@SCStroker01 Holy crap! That video explains it all. But it could offend some women (except Unicorns).
So, I can see why he is armed...

@F250_ Pete, do you want to adopt @timmyboy76 ?

@timmyboy76 My suggestion: Find a women with low expectations. I wouldn't be married if my wife didn't have low expectations when I met her.

 

What's this like a "if a tree falls in the woods" type question?

 

This helps ram home the point of just how few women there are out there that are really marriage material. A good woman can a valuable asset to a man despite what some of the more jaded men will tell you. But a bad one will ruin your life.

 

There is some really good input here with good stories. Makes a man see that we don't go through this stuff alone or that it's always true that "no one gets it". I appreciate the transparency from you guys.

 

I’m getting so old now that I don’t remember if I came up with this little parable or heard it from a friend, but there’s some truth to it:

Women are like parking spaces...all the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.

Good luck timmyboy!

 

I really have to comment on this one, my friend. My wife is one of those unicorns who is one of the wisest, most patient, most loving, most honest, most discreet, and most of all the best things a woman can be. She has EXCEPTIONALLY HIGH expectations of herself first, and it is her patience and love which are the only reasons we are still married after 33 years! I'll be completely honest here, too, in that I recognize how the Good Lord works through her to make me a better man, and that I cannot continue becoming a better man without her in my life helping point the way. And it's not that she dictates much of anything to me, either. She does demand honesty, but it's the kind of honesty where you have to be honest with yourself FIRST about who you really really are deep down inside... only then can you (me) find a way upward to something better! If she was a "low hurdle" woman, I would be way up ***** creek by now and would have driven her away long ago! She's a very strong woman who spent too many years putting up with my immature BS, but she wants me to be who I want to be, and does not try to change me into her idea of who I am or should be at all!

I say... Marry UP and be sure that you match up in your basic life priorities and values! It takes courage and can be a hard thing to live with day-to-day because you are continually faced with your own inadequacies. However, if you're both committed to making it work and staying honest with yourself and each other. and being humble about your inadequacies... it leads to a more deeply satisfying life over the long haul.

 

@F250_ Pete: Ditto sir. Along with telling her that I love her daily, I count my blessings that she could see the good in me and lowered her expectations to take me to make me a better man...

@timmyboy76 : You're gonna see the good if you're good at looking...



Edit: and Go Trump!

 

Pete, I could not have said it better myself. Except we have been married 20 years.

Wise words sir!

 

Tim, I'm sorry your going through this.....
Keep your chin up and do what is right, you'll come out on the other side just fine.

 

"If it's got **** or tires, sooner or later there's gonna be trouble."

 

I've been around the block and Ill tell y'all a secret on woman, they like azz-holes/jerks but like a soft and confident man as well so you got to be both. If you are too soft to them bet your *** she will look somewhere else for that bad boy, but if your too controlive or are an A-hole all the time guess what she will look for.... A sensetive guy.

 

Hey fellas..
If smart enough or knew how to multi quote, id pay respects to each and every one of your inputs. Its definitely appreciated.
I wish i can vommit words out to express my sicere for your all well wishes like Tugly and Y2 can do with words. (i no im missing a few more out there, no disrespect), but to go off what our boy BB said..this brotherhood goes deeper then imagined. Hell, ive received more love from people ive never met..(you good fellas) than i had from my own family...go figure. Even showed a buddy all the well wishes...
Not sure want went wrong this time, but you can gaurentee its not happening again. Atleast from same woman..lol
So...doing great, paps rebounding like no one could imagine, even though the fluid buildup will "take him" and were making do...just crazy, in a matter of 3mon, god forbid something happens to pap but, since xmas ive lost the daughter to her mom, the wife that should never have that title and my grandfather....time to fish.

 

Verily indeed my Brother.
May you be caught.

 

Tim,
Adam is on the right track. Women like a challenge just like men do. If a woman is “easy” regardless of your definition, typically a guy loses interest quickly!
Now, think about how many times on an average weekend, the average woman is told: how hot she is, how good-looking she is, is offered a free drink, blah blah blah blah blah. They hear the same lame lines all the time from the same lame easy guys! Don’t be that easy guy, make a woman work for your attention.
If you go out somewhere and a woman asks you a question, it doesn’t matter what the question is, if you immediately answer it, there’s no intrigue, no mystery you’re just “another easy boring guy”. If on the other hand you present a challenge, by not directly answering the questions or you make her work for the answer and at the same time making her laugh there’s a sense of mystery or intrigue, AND there’s suddenly a challenge to the typical Guy chases Women routine, you’re making her do the chasing.
If she asks if you want to buy her a drink… Ask her why would I buy you a drink? Make her answer your question! Keep in mind just about every single (easy) guy in the bar would buy her a drink hoping they’ll get lucky for the night, you don’t want to be that guy! You want to give the impressive you have options and you’re not desperate, even if you are!

The woman I am dating now and have been for the last five years, initially asked me out twice and both times I told her I had plans already, I didn’t. She got pissed and told me she was not going to ask me out a third time, when I said that’s too bad. She said why? I said because the third times typically a charm with a smirk on my face. She cracked up laughing, called me an A-hole and proceeded to ask me out again. . She calls me her favorite A-hole because I challenge her, make her occasionally work for my attention but at the same time knows in her heart I love her and would die protecting her. I know guys hit on her all the time, guys with more money, better looking but she’s earned my trust and I’ve earned hers...

Be a Gentleman but remember a Gentleman is simply a patient wolf!

I have several “rules” when it comes to dating or marriage and they are nonnegotiable!
1) If you cheat it’s over, once a cheat always a cheat!
2) If you think you can do better than me by all means go! BUT if you leave The does door lock behind you!
3) Yes, you’re expected to pay your way along the way...
4) Trust is earned and fragile don’t lose mine.

 

Tried to PM you but your box is full.

I've been there myself and it frickin hurts. I couldn't even sit next to a woman for a year.