I have to kick in here. When I was 14-15 (freshman in highschool and I'm 19 now) I met a really beautiful girl, I fell in love with her from day 1. We were really close until last summer. She had all kinds of problems/baggage. Her dad beat her, her mom hit her occasionally, dad basically out of the picture most of the time, brother died at a young age, best friend moved to AZ, at 16 she was in an abusive relationship (shes 2 hrs older then me so this was around the time I met her) in which she got pregnant and her bf punched her and killed it. She tried to kill herself twice. Now I know this is extreme, but follow me because the rules still apply. Girls like this take friendships and any kind of relationships very seriously. They look for people to support them, and guys are subconciously considered/viewed as father figures. Now they don't realise what they're doing, but they stick to guys for emotional support and help. They are the type of girl that gets obsessed with a guy. I cared about this girl more than anything, she was a huge part of my life over the 6 years I knew her.

I wish I never met her. I finally had to let her go because she hurt me too many times. She had a lot of respect and care for me but she still hurt me anyway, over and over. She had a huge influence on my life in a negative way and I will never ever get serious with someone who has problems again. There is a reason why a lot of these guys are telling you to run for the hills. They went through the same type of event as I did and learned the hard way. Nice guy finishes last, and avoid your temptations. I would not date this girl and suggest you don't either. My friend is in a similar situation as I was and you would be in in about 3-4 years of being with this girl. His ex gf has baggage and doesn't have her life together at all. It brings him down to her level and screws him up. As much as he tries (and I did w/ my situation) you can't make this girl turn into someone without baggage or eliminate the problem. The damage has been done. Now this might seem extreme (my story definitely is compaired to yours) and might not seem relevant. But if you ever watched that show with Dr. Drew and Adam on MTV a few years ago called loveline, all he ever asked girls with problems is about their history and their father. Take my information for what it's worth, but try not to learn the hard way like I did. It tore my life apart and I know you don't want to either. Find a nice girl to bring home, I am. Good luck to you and I wish you the best!

 

MY Opinion is:
we have 2 different people here that nodody really knows & most of the feedback given to him is about Treading softly & carefully in un-chartered waters.

People who have never experienced something like this, need to.
I still think the best approach is Keep your wits about you ,don't fall prey to the hormone's racing through your blood stream.

Always Keep your head up & your stick on the ice.
{Red Green}

 

And about physical looks, everyone just remember this: Beauty fades, but dumb is forever.

 

good cookin' lasts forever!!!!

 

I'd say it depends how big her ***** really are.

 

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I have to agree on this completely. I personally feel she is using you. She may like the idea of you and/or a relationship but not the reality. It would be a short, intense relationship that will probably end in a bitter way for both of you. She will end up feeling like you used her and maybe even tell others you did EVEN though SHE is the agressive one in the beginning. *sigh* It's complicated because she doesn't even realize she may have a problem, so being up-front about things will not work. TRUST ME ON THIS, I acted like that when I was younger. Only being independent, buying her own things, following the rules, etc. will help her. No one can be her Superman, no matter how much they may want to be.

 

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