I like triton's idea, you've got better things todo that night. (unless this is old, i've been away for a week) You wouldn't be running, just doing something more worthwhile with your time. Like triton said, don't play her game, but if you go to Joe's watch yourself, never know how these things will go. If this guy is big, bring a posse with you. -BBB

 

Interesting thread. I read through all of it before replying, so here are my observations. Take them for what they're worth:
1. You're a good kid. You deserve better in a relationship.
2. This girl isn't trustworthy. She demonstrated that when she disobeyed her Stepmom ANd by cheating on you.
3. Character matters. Hers AND yours. You've demonstrated that you have it, she hasn't.
4. Second chances are just another opportunity to fail. Trust me on that one. My 19 year old son learned that painful lesson about a month ago. He's much like you are, a good kid with character. He gave his ex-gf a second chance and a year later was back to her same old ways. If someone has a character flaw like being unfaithful, it'll always be there. It may take a while to resurface, but it will.
Be glad that you're 17 and not married to her.
One last comment: Too bad you're in Texas, I have a very cute 17 year old daughter with a so-so boyfriend.

 

Triton-I do like your idea and yea my one of my best buds has a gf that Ive known since 1st grade and is rather protective of me, and me of her (just friends though). I really have nothing to worry about with fightin at Joes, on Wednesday nights there are about 50 people from our school that go plus there are always a few cops there ALWAYS lol. The people I go with is one of my best buds and his gf (the one Ive known forever). I think I just need to worry about if Im somewhere else and he sees me, but Im hardley ever out somewhere without a few friends unless Im runnin errands or somting. There always a call away though lol.

jpsartre-Dang...thats alot of readin you just did lol. Thanks for the complements and the suggestions, and the offer . Too bad yall dont live in TX lol, I need a GOOD gf, not these lousy type ones Ive been gettin. A friend of mine asked me once, "Where do u get your gf's? B's-R-Us?"

 

Triton's got it on. Yea, dont run man, but live your life. Not the one shes trying to drag you into, but yours.
Way back when, I dated this one girl, but it was her ex that was psycho. To make along story short...he had a rumor going that I had a gun in my truck. He had once told me he would leave a drop gun on the body of the guy he found with 'his' girl. So I took it serious. I talked to the chief of police(only 2 cops on the dept) and he said if my body turned up, he'd know the story. What consulation. Anyway.....I took it and kept myself out of his way. Better than dead, this guy really, even 15 years later, is still crazy and mean. One day after months of staying out of trouble, our paths crossed, and he said the right words......I turned around and turned on the charm. My friends calmed me down and got me off him. Been years since I've seen him...but after that he just walked on by without ever another word, just that crazy look. His friends on the other hand....are another story.
She was fun, but not the one.
If you read this far... ...Im impressed.........my point is....sooner or later, shes likely gonna have some crazy guy get on you. Stay the course as long as you can. Sometimes it goes away, sometimes you have to be a little crazy yourself. But be out of the way as long as you can. Its the only way you can be right.
You are on the right track.....I live in Texas, but my 17 y/o daughter has yet to see the light herself. Maybe some day.

Keep on keepin on

 

Yeap, phyco ex bf's do suck, one of my ex's had one. He was always talkin behind my back bout how he was gonna kick my **** . Well one night I saw him at a party. Sooooo I went up to him and confronted him. Asked him what his problem was and told him what I had heard and asked if it were true, he got all defensive and denied everylast bit of it. Never did he bother me agian. One night though before me and his ex were going out (we were just datin), she got drunk and he was able to talk her into gettin stoned. Well she called me up at 2AM cryin and askin me if Id come get her, I did but when I picked her up I went to hug her and she pushed me away, she was so messed up that she barely recognized me. I was like well Im not takin you home this messed up, so I took her to a friends house and stayed with her for a few hours then took her home and snuck her in her bedroom window. Well she would never tell me what happened that night but I found out. What had happened is that when she got drunk, he had gotten her to smoke, what she didnt know was that it was dro, (just for the record I dont smoke but I know alot about it cause alot of my friends do). Well he had raped her . She said he didnt "finish" and that it was only like 30 secs or somthin like that. But she said she didnt tell me cause she was affriad that I would go over there that night and whoop the bejesus out of him, which I would of, and I wouldnt of stopped till he was in the hospital. I had alot of friends with me that night too, it would not have been a pretty site. To this day everytime I see him I want to punch his lights out. That was about 8 months ago. I had NEVER been so mad in my entire life.

