Grrrr....

Everything I say is wrong, even when I'm right. She dictates where I lay, where I sit, what I say, what I do. She has fought me for the rights to wear the pants and so far she's winning. I'm absolutey furious with myself for letting her. I'm also furious at her. I've never met anyone so picky, hypocritical or self righteous. Everything I say is out of line, rude, crude and "stupid".

You will say "Dude, it's not hard. The answer is as plain as that big Italian nose on your face. Break up with this chick."

Well see, that's the weird thing. For some odd reason, no matter how angry she make me, how furious I get, how much she metaphorically craps on me EVERY SINGLE DAY, I absolutely can not stand the thought of losing her. The thought of losing her makes my stomach sick.


I don't know. I guess what keeps me after this girl is because when things are good, THEY ARE GREAT.. But jeez man. I can do nothing right. Look, I'm loose. I have a quirky sense of humor and I'm easily amused. I'm just a country boy. She knows that. She says she likes that. So why is she always trying to change me? I'm not a suit wearing speak correctly book smart Preacher like what she wants. Just a good ole' boy.

I've never taken junk from anyone in my life before (excluding the boss - we alll have to eat junk at work if you want that paycheck).


I don't know what to think about myself anymore. I always thought guys who let their girlfriends / wives run everything were wimps. Now I'm one of those guys. I thought I was better than that. When I say run everything, I mean to the extreme.. where they won't even let their husband wear his favorite shirt because it isn't "appropriate" in front of company. Do you get what I'm saying?

I mean every little detail.. the little girl is just wearing me out.

So I've decided to take serious steps towards taking back my "pants". I'm scared of losing her - but what other choice do I have?

if any of you guys want to give me some USEFUL advice.. please. I know this thread opens doors for you guys to really cut me to pieces; I didn't make this thread so I could be slapped some more. I really want my online friends to help me here. I don't know quite what I'm looking for but I could really use some friendly opinions. I'm just furious. I'm leaving out a lot of details; I know you guys don't want to hear it anyway, but you get the picture.

Should I break up with this girl or take measures toward regaining my respect? What do you guys think? I really do love her. She's getting to the point I just can't get along with her, though.

 

Step back ,(without saying anything) let her have all the space she "thinks " she wants or needs , if she runs with it , you have your answer ...

 

Good news. You are not married to her. Most guys don't experience this until they are married with children and saddled with debt. Don't walk, run.

 

Dump her.

I have never kept women like that around, there's too many other ones out there.

 

Sorry to say it pal, but it may be time to move on. Or you'll just have to grab the bull by the horns at take the control back. But without more info, there isn't much help to give. What kind of stuff is she doing? Give us some specifics.

Most women are controlling, it's hardwired. They try to change you, and most guys will give a little to get some.

 

I'm with the "move along" crowd. Sorry to say it but I'd cut my losses and move on. Luckliy, it doesn't sound like you're married yet and that's good news. The bad news is that no matter how hard you try, you probably won't change her. Think about how resistant you are to her trying to change you. She's probably just as determined to not change herself. That said, if things are like this now and you're just dating, it will likely onyl get worse as time goes on and MUCH worse after you get married (if that's in your future with her). After you're married, it's much harder to try to back up and get out. Hindsight is 20/20 and now is the best time to run away like Lindsay Lohan running from rehab. May not be what you wanted to hear but I've been there and done that and it sucked.

 

I'm with the run crowd...and don't look back!!! I can guarantee you one thing...it's not going to get any better!!!

 

Do you two live together? If you do maybe try and get your own place for a while. Dosent mean you two have to brake up, you just need a place to go home and have peace and quiet and to do what you want. From my perspective, "playing house" is the break up speed up system. Seen many good relationships go to pieces as soon as a couple moves in togther. Just my .02.

 

Hey guys. Thanks for the support. I know you guys are right. Before I split, however, I am going to try my hardest to take this relationship by the horns. If she allows me to take reign, I'll stick around. What is reall getting to me is the lack of respect. I pamper her and take care of her; I do deserve her respect.

Thanks for taking the time to read everything and write out a thoughtful post. You guys are great.

I'm still furious about last night though. It's just making me think of everything she's done and said.

There's this one thing that would have you guys rolling on the floor laughing if I told you. I can't tell you on here because it's not exactly rated PG, but it would give you guys a great insight on how she treats me. It's hilarious (or it would be if it wasn't happening to me).

 

Women are like children, they need to be put them in their place from time to time, and after you let her sulk for a little while, go back and make up with her.

Just remember.. iron fist in a velvet glove.

 

mercman, we don't live together but we do spend a LOT of time together. she spends the night often. it's rare if we spend two days apart. I haven't seen her in a few days and even though I'm furious with her I still miss her. when I look at her picture it makes me miss her even more. I'm confused with myself. on one hand I want to tear her head off, on the other, I miss and love her and can't stand being apart..?
grrrr

 

Hang in there Bill!

Only you know whats best for yourself! My lil lady has a quick temper and a smart mouth sometimes, I learned to overlook some of the crap that comes out of her mouth. Shes said some rotten things to me and im sure ive hurt her feelings before. I just dont fall into her little guilt traps and dont let her start arguments with me. I just respect her and she usually is respectful back. She had a pretty rough life growing up and I know that some of her temper tantrums are because of that; but i know inside shes appreciates all that ive done for her over the years.

Good luck buddy!

 

x2 Couldn't have said it better than that

 

Thats how my girl and me are. Im with her from when we both get out of work till I go home or Ill just spend the night. My mom told me once "time apart makes the heart grow fonder" or somthing like that. Maybe thats all you guys need is a little time to reflect on your selves and decide if the feelings are mutual weather to stay together or to go on seperate paths.

 

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