On the same note, you know nothing of what any of the people trying to help here have been through. I am trying to give you a little background of my life to let you see where I come from. There is no reason to get upset with them. They are merely trying to help based on what you type here. I am sending you a pm with a little more history on me. Do not read it as a lecture. just read it and think about it a while and respond back to me if you wish.

 

In this post it sounds like your parents were telling you to get a job to help pay for things, and it sounded like you were not happy with their decision (in other words, whining about it), and that's why I said what I said. I can only go by what your write, and to be truthful, there seems to be some mixed messages in your posts, for example, I see that you mentioned in one of your posts that you had to go to work. So, does this mean that you have a job, and if so then why did you say that your parents want you to get a job? And in another post you said that you pay for your gas and insurance, so why did you say that your parents are insisting that you pay for these things if you already pay for them? I'm confused.

But back to the whinny thing... I also noticed that you were complaining about having a truck that wasn't in tip top shape when you got it. (What used vehicle is?) You also complained that it always breaks down. (What used vehicle doesn't?) I get whinny too when my truck breaks down but that's a part of life. And as far as your freedom ... remember this ... you are only 16 and your parents are still the law, and they don't have to do anything for you but give you food, clothes, and make sure that you make it to 18 in one piece (hopefully with some knowledge to deal with the real world as well). All else is icing. So just try to appreciate all that they do do; hate me if you want for saying things that you don't want to hear; keep coming back to chat with those that give you solutions you can use, and PLEASE go to ALATEEN. It will make your transition into manhood a thousand times easier. I wish you the best of luck during this trying time.

 

Good morning Paul,

I see from your most recent posts that your weekend is not what you
expected but I guess that you are probably used to things going that
way. Don't despair and please take what people say to you as constructive
criticism to help you.

I don't know your parents or what you've been through in your life so I'll never
try to pass judgement based on what you've posted. I'm here just to pass
on simple words of encourgement to hopefully help you struggle a little less
through each day.

So, with that in mind, I hope you can get through this day with thoughts of better
things to come. Hang in there and be a survivor of your environment. Good luck from your friend in Maryland.

Doug

 

Good Mornin' as well, My Friend.

~ Your Buddy From $outhern California.
-Anthony, '76SCS-

 

I was working 10 hours a day (night) 7 days a week and then going to school when I got off at 7am when I was fourteen.
At least I was out of the house...
I had been emancipated by the court and had to find a full time job that would fit around my school hours.
Still had to go to school, I was too young to drop out.
I'd go to school greasy and stinking of gas because there was no such thing as self serve back then and we were expected to wash windshields, check peoples oil and tire pressure.
That was during the 1970's and jobs were hard to come by but at least I could pay rent for the room I lived in.

Paul, You know you're stronger than the situation you're mired in right now.

 

Good morning Paul,

I hope you got a good nights rest to help you be better prepared for
todays life challenges. I see from your other posts up in the old trucks
forum that your truck has about as many problems as you do. They
can be fixed as well as yours.

Your first vehicle as well as how things have gone in your personal life will
be the things that you can reflect upon when you are older and wonder how
you got through it all.

Please try to have a pleasant day and may the ups overshadow the downs
today. Be brave and strong willed and never forget that you have a friend in
Maryland.

Doug

 

Hey Paul,
You're already up to 5 pages of resonses from people who care. That should tell you something. You are able to make friends and people do care about you.
You're going through tough times right now, and I know it's not easy, but it's only temporary. Take a deep breath and focus on what's good in your life. It may not seem like much to you, but that's because your mind is so focused on what's bad. You have to lift yourself up out of that fog and look towards the future in a positive way. When you think positively, positive things start to happen.
You haven't met her yet, but your future wife is out there looking for you, just as you are looking for her. Think of the day when your son or daughter will be looking over your shoulder and passing you the oil fliter wrench, or handing you the lug nuts when you finish doing a brake job on the truck.
I want you to respond back and list 5 things that you are thankful for. 5 things that make you happy and why they make you happy.
Have a good day Dude.

 

Good morning Paul,

Stay focused on your dreams today. Think about that perfect girl and
the wonderful family that you may one day have. Envision the good
life that awaits you and let that be the goal that you are reaching for.

Be optimistic and always believe in your heart that things will get better.

Best wishes from your friend in Maryland.

Doug

 

Good morning Paul,

Let nothing hold you back from realizing your full potential today. Your
future is totally dependent on the wise choices you make today.

You'll still have obstacles to overcome so take the challenge and go
for it.

You have a friend in Maryland that believes in you.

Doug

 

Hi Paul,

I hope that some of the responses from your many friends at FTE are
starting to make some positive impact in your life. Hang in there and
beat this thing that has been troubling you.

Life is too precious to just give up on and , remember, that yours is just
as important as any persons on earth. A friend in Maryland is still thinking
about you.

Doug

 

As Well as one in California!

 

Good afternoon Paul,

You've been silent for a while now. I'm always the positive thinker so
I hope this means that you are getting help and may not have access
to a computer.

I'm sure that there are a lot of people on here that are genuinely concerned
with your welfare and are looking forward to you posting again. As always
your friend in Maryland is still thinking about you.

Doug

 

I haven't read all the posts here but I happened on the one about the marching band.

Forget the truck, stay in the band. 20 years from now, you'll be at the reunions with the people you marched with, and have something to talk about. Or, you can be in the corner, trying to find someone to listen to you about your old truck.....

Been there...march on.

 

Something made me think about this thread tonight......anyone know what became of WickedEndings? His last activity was 16 June. Did any of you who gave out your numbers ever talk to him?

It would be nice if he chimed in and let us know how things are going.

 

Read his last posts (click on his user name, statistics, recent posts)

He seemed to have snapped out of it....

Maybe he's in line at the DMV trying to sort out a title for his Yamahas....