Look on the bright side... at least you didn't get the turkey drop.

For those who don't know what that is... Turkey Drop is a term for Thanksgiving break, because no matter how committed you think you are out of high school, you mature (most of you, anyway) at break-neck speed those first couple of months in college and most couples don't make it past Thanksgiving break, when they usually would finally get to come home and see each other. Even people who end up going to the same school do it!

From the sounds of it, maybe she wanted to break up for a while and found this to be a good opportunity. I'd do it. Breaking up is really hard, so any irreconcilible difference I could find would be as good a reason as any to give for ending a relationship. Keep in touch though, just in case. And because you probably know each other so well, you are really good friends and can help each other through your first tests, roommate problems, major changes, and finals. Who knows? You might find that you've grown to value each other more through your college time apart? Not that you should talk to her only for that specific reason. Good luck with your classes and the ladies!

 

I don't have any advice that wasn't said already, but welcome to Miwaukee, and congrats on Marquette! Does that school have a name yet?

 

yeah we kept the golden eagles but now they're gonna give us a new mascot and our two choices are pretty horrible! well thanks for the advice guys! i knew you guys would have something to say! thanks a bunch!


adam

 

Take it from a girl. she probably already has some one else in mind. and well I wouldn't try to keep in contact, cause if she wants to stay in contact let her make the first move. yeah break ups hurt. And trust me I found out that my now ex was engauged to his so called ex, and was living at my house. so I threw him out. But don't dwell on her. yeah you might have been dating for a year and a half. but most of the time when she brings up the break up, she has all ready been trying to catch some other guy. I used to be the same way. But hang in there. there are lots of girls. I can't stress it enough to let her make the first move on the "keep in contact" thing. cause if she really wants to keep in contact she will. Don't make it look like you are desperate, that is a big turn off to any girl. It tends to give off the wimp vibe. If she thinks that you can do just fine with or with out her, it make you more intising to her. and if you act like its not that big of a deal that you are single now, then they tend to want to come back. look at it as more of a test. trust me the real her will come out. but really when a girl says "lets break up, and we might get back together after college". it will never happen. played that line my self. but I'm not in college, and around your same age. so yes I do know the games that we girls play on you guys. I don't play them any more though. just a waste of time. and Its really childish of us girls. but yeah, let her be the one to make contact. take it from a 20 year old girl. been there, done that.