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I need your Help :)
I was just informed that my Dad has taken a turn for the worse and maybe leaving us soon.He turns 89 in April ..if he makes it
He has been battling Prostate Cancer for 10 years when he was first diagnosed and has run the gammet for treatment and survived 4 bouts of it.
He has always been a real fighter with everything life has dealt him.
I am now at a loss of what to do learning of what I will be losing soon.
I always knew the day would come when I would have to say good bye to my Dad but I have done my best to offer him my deepest feelings for what he has done for me and helped me with over the years.
For those of you that are religious could you please say a prayer to hopefully help him gain enough strength to overcome this latest adversity?
He is quite weak, lost 25 lbs in the last few weeks,can't eat,can't sleep well,can hardly walk, has an infection.This is hard for me to see happen after knowing him (Howard) as one of the strongest men I ever knew.
Here I am 80 miles away from him alone and dealing with all the responsibilities of this house and feeling helpless.
I don't know who else to ask.
He has been battling Prostate Cancer for 10 years when he was first diagnosed and has run the gammet for treatment and survived 4 bouts of it.
He has always been a real fighter with everything life has dealt him.
I am now at a loss of what to do learning of what I will be losing soon.
I always knew the day would come when I would have to say good bye to my Dad but I have done my best to offer him my deepest feelings for what he has done for me and helped me with over the years.
For those of you that are religious could you please say a prayer to hopefully help him gain enough strength to overcome this latest adversity?
He is quite weak, lost 25 lbs in the last few weeks,can't eat,can't sleep well,can hardly walk, has an infection.This is hard for me to see happen after knowing him (Howard) as one of the strongest men I ever knew.
Here I am 80 miles away from him alone and dealing with all the responsibilities of this house and feeling helpless.
I don't know who else to ask.
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When I lost my dad to cancer some years ago now, I found that the best way to honour him was to try to conduct myself in a manner he would be proud of, whether he saw or not, and thus keep alive a part of the man he was. This, ultimately, is what sons can do for their fathers.
God be with you.
God be with you.
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Sorry to hear that Dennis.
You can count on it. You, your family and especially your father will be in my prayers. There are some great people in this forum that will say the same.
Take Care. And God Bless.
You can count on it. You, your family and especially your father will be in my prayers. There are some great people in this forum that will say the same.
Take Care. And God Bless.
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My thoughts and prayers go out to you.
My Dad also died of cancer, in 1993. Hard to believe it's been THAT long.
My Dad was NEVER sick until he got lung cancer.
The only thing I might suggest is that you see him as often as possible now and talk about the things HE finds resting and peaceful.
If you are lucky (please do not misunderstand my choice of words) enough to be with him when his time comes, hold his hand and tell him it's OK to "go". He will know he is not alone and loved ones were with him.
Take care.
Ken
My Dad also died of cancer, in 1993. Hard to believe it's been THAT long.
My Dad was NEVER sick until he got lung cancer.
The only thing I might suggest is that you see him as often as possible now and talk about the things HE finds resting and peaceful.
If you are lucky (please do not misunderstand my choice of words) enough to be with him when his time comes, hold his hand and tell him it's OK to "go". He will know he is not alone and loved ones were with him.
Take care.
Ken
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Spend as much time as you can with him, no replacement for time.
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Thanks everyone.
I wish I could be there with him.
That is the main problem right now with the responsibilities of my house/dogs/birds/snow etc that I can't be there.
This the man you are wishing well.
and his 3 sister's on his 85th.
I wish I could be there with him.
That is the main problem right now with the responsibilities of my house/dogs/birds/snow etc that I can't be there.
This the man you are wishing well.
and his 3 sister's on his 85th.
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Mil1, you have my thoughts and prayers. i read your post an hr ago and had to step away as it brought back the time you (and many others) were there for me. i know well how you feel at this time. i lost my dad 2 days after 9-11(blood clot) he was 59. i wasn't home either. you can't be a superman, avitar not withstanding.
you helped me through my Nancy issue and i wish i could post here all the things you wrote to me. remember all the guidance you offered me and take those words to your heart at this time of your dads illness. you gave me wise words and comfort in the worst days of my life. i don't have the ability to express as you, or wolf or most others do.
i just know that you feel things i wish i could type. be strong, do what you need to and know if i can help in any way, you only need ask.
you helped me through my Nancy issue and i wish i could post here all the things you wrote to me. remember all the guidance you offered me and take those words to your heart at this time of your dads illness. you gave me wise words and comfort in the worst days of my life. i don't have the ability to express as you, or wolf or most others do.
i just know that you feel things i wish i could type. be strong, do what you need to and know if i can help in any way, you only need ask.