Just one tip:

Make sure you have a good phone plan for long distance calls

 

90 miles? If she's that important to you (and it sounds like she is), it's not that far of a drive.

 

Nah its not. But gas being what it is and its real hard to find a job in a college town, especially in a town as small as Stephenville. So its hard to come across money sometimes.

 

Why don't you both drive 45 miles towards eachother, and do something with whatever is there? Could be nice...picnic style or something.

 

90 miles isn't bad but like you said, with gas prices and lack of income, it can be tough. I lived in AZ my whole life, my whole family lives out there and I'm very close with them. So when I met a girl in PA, it made for some tough decisions. We flew back and forth for a couple years before I finally made the move. It was REALLY tough at first, and saying goodbye to my family was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but it's been great being with my girl everyday. Anyways, I'm getting off track here. If your relationship is strong, you two will make it, you just have to trust one another. And college is only temporary anyways, you'll have a whole lifetime ahead of you. Not to mention you have holidays and what not when you two can visit.

 

I had one of couple hunderd miles. We were both working after college. I didn't work out I still married her. I would invest in a good phone plan and a lot of beer. LOL I work contract engineering and haven't had to leave the area we currently live to find work. Luckly so far. Could you both move half way between to help with expences and such. Since your in college it's worse. I was always busy with work or drinking with the boys.

 

I have done this successfully, so far.

I met my wife at an out of state wedding. I lived in LA, she in Seattle. It was a setup...

Anyway, we hit it off real well and kept the relationship alive thru lots of phone calls, intimate letters and monthly visits. This period was probably the most exciting time of my life with many good memories.

We married about 9 months after meeting and have been married for 16 years. There have been ups and downs but as long as both are willing to work on it, the relationship can work.

We had a repeat of the long distance routine this past year. My parents in LA called me back to take over the family business. Because the kids were in school and we didn't want to pull up roots just yet, we kept everyone in Portland Or while I lived with my parents in LA over the past year. Once again, letters, plus email now, and phone calls and monthly visits, kept us going. it was tough but we made it thru and should close escrow this month. The family is with me now in a flea bag hotel, but soon we will have our own home again.

I guess long distance relationships really depend on the couple. It is hard to do, but can be tons of fun. And it can work out. I would only do it if you are serious, otherwise it is a lot of work.

Good Luck,

Jim Henderson

 

Here's my story. My parents always said "Don't go steady (Dad pronounced it 'study' but that's neighter here nor there) with anyone. Date a girl if you like her, and just spend time as friends and with more than just the two of you together." and being 16 and obviously not being swayed by their unrealistic advice I got involved with a girl that was two years my junior. I will say this, I thought she was great. Smart, talented, pretty - she looked similarly to Brooke Shields. Let me just say there were a lot of guys around my little home town that thought I'd gotten just about as lucky as a guy could.

So when I went off to college in Minneapolis (8 hours drive away) things were kind of strained. We lasted until a little after New Years. She dumped me over the phone on a Sunday afternoon. I drove home the following Friday (cut class to get on the road early) and called her house from my house only to find she was out on a date.

A few years later, still sore over the whole thing, I was telling my little sob story and a co-worker told me his story was even tougher than that. He had dated the girl's younger sister. She dumped him by mail while he was in Operation Desert Storm. My little 8-hour drive suddenly seemed insignificant.

My advice for you is... aww do what feels right. If it doesn't work out in the long run, don't beat yourself up over it. If you find a way to make it work, then great. The old adage "Absence makes the heart grow fonder or wander" is true.

 

Thats exactly what she said. I think it will work out. We both admitted that we could see eachother getting married if were still together after college. Ive been told by a few people that when you get around my age (19) dont date a girl unless you can see yourself getting married to her if yall last. Ive kinda stuck but not really.

As for meeting half way....her parents are weird as hell. They took her cell away (I talk to her on the house phone and her moms cell), the got her a car (it was free) and it runs well. But without a liscense she cant drive here. Her parents are mean to her sometimes, and are nice to her when I'm around. Apparently I'm the first guy shes been with that they have aloud up in her room, aloud to have her out later than curfew, aloud to be over when there not home and what not. She said they love me. They even invited me along to the George Strait concert in Houston on Oct. 1st, all expenses paid. I feel bad though, cause I think they should spend the extra money on her. Getting her car tuned up (I offered to do it), getting her liscense, school clothes and what not. But shes happy as hell that I get to go. She is in her SR year in Highschool. She has talked about when she turns 18 getting her transcripts transferred to the highschool down here and moving here. She cant stand her family
I dont know if thats such a hot idea. But they told her that if she can find a place to live shes more than welcome to move out....that aint right.

Whoops, kinda jumped off track...waaaaaaay off track.

 

I look at it this way now(and this is wayyyy off track here), the first love is the love where you are completely trusting, you believe it when the significant other says "I will never break up with you", and yo uare very open with you emotions. The second love is the one where you are on the defense, not being so ignorant, not being as nice, even being mean(lol). hopefully, and I pray this is true, the 3rd time is hopefully the charm, just the right mix of emotions...Sorry to get off track here guys, just wanted to say that...