Haha yeah that would be a good fortune cookie. I like the tough love approach to parenting. That is how my parents raised me and that is how I will raise my kids.

 

Yeah I grew up with a step mom, I could not stand, her approach to parenting was almost abousive. Dad handled a few punishments but never was around a whole lot. These kids have ALOT more freedom, material things, and rights than I ever got. For the most part they are REALLY good kids, Just lacking in judgement(hell I know adults worse than them)

 

I'm not so sure it's all about judgment. I think part of it is them just testing the boundaries to figure out what is acceptable. Kids brains are programmed to take more risks, so a lot of what they do is based on the whole risk vs. reward approach. Our job as parents is to try and make them understand it's more about actions vs. consequences. The cycle is nothing new. We can only hope we do a better job with our kids than our parents did with us.

Nothing against our parents, but contrary to the belief of many teenagers out there, I still remember what all I did when I was that age. The thought of my daughter doing what I did at that age scared the he** out of me.

 

SAME HERE, I want my kids to follow some things I have done that taught me alot in life, the things that prepared me for adulthood. But some theings are better left for them not to know I did it. My 16 year old acts like she has things so rough, But at the same token the only time she wants to "TALK" about problems are when I take the phone away.

 

It does not matter that much on how you raise them as to whom they are hanging around with. Get to know who their friends are in detail. Then thats not far enough you have to get to know the friends friends. Best way to do that is to have a small get together where there is swimming and some hot dogs and pool volly ball or something like that and then observe the behaviors without making a open fuss about something. Then you will be able to know who is okay and who may not be okay. Then get to know the parents in a cleaver way and plan events that include them. Had some trouble with one of my kids and this is my 20/20 look back review.

They cant soar with the egales if the fly with the sparrows.

Also when little they may have friends that they grow up with and you know them well. But the friends can change and have friends of thier own that are bad influences to behaviors. So you have to keep on top of that as well.

Chris I loved the no text messaging. Thats a big distraction to every day life with the kids. I see then getting out of the car and texting with thier head down and doing it while driving and everywhere thats not good. There should be both text and phone use rules too.

 

Well said Rcoky.

 

Good Morning Everyone.

To all the fathers out there..... HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!

 

HAPPY PAPPY DAY

 

Yea on the friends deal, we know all of them pretty good and their friends as well.
The texting is not too much of an issue because she is not driving her own car yet, and if she takes the Expedition anywhere the little tattle teller goes with her and I ask her if she uses her phone in the car.
If anyone Knows how to build electronics I have an idea that could help in that situation

 

Me too

 

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Good afternoon all!

Hope everyone is enjoying their Fathers Day!

 

Hope you are to STEVE!!

 

yes we are, my daughters and I are doing shot for shot of tequila!

 

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