Ok,forgive the silly teenage topic and tolerate my post for a minute. going on my 1st date tonight in 7 years and need to know should I buy roses the 1st date or is that a little to aggressive? I really like the lady a lot,this is not going to be a one night stand deal if things work out. Sorry,just looking for a little advice,kinda rusty on dating etiquette(sp?). Been a long time since i been on a "date" that didn't include lots of alcohol and other things after.

 

It has been a while for me also, but I would go with a single rose not a dozen..
You could also give her a box of chocolates..

Just my 2 cents

 

Great advice, and do not forget to wear underarm deodorant....You can be so excited that the simple things get you in trouble - be yourself, treat her like a lady and have fun.

 

Lucky you - first dates can be quite an adventure.

I'd recommend flowers after the date - if things went well. Roses may be a little too much for a successful first date. Maybe a nice arrangement of other flowers.

I haven't been on a first date in close to 18 years so what do I know?

 

Never show up empty handed for a date.

 

WEAR BLACK PANTS!
In case you pee on yourself when she a REAL BEAUTY!

 

I would say bring the one rose Idea. More than one would seem too aggressive and not bringing anything would make it look like you are cheap or not very interested.

Other ideas: don't chew gum. Maybe get some of those listerine strips. Throw one of those in your mouth after you eat or whenever you feel like you need to freshen up. Also, if you are picking her up in your vehicle, make sure it's clean. Also, maybe keep that deoderant in your glove compartment. If you get nervous or something and tend to "pit out", you can at least put some more on later at an "ideal time". Don't forget your wallet or checkbook. Don't want to go out to eat and need her to pay for it. Open the door for her.

I'm sure you have already thought about those things, but if it has been awhile, you can tend to forget. Good luck and have a good time.

 

One rose for sure... and wash your truck. I need a date. It's been a year for me!

 

It's always nice to bring something, but I'd say roses might be overdoing it. Just a general $5 grocery store type arrangement would be good (cheery and colorful). The Boss...er wife agrees on that.

I personally brought an offering of ½ a can of corned beef hash, a September 7th 1986 TV Guide, and a dead squirrel (tastefully arranged in genuine Tupperware), and have been happily in a state of legal marriage for just shy of two years now.

 

I say forget the flowers. Why set the bar so high from the get-go? Treat her like crap, then you can always improve!

Jason

 

I agree with a "pick me up bouquet" bunch of flowers from Safeway or whatever you have.

Daisies,etc

That's it.

Think of it like fishing and catching a fish with either a hook w/bait or

Using a trawling net.


Trawling nets scare the hell out of fish.

When I was 21...I dove in.

Once I turned 26....I believed in ....baby steps.

 

The daisies are a great suggestion, I might even throw in a carnation or two, dress nice (no jeans, no t-shirt) Where khakis or other slacks, a nice polo or golf shirt. Make sure they're clean (not trying to offend I've seen this happen a lot with a close friend of mine..). Last but not least BE YOURSELF. Don't try to be someone you're not because YOU think (read assume) that she wants you to be something different.

 

You get one chance at a first impression, and (although it has been a loooooong time) I never met a girl that was turned off by receiving flowers. Have a great time.

 

Definitely flowers. Not roses - there's too much symbolism in roses. A bright grocery store bouquet is much more informal, not scary, but thoughtful.

Also a good way for you to get a first impression too. A girl who smiles wide and says "How thoughtful! Thank you!" is off on the right foot. If she doesn't muster at least that, it's a small red flag.

That said, it's most important to be yourself and ensure that a girl likes the kind of guy you really are. The fact that you're askling suggests you've got at least some traditional blood in you and if it's your first instinct ou shoudl go with it. There are women out there who love that sort of thing and are well suited to such a man. There are girls out there who will think it's old fashioned, hokey, maybe even a sneaky attempt to get the upper ahd you patriarchical sob - and they would not be for such a man. So by being yourself and judging her reaction to you, you can guage whether she's the right kind of girl for you or not. This is at least as important, probably more, than worrying about if you're doing the "right" thing.

"Being yourself" means, for example, if your first natural inclination is to be polite and a gentleman, then be it.

 

OK, OK. A dozen Dandelions will work just right.