Last Saturday I went to my 25th year High School reunion. The only real reason I went was to see if this one particular Woman would be there, if she was, would she bring her husband or if she would be alone or if she was married at all. Mainly because the last Reunion this woman seamed to pay a lot of attention to me for some strange reason! Her wearing a ring an all makes that strange to me at least.

Back to last Saturday, She was there, She was alone, and She was still wearing a ring. I was talking to some of my old buddies and she came over asked how I was doing, she was basically asking me because when they began to speak she would cut them off and ask me another question. That went on for a couple of questions until my buddies just quit trying to answer. After I guess she was satisfied. She walked away and my buddies were talking trash about me and her before she got 10 feet. I told them, in High School the only thing she ever said to me was F-U or Get lost!

The Reunion went on we sat at separate tables, she won least changed person, She was a Cheerleader in High School, and collage. She won the Miss (USC, TEXAS, AUBRUN, Fill in the space with that type of Collage because I can’t tell which collage) for a year at The Collage she went to. Needless to say, She is still a very attractive woman.
After the Slide show they had a dance. She didn’t dance with anyone neither did I. At about 10:30 she came over and said it was really nice to see you again, I’m really glad you came tonight. I reciprocated, then she said it was getting late and it was a long way back to (fill in the blank town about 30 miles from where we were) I was set back a little because in my opinion the way she asked it, she was asking for my company, She didn’t talk to 2 other men that night that I could tell,( I was busy going back and forth trying to catch a little of the Georgia Game.) And She was still wearing that ring, so all I could say was maybe we will see each other sooner then 5 years from now.

Here is the Dilemma, I don’t know if this woman is married. (She does have a married last name and a ring to go with it.) If she is she clearly didn’t know what she was saying or she doesn’t really care about her marriage, where was the Husband?

If she wasn’t wearing that ring I had already planned on what I was going to tell her. BUT

I don’t really care for jealous husbands pointing Firearms in my direction.

What would you have done?

 

I would spent more time with her during the time there.

Missed opportunity that would have made the question :" How have things been going in your life ...are you Married ....do you have children ..... what did you do after college....etc ?" a LOT easier to get through than asking anytime now.

I would have tactfully "Seized the moment" with her if you're that interested.

Dancing with her would have provided enough time for a few Q's.

Some women wear rings to keep the average man away...some even continue to wear them after they become a widow.

Then again,This was HER school reunion..and she may be married .....and a lot of men don't go to school re-unions.

Maybe Right now think about what she may be thinking of you for not showing that much interest

 

Ask her if she's married......Maybe she only had it on to deter other suitors and hoped you two would click......If she says she's married....you'll have to make your own decision.......if not....I say go for it like a 2-ton bull going for a piece of red cloth....You're obviously obsessed with this woman, so live for today and see what happens....She obviously dug you, and if she went to one reunion with no escort in tow...then went to that second one with no escort (husband or other) in tow (obviously, after stating that you weren't sure after the first one if she was even married or not), then don't pass up the chance......Sounds like you've had this girl in the back of your mind (at least) since you were 18..........If I knew then what I know now...(you know the rest)....

 

"You're obviously obsessed with this woman,"

Obsessed No, Peaked Curiosity, yes.

"Sounds like you've had this girl in the back of your mind (at least) since you were 18."

Nope, if I would have met her on the street 6 years ago I would have drawn a blank. We were in 2 different crowds in High school!!

She actually lives in the same small town I my X wife is from and now lives in. I didn't know that until Saturday!

 

Question 1, YOu came alone, didn't your husband come last time?

Question 2, Would you like to dance?

 

Stick with women at least 15 years younger than you.

Did you get a number or an address?

And what is it?

 

First, are you married or in a "committed relationship"? If so, forget the whole thing and get on with your life.

