I am a junior in high school and i'm just not like everyone else,I walk with a severe limp, and have about 60% use of of my right arm.So it has been really rough through school.I don't like crowds.
I have tried to find a girl friend but most are rude an/or take off running? I spend alot of time in the shop with my trucks,and just figured I would try to find someone to share it with and try to change things.Not going to happen!.
Oh well being %^$^45 and single has it's advantages more money in my pocket and more time for my trucks
I think it would be cool to have a girl friend. I don't know iit's going to happen I'm shy and THEY DON'T like me!!

 

Dustin, with all due respect, I think it is a little too early to make that decision regarding girls. From what you are describing, you don't want that chump-change stuff you have been shopping anyway. Man, class attracts class. You stay the classy guy you obviously are and some day (before you croak) you will wish to high heaven you DIDN'T HAVE a girlfriend. . . know what I mean

I hate to break it to you, but high school sucks for everyone - untill about 20 years after you graduate. Then your perspective changes a lot (AGAIN).

FWIW.

 

There is time enough for getting a girlfriend. Girls are interesting critters - they never do what you expect them to, and are not automatically awarded to some lonely guy. Eventually you will find someone who wants to know you. Children are cruel, and it doesn't wear off until you have left school a while.

Take it easy, try to think of something other than girls all of the time (I know, that is impossible) and have fun doing other things. It is so long since I was your age, I have totally forgotten what it was like, so it will pass..

Theo

 

I dunno, i havent had a girlfriend for a couple of months, and i kinda miss having someone to hug and spend alot of time with. The only problem now-a-days is that people are so damn shallow, all the popular girls in our school wear 10lbs of makeup, and go out with a different guy every week, while going to parties and doing drugs. Thats not so cool. I think anyone who cant look past the physical things in a person are a waste of time anyway, and just wind up being a !@#$% Yeah, and having a truck is much more fun to do things with, you can usually spend time with them, they never talk back, they cant tell you what to do, but somtimes they can get a little ornary and not want to cooperate, or they can get broke, but you can fix those laste couple of things. Also, to get rid of your shyness, go out for a play or somthing, it sounds lame, but i was so shy in 7th grade, and i went out for a play, and now i feel relatively comfortable in talking in front of crowds, its amazing.

 

Ah the trials and tribulations of high school. I can say i have been in the same dating position you are in. I never had a girlfriend in high school. i even went to the senior prom by myself. I had just as much fun as everyone else, plus at half the cost. When you are single you have alot more time to do what you want to, not be forced to go to do something with them. one other thing don't try too hard to date one girl, i made that mistake. And learned alot from it. as everyone says, you will find the one just give it time.

Chris

 

Yup, high school is full of vanity(doesn't get any better) Poeple will wisen up once they get to the reality part of life.

Just remember, there is someone for everyone.

 

Dude.....listen women are very interesting. One thing Ive noticed if you try to hard they will somehow pick up on it. The most important thing you can do is be yourself. I know its tough in High School believe me, but you can never be more important to a girl than to yourself (I hope this makes sense). Forget the girls that are into cars and money, concentrate all your efforts into getting into college and then be yourself, the girls there will appreciate your goals and pick up on it. Be yourself is the most important thing I can tell you. You sound like a good guy so go with that.

 

This thread reminds me of a friend I went to high school with. His name was Shannon and he was disabled, not in a wheelchair, though, Shannon had major problems with the tendons in his legs. So when he walked, it looked as if he threw his legs around the side of his body and they just landed out in front of him (yeah, try and picture that). Even though he had a problem, he didn't let it overcome him. He started working on the school paper as a Junior, and found out that he was quite good at it. Even though he was a little shy, he made the best of it, and in the end, had quite a few good friends. Which is more than I can say about myself at the moment. Shannon went on to work for the newspaper in my hometown for a couple years, and has since moved on to a larger paper. He is married, happily I might add, to a wonderful woman, and has two children.
Please do not let a disability or your shyness get you down. Both of these can be overcome, you are the only thing stopping you. Find things that interest you (trucks are a good start) and run with them.

 

Poor boo, I feel your pain. Hang in there though. The fact of the matter is High School blows. It blows plain and simple.

The popularity hierarchy thing is just ridiculous. Its like you have to appease everyone else to hold your "rank". God forbid you do something that could cause you to slip down on the ladder! What crap!

All through high school, guys didn't even look at me twice, couldn't get the time of day from 'em. Save from this greasy, gingerbread man, sleaze ball that fed off of low ranking girls who the other guys ignored.

Saving grace? Graduation!! Outside those doors all that petty high school crap goes away (felt like it for me anyway)! I wouldn't go back if you paid me! No one cares out here! And I don't give a damn about impressing anyone if they did. Ironically enough, its gotten me a lot of attention

So my advice: Hang on, you're almost out of school! I can't guarantee that it will be all rosy and great, but it wont blow like it does now. I feel for ya, lonleys a real B****.

 

well dustin, i think i have a idea where u are coming from, i am in highschool currently a sophmore, i have had experiance with those judgemental, superficial (sp)? girls before, you dont need those kind of girls anyway, i think if u keep being who YOU are and not what u want to be u will be just fine, and trust me, when you get a girl with a personality, its so much more worth it, but i will tell u right now, i have put more time love and pride in my truck than i ever have put in some girl, but like vuduranger26
said remember to be yourself

 

Hey dude, I was in your situation too, Worrying too hard bout gettin me a gf, and tryed to be cool and hang with the popular guys, thru all of grade 9 and 10 I wasted my time doing this. Then at the end of grade 10, I met some guys that were really cool, that I had overlooked before. One didnt even know me and invited me to come over with the rest of the crew for lunch. One thing led to another, and the crew are my best friends, we all love our rides, old cars and trucks, sleds, bikes, ATVs, can talk and laugh always, and just laugh at the 'popular kids' hell, they try hangin with us sometimes! lol We dont care what ppl think, and we're doin alot better by it too.

