O.K. My 2¢:

I've read every word of this thread and see all opinions.

ranger rules wrote, "I have some situations that I wanted some feedback on, concerning my parents.. . . . And I'm not being ungratful or selfish by any means with my parents, I just wish they wouldn't treat me like a child."

Here's a way to handle this.
Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and be a man. You say that you don't want to be treated like a child. Talk to them about how you feel.
My oldest son and I had this talk over 4 years ago.

I have said this ONE TIME to my (now 25+ yr old) son. He was 21 at the time.

"Do I not treat you like a man? You want to be treated like a man? Fine. I'll treat you like a man. Give me the keys to that car that has MY name on it (too), and go buy your own, or, I will turn over the keys when just your name is on the title and tags.
Get your own insurance, and by the way, that cell phone has my name on it, too. Hand it over.
Rent is now set at $100.00 per week, as long as you stay here. You can also do your own laundry, or your mother and I can do it, for $5.00 per load. Each load.
Each meal is set at $10.00. IF you don't eat what we are eating, cook it yourself. That carries an a la carte price of $3.00 per item.
If you get into trouble, call a lawyer.
Oh, the tuition for college is entirely on you, now, son. Wanting to be a man, you surely want to take on this responsibility, too. . . right?
I will always love you. Always. I just figure that if you really want to feel what it's like to make it as a man, your mother and I will help you with that, too. Let us know if there is anything else that you want to discuss. O.K?"

ranger rules. . . good luck with the discussion with your parents.


Keith

 

hey blue ranger, instead of 10 dollars a meal, id go get a 2.99 meal at micky d's
haha

 

move into the dorms at school. You would still be close, but be getting your "freedom" also. Just slowly start breaking away. Don't make your parents angry, just respectfully start doing things on your own. You have to prove to them that you are an adult and can make it. Just because your legally an adult, doens't mean your ready, but you'll never be ready if you don't try!! Good luck!

 

To me this is a bit out of the ordinary, but not everyone has an ordinary life. For all we know your family is either wealthy and you could be a target for kidknapping or has had some sort of threat to it that even you don't know about. These points are pure speculation, but so is the idea that it isn't true.

None of us know anything about you or your responsibility habits or dangers in your area, so none of us should be contradicting anyone's parents. Anyone who jumps up and starts flapping their chops saying that someone's parents are wrong without having the full picture is out of line. .

Back up the wagons and give mom and dad a little bit of credit here. Ranger Rules is obviously a pretty good person and going to college. So how do you suppose Ranger Rules got there? For a child to get to this point and not be into something bad or even dead can be credited to good parents.

So what do you say Ranger Rules? Could you have what you have today and gotten to where you are on your own? Did your parents have anything to do with it?

Maybe I am wrong, but I refuse to place that label on your parents. They just don't deserve that from any of us. That is for you and you alone to do if you wish. I just hope you have already done the right thing and told them how you feel. Children not telling their parents how they feel is just as bad for them as it is for a child to have overprotective parents. Don't forget that no matter what your age, always keep telling your parents how you feel. With respect hopefully.

 

just join the marines. uncle sam will issue everything u need to take care of yourself. thats what i did when i was 17.

 

Ranger Rules, I think you'll do the right thing, according to the situation you're in.

You'll do just fine.

 

Actually they have not contributed that much. What my grants don't cover I usually pay myself, so it's not like I am sticking them with the entire bill.


There aren't any dorms at this school.