Man, I just got off the phone with my Ma.

4 conversations about dinner on Tuesday. I could not get there on Father's day to see POP. So, we are going to have dinner at their place on Tuesday.


"I have a coupon for a honey baked ham" Loving son replies.

Dad can't eat ham. Mom. "that upsets your Fathers stomach and it's too much cholesterol for me"

I have some monster 2" chops in the fridge. Can Dad eat Pork Chops? Hang on I'll ask your Mother, Dad responds! AHHHHHHHHH

Well Dad can, but Mom can't. Cole slaw, "oh Steven, I can't but your father can have a bite".

Hot dog's OK ma? "they give us heart burn".

"Burgers?" I said.

"we ran out of gas for the grill and can't get any before payday." Mother said.

Loving Son, "I'll bring a gas bottle."

I finished the conversation with: "I'll bring the sick infant diet Ma, the BRAT DIET!!" "Bannana's, Rice, And, Toast"

"Oh, stop, we're not that bad"


AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH


Is this, please, familiar to anyone else? Am I the only one???????

AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH AAQAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Oh, almost forgot. I made a salad last night. Cucumbers, Green Peppers, Onions, Celery and Tomatoes with a Balsamic Vinigrete dressing.

"oh, we can't eat that!!!!!" WHAT, YOU MADE THAT FOR ME AS A KID. WHERE THE &*() DO YOU THINK I LEARNED IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Mother replied. "It gives us heartburn"

OMG, They are in their early 60'S (they had a young start, both kids out of the house by the age of 43) but ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, they have been on the rocking chair on the front porch for 30 bloody years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

did my parents(r.i.p. dad) give birth to you... that sounds very familure

 

im 42 and about a year ago i sold my house in NJ and moved back to myparents house in Brooklyn because they are 81 years old and lived alone. Dad was a stroke victim 4 years back and mom has autonomic dysfunction.. she passes out for no apparent reason, and being neither can do much of anything and they refuse to have anyone in and dont want alot of help it was kinda important to get back there cause they are in failing health and both also have early dimentia. Especially since my wife was diagnosed with cancer , both have done all they can to drive me up the wall. Sue needed chemo and to go to the doctor, my parents needed something immediately.. they have run me ragged in the last year. Lately when i try to go away with Sue , its always a story about how they wont be able to survive for a couple of days despite ten nenigbors having keys and the phone number...
All i can say is that im trying my best here but i sure hope that it gets easier over time

 

I'm on both sides of this one. I'm just this side of 61, and the ol' tum tum
gives me far more grief than it used to. So, it gets a little harder -- especially if you have something like diabetes. Now that they have more tests, they're finding that a lot of people have type 2 (non insulin) diabetes.

But, we do try to remember that our kids are adults with lives of their own. So, we try to work with them.

And I can sympathize with the other side. I hope that I don't do this as I get older, but we had ( and are still having to some extent), some interesting experiences.

My sainted mother, before she passed, had a couple years with relatively severe issues. BUT, she wouldn't try assisted living, she damn sure wouldn't go in a home, and she wouldn't even wear a medic alert button.

It seems as we age, we get more insecure -- especially if dementia sets in. This seems to really skew the way we look at things. Everybody says that they don't want to be a burden -- but, I've seen the attitude change first hand -- in several cases.

I can only offer this to the original poster -- mom and pop may not be able to eat things that were there favorites when you lived at home -- and they probably miss them. But, maybe you can talk to mom about menus in general when there's nothing coming up. Then maybe you can have a few options.
Ask mom -- because pop probably won't know.

ford2go

 

I guess my vent was based on this! Last time I had dinner with the parents (4 months ago) Mom served a baked ham, mixed fresh veggie salad with oil and vinaigrette dressing. Prior to that, Hot dogs.

Just was a very tough phone call with her trying to set up a simple dinner. I'll go and eat cereal if that is what she wants. lol

 

My mom, step dad, and younger brother are all diabetics. On top of that my step dad has heart problems so it is very interesting setting something up with them. I like going to their house though, looks like they are running an in home pharmacy LOL. My real dad and step mom have their own share of problems but the food issue isnt as bad, besides the actual food that my dad wants to eat, like brains and eggs and pickled pigs feet and tongue etc...

 

Yeah older parents can be quite contrary. We are still trying to figure out a good restaurant that will keep my dad happy so he can take my oldest son out for his graduation dinner. He graduated from intermediate school LAST SUMMER.

My dad doesn't like this, allergci to that, doesn't like those people, yadda yadda. Jeez.

At least in my mind my dad is the stereotypical crochetty old man. My mom is the old fashioned housewife who doesn't go against the old man's wishes.

Both are extreme couch potatos and there are certain hours when we should not visit since it will interfere with their TV time.

All I can hope is that when I get old I won't be as crochetty. But sometimes I see my father's characteristics in myself, scary.

The Eskimos had the right idea on handling elders. ;^)

Jim Henderson

 

Take them out to eat. That way everyone gets what they want. I'm sure there will be some complaining though.

 

Don't ham and pork chops come from the same animal?