> That noise just HAS to stop!

I have always wondered how someone deals with triplets and breast feeds them. While you are feeding one, you probably always have at least one more crying so you never get a short nap.

 

I generally don't respond to 'death' threads because my views on death may be slightly different than most, but I'm going to make an exception in this case.

All I can say is; Truly blessed that child must be to get a 'get out of hell free' card and go straight to heaven.

 

I am truly hurting this happened.

We do not know what goes thru someone when this happens. I know that there were times when my girls (and I have four) have had me upset, pissed off or just ready to go off on them. (the latter when they were teens grrrrr) I however made the decision to walk away and cool off. I have to admit I have done much better with actions than words.

I knew someone in the military who had a one month old that cried all the time and the doctors could find nothing wrong. The young dad just picked his son up out of frusteration and shook him one good time and said "Please Simon just stop" that instant it was over. He didnt do it because he was a "bad" person he did it out of 'frustration" and while I do not condone what he did nor would I ever i felt for him because he had no sleep, was wore out fromwalking, patting etc. It was just a moemnt in time that a most terrible thing happened. He said later in court that he remembered asking God to please make his baby stop crying just for one hour. He said he felt his prayer was naswered not by God by by himself only it was a forever quiet. It broke my heart. He will live with it forever.

Most shaken baby are out of anger not frusteration and that is what is so hard to comprehend. I so feel for this momma and will keep her in prayers and I will include the sitter in prayers as well because even tho she did something horrible she needs to have prayer.

 

460, I'm very sorry to hear about this. My prayers go out to you, your girlfriend and family and especially the little girl.

I don't know how people can do anything that would harm their baby. I have a 2 month old and for the first few weeks, it was trying. You get to the point of insanity from sleep deprivation. But, what is the harm of putting the baby down in a separate room, close the door and walk away for a few minutes. It's amazing what a 10 minute break will do. No baby will die from crying. But, many people will hold their babies and never put them down and keep trying and trying to calm the babies when in reality, there is nothing they can do. Many babies have colic and that's just the way it is. They scream and cry for no apparent reason. I will never defend anyone who has harmed their baby out of frustration, but a part of me can understand HOW it happens.

 

Ive never been a parent,and in fact ive never had the interest in being a parent.Im not particularly patient with crying or screaming children,and so thats one reason ive never even considered being a parent! Ive gotten into arguments with people who think that everyone should like kids and want to have them,and ive always countered with:"ive never wanted kids,and im not sure i would be a good parent,so i shouldnt have kids" There are people who arent compatible with children,one can just hope that they dont spend time with kids.......Normal people dont shake babies,so there is no point for those of us who feel we are relatively normal to try to question why.....My sympathy for your tragic loss

 

Sorry about your loss. Lost for words sorta, as I don't understand how someone can do this to a child.

 

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Thanks again to everyone for your thoughts and prayers.

I've been to quite a few funerals, but have never come close to crying. This funeral was very difficult for me. I nearly broke down and started crying. Something strange happened in my throat that I couldn't even talk. I NEVER want to do anything like this again.

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