This is gonna be a long one, I gotta vent(sorry!!).

For the past few weeks my ex had been harassing me to no end, calling, texting and I didn't want to talk to her(for alot of reasons) so I just didn't answer back(I realize now I shoulda talked to her sooner). I didnt feel like dealing with it at the time and life was real hectic, so I just thought she'd remember that I dont/cant talk to my exes, its the way i am. I finally had enough tonight and called her back. I told her why I dont want to talk to her, and that its nothing against her(not quite, but I was trying to be nice) and I just want her to stop bothering me.

She went spastic, said I have no courage, no guts, I am immature and need to seek help. HUH?? I will admit, I should've talked to her sooner and told her (some of) my reasons for not talkin to her; like but I didn't want to deal with it at the time, I had too much going on with college/work and was over drawn and over stressed. She acted like I treated he like dirt when we dated and had no respect, and she tried to make it sound like I was trying to get her to feel sorry for me, in effect she was the one trying to get me to feel sorry for her. She twisted everything I said around and really irritated me. I treated her better than any other b/f she had(so she said), gave her everything I could to make her happy and gave her the love her deserved, and now she acts like it never happened! Looking back, she had poor respect for me, didn't appreciate hardly anything i did for her and lied to me about allot, including why she left me; she had someone else in mind but said she wasn't sure what she wanted. If you wanna break up, tell me the real reason why and I wont be AS mad.

I hung up before I said something I would regret, I held my temper and just said Im sorry but I don't talk to my exes because its just too awkward and difficult, which she thinks is stupid and immature. O well, shes entitled to her opinion and I have nothing against that, It just irritated me a bit all the things she said to me, when I never said a bad thing to her. I loved her with all my heart and this is how I get treated. I made my mistakes, but thats the past and I learned from them.

Phew, now thats outa the way... Anyone else have a story they'd like to share or have any comments?? I realize I coulda handled this better, but I was avoiding it until things settled down. O well, I found someone else sooo much better and nicer and respectful, and shes a Ford fan!! Any comments are welcome, I gotta sleep.

 

Just change your phone number. I know its a PITA but it's worth it.

 

just ignore her.

I broke up with a GF very shortly after moving away to college. She still tries to talk to me to this day (this was in 2001) of course, I dsid break up with her over instant messanger . I've got a freind who "fired" a girlfreind before, even gave her a termination notice.

 

My ex-fiance couldn't understand why I didn't want to be friends. I finally gave her the excuse that my wife doesn't think I should be friends with my ex.

 

There's alot a fish in the sea, unfortunately alot of them are crazy. Sounds like you caught on early and threw a crazy fish back. Go fishin!!!!! You'll eventually find a sane one. If she calls back tell her your therapist (all of us at fte) agree w/ you and think it's best for your mental health not to talk with her ever again.

 

Like ANY relationship..."Communication" is most important.

 

Good luck with that.

 

I am not trying to stir the pot here, but I am going to agree with her, not on the part of needing help but you are sort of a wuss. If you want to quit talking to someone, have the cahunas to call them and tell them why. Stress is not an excuse, everyone has stress in their lives, get used to it. You could have avoided all the other nonsense if you had taken 10 minutes out of your day to call her and say "Hello, I am not going to be speaking to you anymore cause you are a crazy person so dont try to call me anymore, Goodbye" And than at least she would now know why you arent talking to her. You get a lot more accomplished by staring your problem in the face rather than running and looking over your shoulder.

 

in a small town like Canastota, that won't do any good...she WILL find you.

Marc150, you sure you're not dating my ex??????
LOL

 

Yea, I will admit that. I didn't want to deal with it at the time and lookin back I coulda avoided all this mess If ida just told her from the start. Live and learn I guess. She texted me this morning trying to apologize for sayin all that stuff to me, I didnt answer, I said what I needed to and thats that. Shes nuts haha. This new girl I met seems to be sane and anyone I know says shes from a good household and is a real sweet girl. We'll see Saturday, I might have a date and I just got the truck back on the road!

rsylvstr-- where abouts do you live?? Always good to know theres another blue blood livin round me.!

 

Could be the girl that took me two years to convince I moved on. I'm in Cazenovia!!

 

I work in Utica...lived in Leonardsville, Madison County, until i got home from Iraq and my house was taken over by mold/mildew...now i'm staying in Oppenheim (fulton county) until we buy a house in Onedia County....

 

yeah i used to have the same problems some of them dont understand when its time to go,just GO.my exwife even after 10 years divorced still ask's me to come back thats just nuts i tell her all the time go away!

 

keep away from that one, you'll find a better one - i've been there!
sounds like a stalker to me.

 

That is funny, but true. That should be the quote of the day.

There are times when it is quite okay to be cival to each other. That will not hurt anything. Then there are other times when, no, it is impossible to be friends or even want to talk to her etc.

I think it depends on the situation. Had one many years ago where she lied on a consistant basis. She for a while would call wanting to visit. I would manage to find a way to inform her of that...