No pastor , no nobody but Johns call and it was cut short when she came in to move more of her stuff out. She basically said that there are other men that want her and the can go all the way, And that it was to late for us as she likes her freedom. She said I have to be gone and if the only way out was to do it than just do it and leave her alone. But she is not alone in this I am. The computer is in her house and I wont take it with me So this is good by for tonight if I an still kikking in the am. Thanks to all that wish to help.

 

You know,..... I have to add something here about people with their thoughts on sex in marriage.

I have a friend who walked out on his wife after 24 years marriage because she didn't want to have sex anymore..she is 8 years his senior at 63 at the time.

I was throughly digusted with his attitiude and I hold him so.
I told him basing relationship's on sex is a very shallow thing to do and always has been.
He found a younger woman immediately after leaving and he found this new thing quite satisfying.
I did ask him several times though how would he feel if his wife left him for this reason ?
He never answered me for some reason.

I told him I will watch for the day a shallow woman you felt so good with throws you to the pit because you can't put out anymore.

So .....You gotta just believe me when I tell you there are a LOT of women out there that are more in tune with their heart's than than there Libido.

Physical impairments happen to many... I beleive the true heart is worth more.

You will survive from this show of selfishness and it will make you stronger person.

Keep your head up and ALWAYS KNOW that you have some of the most compassionate people on the planet feeling your pain and hoping to guide you thru it to a more fruitful life.

Hang in there Buddy..,.we're all in this together !

 

I am complacent, but agree with Gorilla1:

I have not gone through Iraq or Desert Storm... but heed his words. Arctic... You know the warzone I went through. I am willing and ready to go get you. Be damned the consequence of my actions. I live in WA and I'm the closest to him I guess.

Richard lives on an island, hard to get to. Especially when your hurting physically. John cannot cross through the Canadian border for facts listed in previous posts- WA FTE. I need to take a big ferry across the waters to Alaska, get him, and bring him back to us.

If anyone has a better plan please make your peace heard. Any help is much appreciated- (plan of action and such)

 

How about an FTE Operation that involves a group of people extricated him from Alaska and conveying him south by truck.. say 100 miles at a time by a member.
I'm willing to do Edmonton to Calgary (180 miles) for him if he comes this way.

 

I can get to Bellingham. After that it is a really bad situation. Arctic. PLEASE!! What Mil1ion said is so true! I am fighting with a keyboard, I want to choke you out right now and pull you into my cab to go home. Please, be my friend, I love you guy!

I can get farther if need be. Remember Liz? She is fighting for you everyday!, Remember Nubee from Nevada??? He calls me to find out how you are!

 

I'm in the midwest, but I could chip in for gas or whetever else is needed

 

I don't mean harsh for I too have seen dark days in my life but, when God placed these children in your heart...it stopped being about just you.

Look to those that love you...to show you what love is.

 

Amen. And if I can get on this chatroom, with all my security down...


Is it all about you bud??

 

I'm more than happy to chip in for gas or anything else any of ya'll need to help him out, and I'd be happy to drive, though I can't see him finding his way to Dallas for some reason.

Take care Arctic, I got my eye on you buddy. We all do.

 

Arctic!!! Heed these words of kw!

I know you are in great pain, physically and emotionally. And I know that your situation is yours not anyone elses, and that we cannot fully understand. But each person who has thought of suicide has shared a commonality.

And that commonality is a mind that is so tormented that a most selfish act...taking yourself away from those who love you...becomes justified as "doing the right thing for the others". NO!!!

I've been in the dark pit before, and it it just plain FTE STAFF NOTE: Keep it clean with your mind. So does being alone. So does chronic pain. So does not eating.

While there may be justification for suicide, you cannot be sure you are clear about this. And you cannot be clear when you are hurting like this.

All this CAN and WILL pass. Listen to your daughter's actions, she loves you. Please wait for your friends. Wait for your mentor. Mill1ion is right about the relationship thing.

Just...hang...in...there. Please

 

Check your PM's oneminizut. I'll be back online in the morning.

 

Hey arctic, I dont know a whole lot about ya, or about your whole situation. Pretty much just know ya from the sask and bc chapter. Ya seem like a pretty good guy though, and ya seem pretty smart. I think ya need to sit down and think about some things though. I know you have probably heard it before, but there is other fish in the sea. It sucks thinking about it like that, I know, but thinking like that will keep a man sane.

Sounds like your going through a tough assed time though. If ya need help and ya figure i can help at all, let me know, dont be shy to ask.

If ya want advice on how to get through your situation, throw me a PM. Im not joking when I say this, but I can help ya figure a way to solve any life problem you have.

Just dont ask me how to get better fuel economy from your 390

 

Several of us spent time with Arctic in the chat room tonight... When I told him I was sending a few bucks his way, he perked up and started talking about how he'd like to fix his boat. He talked to the guys about engine stuff... it was warming to my heart and made me cry. He even got a bite to eat... it was evident that his mood improved quit a bit. He finally has something to look forward to. I'm glad!

I'm not asking anybody to send Arctic (Richard Cottrell) money... I'm explaining his remote location and what I am doing. He only gets mail twice a week and town is a two hour drive for him. I am wiring him money in the morning to the Thompson House in Craig, Alaska ~ (907) 826-3394. This is the only place that accepts Western Union that is even remotely close to him. He is planning on picking it up around 11:00 his time. I'm Pacific, and he's one hour behind me... I don't care how he spends the money and I know I will never see it again. So be it... It is not a loan, it's a gift. He can fix his boat or buy supplies or gas or food, whatever... It's his to use how he needs. I'm posting this in case anybody else was wanting to do the same ~ this is a set time and place that we will know his whereabouts. Nothing like a project to take your mind off things...

I love you Tricky!!!!

 

Richard, we (somehow) haven't been in contact much on here. I sure have been thinking about you these last couple days though. I'm no expert in this stuff, I can't claim to help much or have any better advice than the other kind folks have posted.

You opening up like this has brought back many bad memories from these situations (this is not in any way saying you shouldn't have, they get triggered rather easily anyway). My circle of friends has had more than it's fair share of suicides (that was very hard to type).

I just ask this of you. Please don't.

Right now, I want nothing more than to see more of your words appear on this forum.

On a lighter note, and sorry if I missed it, what sort of boat do you have? Some of my best memories in life were on the water, maybe hearing about yours can bring those up instead.

 

It's an old 78 enclosed cabin FiberForm. with a 351W. It's just so close to being fixed (like me) that I just can't pull the plug on it yet. Did finely come up with a name The MV Doghouse. Thanks for the visit in the chat room folks and know that the hot dog is still killing me.