Second (assuming you're not married), you stated "The only real reason I went was to see if this one particular Woman would be there ...", and that sounds to me like you'd like a relationship with her but you couldn't work up the courage to really talk with her to "test the water". Are you intimidated by her, as you probably were in high school (most boys were intimidated by most girls, at least in my experience)? Come on, now!! You're both about 40 years old, and have "been around the block a couple of times" here, so intimidation should no longer be a factor. You missed several ideal chances to find out her situation (dancing, talking off in a corner somewhere, or chatting over a drink).

In my opinion you can have "one more crack at it", if you really want to take the bull by the horns and not wait another five years. Find out where she lives, and get her phone number (you might be able to get it from the organizers of the reunion, or go to www.whitepages.com for the city where she lives). Call her. Right up front, tell her you are and ask her if this is a good time for her to talk for a little bit, or would there be a better time for you to call back (shows consideration for her time). You're going to get either a "YES, I can talk now", a "Call me back at a specific time later", or a "no, and don't call me back at all". If her response is the last one (which seems unlikely from her actions at the reunion), the situation is known immediately and her marital status is a mute point. If not, then ask her what she's been doing since graduation. and say you've been thinking about having seen her at the reunion and that you wish you would/could have spent more time talking with her but you also wanted to talk with a number of others and there wasn't enough time to do both --- yada, yada, yada. That should open her up enough so you can eventually ask if she's married, but she'll probably bring that up voluntarily in the conversation somewhere along the line anyway. If she doesn't, ask her.

A round-about way of finding out if she's married or not, is to ask someone you know that she spent time talking to at the reunion. Perhaps one of the organizers of the reunion can tell you, from the registration she sent it. However, this is a rather under-handed way of doing business, in my book. Why not be forthright about it all, and just give her a call?

Remember: "To try something and to fail is to learn. To fail to try is to suffer the consequences of never knowing what might have been" - Rudyard Kipling

Personally, I'd rather be remorseful about something I did than to be remorseful about something I didn't do.

Good luck with whatever you decide. Keep us posted, please.

 

Hmmm..... I agree with the "would have spent more time with her" school of thought. If you live in the same small town, you'll probably run into each other again. Just ask about the ring- fer pete's sake, we're all old enough now not to beat around the bush.

Oh yeah, take a few pics too, so the forum can make an objective analysis.

 

Since you said X wife I would guess then that you aren't married so unless you are in a committed relationship I would try to find out more. Since you know what town she lives in you have a good chance of finding her phone number and can call and see what happens. If she is married then to me you walk away.

 

Actually I think that was his original intention. And I thought in the NWC you claimed that you were NOT too old for this Ernie?

Don't be so bashful, just ask. Worst thing that can happen is she says "Screw you!" and walks away. It would be one thing if it was a co-worker or someone else you had to deal with on a daily basis but if it's a person you only see once every 5-10 years (by choice) then what have you got to lose?

 

Not to bust any bubbles. But if I read the original email correctly. She was very mean to you during highschool? Maybe she remembers that, and is remorseful, and is trying to make up for it by being nice to you now? That wouldn't be the way I would handle it, but I've had that happen to me by people who I have bumped into.
Just a thought.

 

No Ivan- we were talking about riding bikes.

If I understand correctly, MobeyDick is trying to establish whether this is a display only model, available for demo rides, or looking for a new owner.

 

well she's definately interested in you! but seems to be feeling you out before she makes a move. my theory is-- after you explained that she was like miss popular way back when, is that woman like this sometimes get hooked up with guys who were popular in school but no so much the right guy and they usually are treated like crap, then they relize after many years that they should have went after the nice guys who would treat them right!
i've seen many woman who went out with these guys only to get stuck with losers!!
seems like she's ready to make a move but a little reluctant until she is sure she'll be accepted ( by you)?

 

I think since you and she have a common language, it might be best that you simply ask her what you want to know. Being bashful is common in high school but you both are beyond that point and if you are truly interested, step up and find out if the door is open or closed ...... I have found that I regret the things I didn't do much more than things I did. Good luck.

 

Come on hawk....that shouldn't happen 'til after the first dance. Be nice...