Dennis-
You and your father will be in my prayers.

 

Dennis, I've just said a prayer for him and for you. I lost my dad in 1988 to a cerebral hemorrhage...he was 67. It happened suddenly, and I remember thinking how glad I was that I often told my parents that I loved them. Because if I hadn't....well.

Kevin

 

I'm sorry to hear about your father. I wish there was a way to make everything better, I really do. You gotta be there with him as much as you can and make sure that he knows he is loved. Your father will be going to a better place; somewhere that he is not in pain anymore. If you need anything, let me know. I will be sure to pray for you and your family.

 

Dennis, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hang in there.

 

To echo others, you both are in my prayers.

 

Sending good thoughts your way, Dennis. Never give up hope, because you never know what will happen.

A candle shines in farm country for you and your Dad tonight.

 

Dennis, you and your father are also in my prayers. I know how it feels to have someone as dear to you having to fight the battle with cancer, my father died from cancer in 95, he only lived a year after from having his byopsie. I felt like I was the luckies daughter to be able to help take of him, I helped my mother take care of him, I grew up fast from that I surprised my family cause they did not think I would be able to handle it and I did, I took care of all his meds. I still miss my father dearly he was my best friend. Like everyone has said even if you call him to talk to him at least he will hear your voice and he will know that you are thinking of him. And don't beat yourself down if you can't be there either. What you can do what I do from time to time is call on Angel Heart ask her to put her wings around you and help you. You will be in my prayers tonight too, try and keep us posted on your dad is ok. PS sorry for misspelled words lol.

 

Hey Dennis, I'm sorry to hear about your father's health.

You know, I'm not too great with words, especially in sympathy... But I believe you're one of the guys that offered tons of support for everyone on the boards that have been through things like that. It was you who offered the story of the Fork to Carl when he lost Nancy.

Keep your head up. I know you'll get through it and help your dad along the way.

Ryan

 

Dennis I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Like a lot of other members have said see him as much as you can.

Jason

 

I am truly sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you can find a way to visit him soon I think it would be better for both of you.

 

Thanks again everyone.

I am trying to get a bird & fish watcher .........and I'll take the dogs with me tomorrow if the roads are clear.

Things have gotten a little worse as I just found out he won't ever leave the house again and his pulse is high.They are concerned about stroke or heart attack.

He is getting palative care at home now.

I was told he could go tomorrow or a last a couple of weeks or month.

The situation really hit home this morning finding out he signed a DNR yesterday.

All of your kind wishes and support is really helping.

I never really had any support when my Mum passed away 22 years ago.

 

Mil1, i've seen the end come to a loved one way to recently as you know. i know where your thoughts are, and how very scattered they can become. a millon different things all at the same time. in hind sight i have this to offer.. concentrate on 1 or 2 things. don't try to solve all those questions running through your mind at once. it really screwed me up trying to do it all and in the end doing nothing well. do what you CAN, not what you think you need to.
the guilt for falling short of it is what's kept me nuts. had i delegated, it would have been better for me and those that care for me.
you're in my prayers as is your dad. God bless, and be well.

 

Our prayers are with you.

 

A bit of an update.

I went to Calgary yesterday to visit Dad for 3 hours and say goodbye in case he goes before I get back down there.
Things are grim..... so I have contacted extended family and some of his old friends that he had lost contact with.

My oldest Sister is flying home from Arizona to be with him until he goes.
He said he doesn't expect to see the 15th and we expect within a week.

Again thank you for your good wishes it has helped me deal with it in a more acceptable manner.

I gave him a long huge hug and told him I finally got the basement wired and the basement bathroom working.

The Wiring wasn't a big deal but, he had been bugging me for 2 years to get the bathroom working since we got the house in 2003.

I also told him I'd sell the Mustang because what he said made sense.

He got a huge smile on his and said:"You should have listened to your Dad more"

He is at peace with himself and is ready to go when it is his time.

Looking back through his life and remembering who raised him ....My Dad was a great guy and accomplished a lot for the little formal school education he received.
He was a well respected business man with a lot of integrity, and had great friends and a loving family.

I'm going to miss him but,I know he will be with my Mum.

Thanks for listening.

 

Good for you Dennis.... not much more you can do. Best to you and your dad.