My brother got in to a wreck about a week or two ago and had to go to the emergency room. He was riding with my grandfather at the time. So when all is said and done after hospital bills are paid he'll have 1100 dollars. I think he should get every penny because he was after all in the wreck and did suffer. If he wants to spend it all on useless stuff so be it. Heres the part I'm having a problem with. Our mom is kind of money hungry. She says she wants to be "compensated" for the time she missed from work. Her words not mine. The insurence check will come in hers and my dads name because my brother is a miner. The work she missed was to haul my grandfather and deadbeat uncle around and do their bidding. She missed no time for my bro. The problem I have is she is going to take this insurence money away from my brother and do who knows what with it. I'm really struggling with this because i think its wrong with no gray areas, only black and white.Am i wrong for feeling this way or what. If she takes that money I'll lose all respect and even love for her. I've taken it when she does stuff like that to me but its harder for me to stand when it happens to someone else. I just wanted some opinions on the matter maybe from someone with some kind of experience with something like this.

Sorry so long winded. Just a rant i guess


Richard

 

Hmmm . . . Money . . . Ask yourself, if you disown your mother because of money, who's the better person? Sure, she may have started the whole thing, but are you really gonna do it all over money? Maybe your mother and brother could split the cash? Is your brother on your father and mother's insurance? If so, their premiums are likely to go up in the future because of the pay-out. That cost, over time may well be more than the $1100 anyway. Just my $.02

 

Your mother sounds like mine...money hungry! If your parents pay your brother's insurance then, rightfully, the money is theirs (IMHO). If your brother pays his own insurance...he should get it all...again, this is only my opinion.

 

I understand what both of you are saying. No it probably wouldn't make me a better person. I know I can say this now and yall my not believe me its not just about the money, its about the way she is. My gandfather was driving in his car so this is my grandfathers insurence settling, the wreck was his fault. I'm not going to benefit by my brother getting or not getting the money. But if he doesn't get because of her greed thats just really upsetting to me.

 

79pos...I agree with you! It'd make me mad too...I know EXACTLYwhere you're coming from! My mother looks out for herself above all else...and I'm ashamed to say that. I love her because she's my mother, but I don't always like her...

 

Get your brother to talk to the adjuster. Ask to set up an account in trust, so your mother doesn't get the money.

A girl I went to high school with got hit by a car, while she was walking across the street. Not seriously hurt, but busted up her wrist pretty good. Anyway, she took the cash settlement, and had it put in a trust account for 4 years until she turned 19. Definitely better off that way, what with the compounding interest.

 

GOOD ANSWER, BigRig -

That woman definitely has no right to even a DIME of it. She ought to be ashamed of herself for even suggesting such a thing!

 

I dont know if that is completely accurate. The insurance company has to pay out to the policy holder, unless of course the policy holder wishes to set up that account. If the insurance company does it any other way, the policy holder could sue the insurance company.

 

I know a few of the in-law's got cash settlements from things, like getting hit by a car, and they had the money put in a trust, and I don't think it had anything to do with anyone wanting it put in a trust, it just worked that way by default.

If a kid gets an insurance settlement, I think (here in NY) that they automatically put it in a trust for the kid. It does not go to the parents. That's what I've seen on at least 3 different settlements involving young kids (either being reckless or not) and getting a settlement.

One think I gotta ask, and I wonder about this alot. What kind of kid has your brother been? Has he cost your parents money in the past? Legal bills, broken windows, anything? Maybe that's what she's talking about being "compensated" for.

 

He said it's his grandfathers insurance settling, not his parent's. I agree with bigrig and grey wolf..

 

I agree with wolf and bigrig

My best freind got into a car wreck when he was 5 or so it was the other parties fault, His parents took the cash entittled to him and setup a trust fund....

wtf does this mean, your mom hauled them around from hospital to hospital? if thats the case, then maybe, but a very sketchy maybe.

Now if your moms INS is getting tagged, and the prem. goes up, I'd say work out a deal with mom,

But if its grand dads INS give it to the kid. As far as people saying the money will go to the policy holder, If thats true, I'd talk to gran dad about the trust fund

 

It's amazing how some folks will VOLUNTEER to "do others bidding" - the instant that they smell money...

She volunteered to drive around after the fact. Ain't NO taxi driver on earth that makes $1100.oo per fare, so smoke that one to the ground! If she wanted to be paid for driving, she should have said so from the beginning, and terms been negotiated at that time. OR NOT. Personally, I'd have ridden a bicycle if that were the case. She is obviously out of character there.

Tell 'er to go get in her own wreck...

Cripes, what a money-grubbing parasite.

The insurance award is directly related to one and only one incident, and has nothing whatever to do with any other event PAST, PRESENT, or FUTURE.

GRIEF, how I hate thieves! Especially when they steal from they own family...

 

This may or may not help yea.

When my grandpa died, my aunt was the exucator. She had already paid all the bills. And she expected to be re-inbursed for what she paid (but in the will she was supposed to pay all costs) or we wouldnt get what the will said. He died in FEb...i still havent got anything.

On top of that, theres to anthony littlefield. my cousing whos like 30 and has two kids nad me. She eliminated me and him from the will. and was going to pay us off on the side.

My family and us have been fighting since 99 It never ends. My aunt (kathy) wasnt in the orignal dispute. But now she is...what **** **** ***** ***

yea anyways,
Goose

ps, kathy is my dads twin, shows love dont it, the only two kids that arnt fighting are my dad and his brother. (2 against the other 4)

 

It tends to beg the question:

"Who will guard the children from their guardians?"

I hate to say that, since such tends to go overboard also. But I see and hear too much like that lately.

 

do their bidding means:
Going to the grocery for grandpa and deadbeat uncle

taking deadbeat uncle to work because of stupidity for losing license

picking up deadbeat uncle's daughter from pure voluntary after school thing, she has to be at work at 3 school thing ain't over until 5. Thats the part shes talking about being compensated for.

She has done nothing for my brother, meaning taking him anywhere and doing anything special for him.

Hes not a bad kid and has never cost them any money as far as criminal acts or anything like that. If that was the case i could see wanting some of the money. Thats hasn't happened so....

Richard