EXACTLY!!!!!!!

Live YOUR life.
Nothing says that she can't attend your church, favorite store, favorite burger joint, etc.

Plus, when you go about 'your business', she will see that she does NOT control YOU.

 

Good time to ask some of your buddies at church to help keep her away from you. Damn is no place sacred...lol..pun intended.. I assume that is you by the truck, and if so. Bill your a great looking young man and have a lot to offer, so don't sell yourself short.Remember shes the disease that almost destroyed you.

 

Miss Tammie

Come to find out it was a missunderstanding. She doesn't plan on coming to my church [that I know of], but she did move; she's within walking distanc of my church. The possibility is still there that she could come. I'm sure she would love to just throw me off balance with a surprise visit.

I'm relieved to know I missunderstand the grape vine tho.

 

always the possibility, Billy-boy....just do as we say, TRUST US....we have more experience than you do.....LOL

always here for you~~

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I know it's easier said than done, but try not to spend too much of your time thinking about what she's doing or what she might be doing. If you allow yourself to do that, she's still playing a role in your life.

 

I'm not. This is a certain grapevine that keeps me informed on information I NEED to know. No excessive facts. Just things that involve me directly. Trust me, I doeverything I can NOT to think about -it-.

 

Baby, unless she is coming after you with the intent of physical harm,
there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HER!!!!!!!
(or what she is doing)

*deep breath*

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

 

I agree. Some things are just better left unknown. The more you know, the more you'll dwell and think about her. Better to just let it all slide and try not to think about it. It gets easier and easier every day.

 

Im not surprised to hear she moved closer to you, or somewhere you go.

Back in the day I had a crap break up with a girl, and I had finally said to hell with it all (after a bunch of games and whatnot) and moved to a city three hours away.

Sure as sh17 she moved to the same city a monthish later, and started coming to the parties we threw with her new boyfriend (her then boyfriend was friends with some guys I were friends with)

That sucked, but I just went and did my own thing, and she bugged me every chance she could get.

I actually remember her bothering me one time I had a girl in my bedroom, so I got up, opened the door, called her over there, and asked her if I could borrow a condom haha.

Needless to say she didnt like that much

 

dont let her know that you attend church..

 

Now that took a BIG, Very BIG set of *****. I like it though!

Bill,

I just found this string and all I can say to you is, "It is better that you found out now, then after the I Do."

I was married to a pyscho bi tch. I di not know it at the time. I did not even start to catch on until the last five years and that is when I got my eyes opened, well my ears actually, while laying in critical condition in CCICU. Your girl was using you for exactly the same thing that my X was. I was a bank, that is it. I busted my nuts so she could live the Jones Lifestyle and raise two of her kids by a previous loser. And by loser, I mean someone who has raped the system by acting like he got hurt in the military and is one of the biggest drug dealers in the state. I just found out something elase about him lately, he left her for another man, Boy that was great. hahahaheheheheLOL Big Time. That must have been a good blow (job) for her psych. hahahahahahahahahahahhaha there goes mountain dew all over the damn screen. He then left him for a a woman younger than his 18 year old daughter, and then a cousin.

The system is screwed up. It should be reversed. I spent $50.00 to get married but it cost me $350,000 for a divorce. I have not recovered from that beating yet, but with Tammie's help I will.

While I was the big bad *** taking money from her kids (yeah right), she was out gambling and whoring around, even before we got married. I found this out from supposed friends after the judge said I was free. By the way, those supposed friends are no longer friends. Your personal friends should tell you things like this. Actually, I got the pleasure of thumping a few of them. Then upon the arrival of the lawman, they went to the pokey (wonder why they call it the pokey), instead of me and I started it. Guess it is good to know people in high places like the Chief of Police and the Sheriff.

Bill, I could go on and on about the psycho bi tch from hell, but you have been there already.

Just from experience, do not waste time like I did. I forgave and forgave and went through 22 years of hell.

Don't walk, don't even run, put on the jets and get away. You stated that you go to church and are afraid that she might show up. Just be prepared for it if she does. After a few visits from her, a hen party will form and you would not believe the amount of chicken **** that those hens can stir.

Just hold your head up, get you some good moral support from the guys and

DO NOT PLAY HER GAME NO MORE!

DO NOT EVEN ACT LIKE YOU ARE INTERESTED!

I WOULD EVEN GRACE HER PRESENCE WITH A SMILE!

Just remember, she will never give up. My X has not yet and it has been three years. I got it from my daughter that she wants to try to make up. I will tell you this.

IT WILL NEVER "EFF-ING" HAPPEN. She cost me way too much and I am not talking about money. That is all it is money. You cannot take it with you, might as well enjoy it now.

 

I've read alot of BS on here in the few pages I actually read.

A man who wants a mindless woman with no opinion of her own, had better be ready to be her crutch in every situation which arises, and in a long married life, there will be many..

I personally have no problem with the woman taking charge in the home, my responsibility is not so much to "put her in her place" as it is to shield her and my kids from the rest of the crap out there.

 

unless you want to spend the rest of your life with her, there is nothing you need to know about her. next time your buddies want to tell you something, just say no thanks, I've moved on.

listen to tammie. she's been there.

 

I have to totally agree with this. Tammie is a very wise lady. She has been visited Hell several times and I do not know what I would do without her by my side.

And before the BS starts about this post (sucking up), NO, I was not looking for additional Brownie Points. I do not need them! I never do.

 

Thanks, Charlie~~ {{{{{hugs}}}}}

I do agree with the fact that there has been a lot of BS on here, I know some of the fellas spoke out in frustration and maybe even true feelings, it happens ya know, people tend to speak more freely when the situation is one they are familiar with.....but I also know that each individual that has contributed to this discussion has done so with the thought of helping Billy-boy out, one way or another....whether it be through personal experience or watching someone else go through it, or even adding a touch of comedic relief.....I myself have appreciated all the different angles that this situation has been discussed and I have enjoyed reading each post and have done so with an open mind......

Bill, I still stand beside my statement: Baby, unless she is coming after you with the intent of physical harm, there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HER!!!!!!! (or what she is doing)...... if you are done with her be done, dont wonder what she is doing, dont listen to the fellas when they have something to say about her.....it really doesnt matter.......live your life for YOU!!!!!!!


Tru dat


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