrr
I love you guys and gals. Thanks for everything. I'm going to try and find something to do.
The temptation to drink is there but I'm trying to keep my mind busy. It's hard because I'm out of work, so my thoughts are pretty much focussed on one thing. No worries though, I'm not going to drink. It's just highly tempting right now.
I know she'll call me. She's the type that will have to call me to get the last word in, and tell me why I'm a horrible person, boyfriend, human being,etc.lol. I'm not looking forward to that phone call. I highly doubt that phone call will end nicely. Ideally she would call me and be humble and actually TALK. That just isn't her, though. I can't say a word without it being a fight.
You know how you get hurt, and it's hard to hold still? Like say you cut your hand really bad? You know how you can't hold still, you have to keep power walking to try and keep your mind off of it? That's how I feel. I just can't hold still. Grrrr
I love you guys and gals. Thanks for everything. I'm going to try and find something to do.
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Hang in there, Bill. Time really does heal all things. I know that isn't very comforting right now, but it is the Truth. You know in your heart that you've made the right decision, so just keep holding on to that. It is obvious by your comments throughout this thread that you are a good, honest man and you have a lot to offer. This door is closing so another can open. Embrace the change. It's your life. Be its Captain. Good things lay ahead. Trust that and it will be so.
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just got here,
sucks whats happening man, my prayers are going out to you. but it does sound like its for the best. about the only thing i know to say is to try and steer clear of the alcohol to numb the pain, don't do anything rash, and don't burn any bridges because no matter what happens you dont want to be the one holding the match.
I haven't been in an actual relationship in just over 2 years, my last g/f didn't shop up to go to dinner the day that i had seen about a loan for a ring. I found her at 11:00 that night over at a male coworkers house (ever head jimmy waynes do you believe me now?) and promptly left it in the dust. after I started spending time with my friends again did i realize how much she controlled my life, me and some friends actually celebrated my "freedom"
and I know that the hardest part is the loneliness till somebody else comes along. the kind where bieng alone is better than standing in a crowd. I actually started talking to an old female friend (one that my ex didn't like even though she lived 100 miles away and we rarely talked) to which i have developed a relationship with, we are not dating or anything, but our friendship is 10x better than dating my ex.
and Tammie, you give some great advice, and its nice to have a female chiming in on the subject, but i didn't realize you were a female till page 4 and couldn't figure out why you were so intent on the hugs! my bad!
sucks whats happening man, my prayers are going out to you. but it does sound like its for the best. about the only thing i know to say is to try and steer clear of the alcohol to numb the pain, don't do anything rash, and don't burn any bridges because no matter what happens you dont want to be the one holding the match.
I haven't been in an actual relationship in just over 2 years, my last g/f didn't shop up to go to dinner the day that i had seen about a loan for a ring. I found her at 11:00 that night over at a male coworkers house (ever head jimmy waynes do you believe me now?) and promptly left it in the dust. after I started spending time with my friends again did i realize how much she controlled my life, me and some friends actually celebrated my "freedom"
and I know that the hardest part is the loneliness till somebody else comes along. the kind where bieng alone is better than standing in a crowd. I actually started talking to an old female friend (one that my ex didn't like even though she lived 100 miles away and we rarely talked) to which i have developed a relationship with, we are not dating or anything, but our friendship is 10x better than dating my ex.
and Tammie, you give some great advice, and its nice to have a female chiming in on the subject, but i didn't realize you were a female till page 4 and couldn't figure out why you were so intent on the hugs! my bad!
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she called me tonight. wanted me to go over to her place. I'll call her back tonight.
sigh
by the way, good advice about burning bridges. I plan on being normal and simply playing the game. I'm not going to let her manipulate the conversation.
sigh
by the way, good advice about burning bridges. I plan on being normal and simply playing the game. I'm not going to let her manipulate the conversation.
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From: Bonita Springs FL
It's your decision, but you will respect yourself more if you don't call her back and just give yourself a few days. You will be able to think much more clearly in a few days.