 

Dang. That last post is rough.

 

Most rapes dont get "finished", most of them aren't even about sex, it's about power, and authority, many rapes usually dont last more than a min. or two. It's quite discusting really that somebody would rape somebody for a power trip. Personally, I think the death penalty should be reserved for rapist and pedifiles (as sex crimes have almost a 70% recivitism rate as oppose to murder which is around 5-10%). So is this the same chick that this whole post started about?

 

No this is an ex I had at the beginning of the school year. About 8 months ago. That story came up becuase peppy's run in to his (ex) gf's phyco ex's and it reminded me of that kid. I agree, all rapists and petifiles should be put on death row. Hopefull they will find a "girlfriend" in prison that can return the favor.

 

ha, uh... I think they turn into somebody else's "girlfriend"... hehe, and rightly so. A joke is in order here, but in order to save admin's headaches, i'll pass on it. lol

 

Well I saw this post a month ago, read the first line and went hmm that sucks...
Well been seeing it still for the last few days...so I just read all 6 pages...ahh....

Well, some insight, from some one on the OTHER side of the fence...kinda.

one: your x got in trouble 2 years ago for talking to a BF on AIM....now...jsut what could they have been talking about that had that harsh of a penalty?..not alot.

two: she gets caught on AIM (not with you) and gets some SERIOUS grounding/punishment. While I do not know her step mom, she does not sound like the typeof Lady that would just go off for absolutely no reason.

Could your x have been talking to this person (i.e. guy) on AIM about something similiar to what she was posting on two years ago? (people dont change alot)
I believe so, now, I am not calling you dumb, you seem like a very smart young man....(i say taht I am only 4 years older than you) but had you noticed this when it first happened a light should have gone off. (I came to this conclusion after you explained that she was previously grounded from AIM on page 1) She is completely reliant on other male figures in her life, often willing to perform sexual acts, or at least talking about them with these guys. Do you know for all certainty what she was talking about on AIM either of these two times she got in trouble? Or who she was talking to this last time? (if no she was prolly doin what I am suggesting, you prolly did not realize it for lack of expierience in dealing with these situations)

IMHO, go out and have fun, go out to Joe's tommorrow night, jsut keep your friends close. One think to always do is keep your pride and stand up. Which it seems you know this. Move on for certain, there are alot better woman out in Tx...taht is where you are from right? where at in Tx, I used to call that country home also? Man take care, I feel for you, and good luck
DO NOT LET HER GET YOU DOWN!


now my story....
my senior year in HS, in band, section leader, marching season, meet a freshman (2 yr 9 months younger than me) after I dated a few gals the beginning of the year, asked her out. Her mom knew of this, it was ok, (her folks are divorced, wehre both remarried at this time)
We went out right before X-mas, X-mas eve I went over to her dad's house to bring her her present, her dad answers the door along with his trusty ole 12 gauge and tells me to leave......oh well. we continued to see each other at school for a few weeks. I broke up with her. dated someone else, asked her out again a few months later, we dated for a little while, her first kiss was in that time, then I screwed up, I cheated on her, yup...I messed up. We broke up, I joined the military, a year later we get back together at my house, she was friends with my sis and was stayin over for the night when I came home for leave. We got together again that night, been togethter since, me and her dad had to learn to co-exist...if not completely et along....her mom loves me, the rest of her family does also....which is weird kinda.....
cause a year and a half later, well we had been dating for some time, house was empty....and you know the rest.

