ok well my girl friend and i have started college now. well she doesnt leave until saturday but ive been gone for about a week now. she thought it would be better if we broke up before we went off to school and we could see how things went from there. i guess its kinda smart, but i still hate the idea. i want to be able to see her but we're 5 hours apart and i dont have a car and there's no way she's gonna be able to come down here cause she just doesnt have the money.

so it just devasted me when we offically "broke up." i know i just started high school and ive got my whole life ahead of me but everything seemed so great. im just really worried that things will never go back to being what they used to be.

i guess i just wanted to rant and get that all off my chest. well if anybody has dealt with this kind of stuff any advice would be great! thanks guys

adam

 

You don't want a girlfriend when you go to college! Live it up, this will be one of best periods of your like, take advanage of it.....but don't get kicked out either

If she was the one with the break up idea, that would make me suspicious.
Just let it roll off your back and cheer up, easier said than done, but you gotta do it. Long distance relationships don't work anyway.

 

I can't second this enough... Go to schoool with a toolbox (everyone needs a screwdrivver (or in my case cordless sawzall) for something.... Leave your door open, meet people.

I was SUPER SHY in highschool, went to college and made 50 freinds on my floor, and a hellova lot more on campus.

also, my sister and her boy (3 yr relationship) broke up the summer before. they are each in relationships now

 

Enjoy the new college life thats about to start for you. While it might be tough for you now, you should be excited about what is in store for you. You too will grow in so many ways, you will have so many opportunities to meet new friends. You dont have to say goodby but get ready for change, which is not a bad thing, just a little scary. Keep each other posted about things, or to say hello. I hope you have a greate college expereince. Dave P.

 

Play the field.

 

yeah i know. everyone says to play the field and it'll probably end up happening. then we'll see whats up in a while.

i think the breaking up thing was more of her ma's idea. i think her ma hates me. even over a year ago, when we had been goin out for a long time she never wanted rachel hangin out with me! its not like we were bad either. rachel is a great girl and im a good nice guy too, i never did anything too horrible. yeah i did some dumb things but never anything like cheating or any crap like that. so ive just assumed for the past year and a half that her ma hated me. so i think part of all this is her fault but we'll see how everything works out!

adam

 

Enjoy the new college life thats about to start for you
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His post stated ... He just started High School.



IMO, you are way too young to worry about Female relationships.

Getting thru High School un-scathed will be a miracle.


I'll be back with a quote.

 

no no no sorry man! didnt mean to say high school! im startin college up at marquette university! sorry!

adam

 

Still, and I hate to say it this way, but at your age you shouldn't tie yourself down to one person. When I say play the field, I'm not talking about just sex. I'm referring to get to know a lot of different women. Date several. Get to know what kind of person you are compatible with. Have fun. Then when you are ready to settle down, you'll be able to make a better choice as to who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I remember at that age some kids tended to find someone and start dating exclusively and get way too serious at way too young an age. Trying to grow a relationship at the same time you're training for a career is often too much.

Breaking up hurts. A lot. But stick it out. You'll be fine and you'll meet other wonderfull women. And if your old girlfriend's Mom was a problem, remember, if you marry your old girlfriend sometime in the future, you're also marrying the rest of her family (her mom included).

 

There are over 3 Billion people on this rock. Over half of them are female. Believe me when I say there is at least one other one you could like just as much. Besides, it would have ended anyway. This way it sounds like you don't hate each other, so summers might be fun. Good luck.

 

Heart ache sucks and no matter how hard it is to believe right now, it will be OK. Remember the good times, but don't dwell on them. At least it was an amicable break up. If you would have tried to stay together it most likely would have ended in a bitter break up with a good possibility of betrayal. She made a wise choice.

When I was in the Navy I had a girlfriend that went to college. She went North to Chico, CA. and I went south to San Diego. We were naive and thought that love would make it last. We were broken up within two months and I never saw her again. She broke up with me and it hurt, but I understood. We did keep in touch with occasional e-mails and phone calls through the next few years until she met a guy while living in Switzerland. She was a great girl and I don't regret anything.

You will get past it and meet other girls. Have a great time in college!

 

Hey man, go out there and have a blast. You don't need to get yourself tied down right out of high school. In about four years, your going to look back and notice how different of a person that you are. The last thing your going to want to do is be in a relationship with someone 5 hours away when all your buddies are with their girlfriends all the time.

- Chris

 

Let me tell you something man...5 hours away is a huge difference, and is too large of a gap to try and keep a relationship alive. When you get to college, especially a large one, you'll, find yourself not thinking about her at all. There will be a ton of girls. Also, people change, and in my experience, these next few years will have the most change. MARK MY WORDS. Next year, your girlfriend will be a totally different girl, and you will be a totally different guy, and it'll happen more and more over time. Keep friends, but don't dwell on being back together. I think it's safe to say that it won't happen, at least for awhile. You don't want to be the lame guy dwelling over a ex-girlfriend who may have already moved on (which sounds like a distinct possibility since she brought up the idea). That will ruin you on the Girls' Network (Girls know everything about eachother and the guys in their lives...personal theory) and you'll have an even harder time finding a new girl.

Watch the changes take place. In you, your friends, and your ex. Not necesarily bad changes or good changes, though some will be good or bad, just different. Life happens to the best of us brother, don't try and stop or slow it down, or it'll run right over you. Hang on, and enjoy the ride...you'll be on it for awhile.

 

All above post's are correct - have fun - get a good education
And why take sand to the Beach !!!!! lol

 

how does the saying go? if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be.. if they dont hunt them down and kill the @%#$*&!!!!!!!!!
seriously tho if it is meant to be with her somehow this will work out if not well maybe take a listen to Garth Brooks, Unanswered Prayers song