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Maybe I'm old fashioned, but it wouldn't be right to not return a phone call IMO. Doesn't mean you have to get into anything, just call and say you want a few days to think, and to please not call until then.
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concur!!!!
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Good point.
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Return the call, but only to politely tell her No thank you and that you'll call her when you're ready to.
" . . . . I plan on being normal and simply playing the game. " Why? the game is over. Just be honest and true to yourself.
Good luck!
p.s. The advise you received from 00BlueOvalRanger is golden, I hope you'll heed it.
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Keep your head held high and feet on the ground Bill. We are all pulling for ya man.
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Thanks Keith. Reading that almost made me cry. I'd give you a man hug right now if I could, lol.
The temptation to drink is there but I'm trying to keep my mind busy. It's hard because I'm out of work, so my thoughts are pretty much focussed on one thing. No worries though, I'm not going to drink. It's just highly tempting right now.
I know she'll call me. She's the type that will have to call me to get the last word in, and tell me why I'm a horrible person, boyfriend, human being,etc.lol. I'm not looking forward to that phone call. I highly doubt that phone call will end nicely. Ideally she would call me and be humble and actually TALK. That just isn't her, though. I can't say a word without it being a fight.
You know how you get hurt, and it's hard to hold still? Like say you cut your hand really bad? You know how you can't hold still, you have to keep power walking to try and keep your mind off of it? That's how I feel. I just can't hold still. Grrrr
I love you guys and gals. Thanks for everything. I'm going to try and find something to do.
The temptation to drink is there but I'm trying to keep my mind busy. It's hard because I'm out of work, so my thoughts are pretty much focussed on one thing. No worries though, I'm not going to drink. It's just highly tempting right now.
I know she'll call me. She's the type that will have to call me to get the last word in, and tell me why I'm a horrible person, boyfriend, human being,etc.lol. I'm not looking forward to that phone call. I highly doubt that phone call will end nicely. Ideally she would call me and be humble and actually TALK. That just isn't her, though. I can't say a word without it being a fight.
You know how you get hurt, and it's hard to hold still? Like say you cut your hand really bad? You know how you can't hold still, you have to keep power walking to try and keep your mind off of it? That's how I feel. I just can't hold still. Grrrr
I love you guys and gals. Thanks for everything. I'm going to try and find something to do.
When my ex dumped me back in 1983, I was at sea on a submarine and had to read about it in a letter! I went stir crazy until the boat returned to port and I was able to catch a plane home to try and fix things.
Come to find out, she was warming up as many back seats as she could and spending all of our money while I was gone.
Pain turned to rage and I never looked back. We were soon divorced. I made it a point NOT to drink a drop until the divorce was final. No crutches, no excuses and no pain killing.
I've been with my current wife since 1985, we have two georgeous girls, a nice home and nearly 25 years of great memories.
You'll be fine. Let this run it's course like a bad cold.
PM me if you need me.
Tim
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She called me. Listen how nuts this girl is. I have been missing her so much it's killing me. She calls, I say "Hi Baby. How are you?" I then tell her I need to call her back, just five minutes. She says, "Don't call me back. You always say you will call back and never do. Just don't call back." she then hung up on me.
Completely made up and unjustified. I feel like a frozen knife just went through my heart.
Completely made up and unjustified. I feel like a frozen knife just went through my heart.
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She called me. Listen how nuts this girl is. I have been missing her so much it's killing me. She calls, I say "Hi Baby. How are you?" I then tell her I need to call her back, just five minutes. She says, "Don't call me back. You always say you will call back and never do. Just don't call back." she then hung up on me.
Completely made up and unjustified. I feel like a frozen knife just went through my heart.
Completely made up and unjustified. I feel like a frozen knife just went through my heart.
But I know that if I had a girl in my life like that, I would show her to the exit very, very quickly and never talk to her again. I wouldn't even want a friend like her, never mind a girlfriend and potential wife.