but you dont......her mom walked in....first time for either of us...what a mood ruiner
haha
I look back now and laugh....ot so funny back then....even then her mom said hi, said she was headed out and would be gone for 3 hours....haha...and left.
Later on that her conversation with me (her moms conversation) was, well stay safe, dont do anyhting completely stupid....
Had this happened with her dad, I would be dead in a ditch, and they would stil be searchin for me.
Had this happened with my gal and another guy, they would be dead in a ditch, her mom prolly would have killed anyone else...her mom would not even let her and her last BF have a door closed in the house, or let him stay over past 11pm....(our first week dating the third go around her mom let me stay the night, on the couch but still....
of course this relationship has not been without its problems, but they have all gotten worked out, and of course the problems with her family....

So everyone knows, if you do it right, or if a gal truelly loves you, you can get her to ditch all that baggage. Her Mom and step dad are getting a divorce.....and it is not causing alot of undo problems....only problems is one party wishing for her to testify against the otehr for certain problems.....the gal I started dating this last time 3 years ago would have been carrying so much baggage from this one divorce, much less the one between her dad and step mom this last year, or amyn other things geez..

I guess perhaps I am truelly blessed.
I love my gal, she loves me it will all be good.


ANYWAYS, Wezol, good luck with everyhting, it will all work out, if you are ever in Arkansas let me know, and if you live in east Tx let me know, especially if you want some help working on the truck and replacing those heads.

Take Care
Jimmy Dean

 

Thanks for the offer Jimmy and thanks for the advice and the complements. Now to answer the questions lol.
Ya I knew what she was talkin about with on AIM the first time she got grounded. The second time she was talkin to my best friend about them makin out and stuff like that and she threatend to black mail him, long story lol. Your right, I should have known that she wouldnt have changed. What got me was that she is WAY into religion and church and god, so I was under the impression that she had at least changed a little. I Was wrong. I live in Keller, right north of Ft Worth. I feel for your gf too, my mom and dad divorced when I was 5. It wasnt a nast break up but I still felt it as every child would. But then she got married agian when I was in 4th grade. He seemed nice enough....he wasnt. After they got married (they dated for 4 yrs before they married) he changed. He started playing mind games and hit me...excessively. It was a big mess when they divorced. Alot of stuff happened. But its over now and that was 4 years ago even though we still have to deal with him because hes the father of my half brother and lives 5 miles from us. Im not gonna get into that lol. Thanks for all the advice everyone. If I get my **** whooped, Ill let yall know lol.

 

Well, I ahve to work, otherwise I could drive down there and back ya up, I int much of a fighter, 5'6 135 lbs, but my steel toe boots can do some damage if placed correctly.
As far as the second time she was talking on AIM, well I guess I was not THAT far off so.....

I am sorry to hear about your plight, but it is a learning expierience.....of course....if she is willin to fool around like that.....maybe you should......
ahhhh....whatever. :P

Have fun and enjoy yourself for sure before you get to old. or to tied up ith a gal

 

Jimmy, that is such a uplifting story. It is nice to finally hear about something working out, instead of crashing and burning which is all I seem to hear about. See, Band Geeks do win! lol, if you can't tell, I was and still am, I love music.

Wezol, good luck, just have confidence, but don't get cocky.

 

It seems to me (I think I have already posted in here like 5 pages ago ) that alot of the girls that go to Church actually do more bad things than the ones that don't. Take my girlfriend for example. She's 16, and (used to) smoke, drinks 1 - 2 times per week, has sex, etc. etc. and she goes to church with her family once a week. Me, I'm 18, don't smoke, don't drink, don't "mess around", etc., etc. and I hardly ever go to church. I don't know I can't figure it out.

Hey jpsartre12 -
I'm interested lol
I'm 18 years old, 6'2" green eyes, and have a 2003 F-350.
My picture is in my gallery.
Am I what your daughter's looking for ? lol

 

Yup wqe played the same instrument also...ahh having a little inter-section relationship. :P