The disability and shyness? Never let it get in the way. One guy at school is in a wheelchair, and is sooooo shy, and will never talk to you, so he has few friends. We have tried to talk to him, but no luck. Hang around in the auto shop, and you will find some cool friends, and find a chick thats into wrenchin, and you're set!

Good luck!

 

Dude - don't let high school get you down. It's crap; you'll understand what I'm talking about the morning after you graduate. Suddenly, everything that was important to you for the previous four years means nothing.

Here's what you do - walk into every room like you own it. Walk in there like you're baddest SOB ever to terrorize the planet. If somebody tries to make fun of you, or hurt you, call them on it. Walk right up to them and ask them if they have a problem. I can tell you from personal experience, 99% of those punks won't say a word.

In order to command the respect of your peers, you must first command the respect of yourself. Don't hide yourself, don't worry about how others view you - you deserve the same respect as any other human being.

The only person who can decide your value is YOU. Not some meathead football player, or some snotty mall-lurking princess. YOU are the boss, and YOU call the shots. If somebody has a problem with that, then you set them straight.

Don't worry about the ladies - someday you'll find a woman who will treat you right and make you feel like you're walking on air.

Until then, keep your chin up and bleed Ford blue.

Feel free to drop me an email if you need anything.

Regards,

XXL

 

I know how you feel. I didn't have a GF all through High school, and now, compleating my first semester of College, still don't have a GF. I never did go to my high school prom, and reget doing so.
The way I look at it is, even though it's been 5 years since my last GF, that the "day will come".
I'm the shy type, and will usually stand in the corner, and work by myself. Unfourtnally, this is where that got me. Not "going out" with anyone, being a loner, etc. That really sucks. I guess I have to learn to talk, be open, etc. I never had the _____ to ask a girl out. Maybe thats why . .. . . . . .

 

I'm a senior right now and never had a GF, I use to worry about what everybody thought of me and was really kind of shy in 7th grade b/c I was afraid I'd say something stupid and get made fun of.
I ran with a group of cowboy/motorhead friends and we had some good times and still do, but they transferred the start of my junior year and left me with old friends from grade school I didn't know anymore. Well those guys leaving me in the dust was probably the best thing that could have happened to me. I quit caring about stuff my junior year, started being a nice guy to everybody whether I knew them, liked them or not, kept up with my usual jokes in class instead of my school work but easily kept on the honor roll w/ the "help" of new friends, didn't really hate anyone and now I'm pretty much almost everyones friend and can talk to girls without blushing and leave them laughing at something other then me. Appeantly everything I say is funny to people, maybe cuz I apply everything to the farm, but I don't care.
A vehicle can be a touchy issue as I see it, one of my classmates drives a 92 chevy 4x4 that's his dad's and he's a rich little cocky sun of gun and nobody likes him to much. My friend drives a rusty 92 chevy 4x4 and buys everything himself and he's an alright guy. One of my X-friends drives a 96 dodge 4x4 and he's just turned into a cocky jack@$$- touch everybody-lying-sun of gun the last year, I think the truck he bought went to his head, nobody in the whole town likes him. As for me I drive an 86 Ford F-150 4x4 with a 300, that I finally patched all the rust up on, so it's half primer right now, not to flashy, loud though. Anyway a truck is a great hobby and can make you popular for a little while, but it'll wear off and it can suck more money then a GF can if you're not careful. I went to Homecoming for the first time this year instead of "partying", it was pretty boring, not all it's cracked up to be, so you ain't missin much if you don't go (at my school anyway)
I just kinda quit worrying about what everybody else thought and girls for awhile my junior year (just spent the year jackin around and having fun) and now all the sudden this year instead of the girls sitting by other girls in a class they will come and sit down and talk to me, I don't what's going on either, I could ask a lot of them out, but I now I don't know where to start.
My advice, I tried out for the play this year as a joke and got a part as the town drunk, I became friends w/ people I've never even talked to before and I know that "be yourself" slogan sounds like a bunch of bull, but it worked for me. You ever notice the popular kid's sidekick? Nobody really cares about him to much he's just implied cool.
Bring a torch instead of a pile of books to school in the morning. I couldn't even get to my locker before being asked 20 ?'s 20 times(this may only work if your in welding class) and if people make fun off you look at em and laugh it off or just say "huh, I'll be darned" or something and act really uninterrested, they get tired of it real quick, because it's no fun if you don't snap back at em for them.

Redneck-Cowboy

That's my 2 cents and "more"

 

Dustin,
When I was in high school I never had a Girlfriend. I was always too busy working on the vehicles, hanging out with friends, school work, etc. Don't worry about looking for a girlfriend.. there is so much time! I'm not sure what your plans are after high school, but in college there will be so many activities to get involved with and so many other women (new faces!) that you are bound to meet someone. I don't think I had my first girlfriend until a year or three after school.

Do not think for a second that your disability will hamper your ability to meet girls. As you said, high school is hell. I've had more than my share of receiving end of bullies, etc. Luckily, most or all of that stays at high school. My fiancee has a disability as well (She has cerebal palsy), and I've heard her stories at school. Kids can be very cruel. I see the people I want to see from high school.. the rest I can care less about. If someone isn't willing to look past your disability.. well then they aren't worth the time. There are so many other levels of attraction - conversation, interests, hobbies, attitude, outlook on life, etc that matter.

So keep working on that truck, get good grades.. and just be yourself. You've got plenty of time!!