How about asking a similar question in the Southwest regional forum (https://www.ford-trucks.com/forums/f...play.php?f=162). Sorry I dont have anything else to add to the thread.

 

My daughter is my pride and joy. We gave her life and sustenance. Taught her to respect and have discipline. Taught her there are times when she is made to do without, sometimes because we felt she is not ready for something or that it is inappropriate for her for any number of reasons, sometimes she's had to do without because we simply could not give. I've teared badly in private when I've thought of how well and understanding she'd been many times when she had to do without.

She knows I'm very proud of my "lil' chipmunk", but she has no idea what that kind of pride feels like. How proud I really am and what that means to me - she won't until she has children of her own someday. I love my kids to death. Should anything ever happen to them you might as well put a fork in me - cause I'm done. I've been through alot in my life but when it comes to my kids, it's the point of no return - there's no getting past that man.

I'm very over-protective of my daughter. Much more so than I am of my son. It's different. I love them equally, but I baby her much more. I'm not saying that's necessarily right, but I can't help it and that's that. My son is going to be a man. I'm raising my son to be a good man. A strong man with strong character. He is not a man yet - will not be for sometime, but he is progressing along the lines I want to see.

Part of what makes letting go of a boy easier is how our human nature is structured. Inspite of political correctness we cannot change our nature entirely, the fact is that men take charge in most relationships. There is no real such thing as equals. Mutual respect - yes. Love and compassion - yes. Authority? Usually only equal with regard to raising children. Finances, family, and friends are decisions which ultimately are decided by men. Ever notice how a girl's father will talk to his son in law privately with regards to future preparations he's making for his family? Part of this is because of women's naturally submissive and accomodating nature, the other part is that men are generally driven to compete and succeed - using their own minds and making their own decisions.

This said, by the time my son is out on his own making his niche in this world, I will feel I've given him everything possible to enable him to be a strong family leader. One who can support, be respectful and fair minded, loving and protective. I'll have confidence he can lead someone else's daughter responsibly.

I cannot make the same claim for my daughter. I can't guarantee her that the guy she falls in love with will be as strong, caring, respectful, hard working, responsible or fair minded as her brother is. Her heart may one day lead her astray to some jobless chump who only cares for himself. Lot's of otherwise "smart" women have been led by their hearts before. There's where the over-protective part comes in - I'll do everything legal in my power to assure that kind crap dosent happen to her. If she ever brings some smug punk home who I can't even stand the smell of - I won't even give him the courtesy of being allowed to bend over before I kick his *** off my front porch straightaway.

Anyway, I've gone on too long already. Good luck 00blueovalranger - I don't envy your position at all, though I'm sure it will lead to another fullfilling chapter in your life, but making changes is not an easy thing to do - I know.

 

sinsiter73 - - -

I could NEVER have said it better!

Your words are so much like my thoughts, it unreal! (I just couldn't say it like that.) My wife and kids are my life.
Thanks. Thanks a bunch!

And so, I start another chapter.

Keith

 

Change is never easy Keith- but it generally works out for the best. Oldest son announced he's taking his ASVAB tomorrow. Sigh.

 

If she brings home a chump,...make sure you call me so I can get first row seats please!!!

 

00BlueOvalRanger, I have three girls...33, 20, 14. The 33 year old moved away a couple of years ago and now gave us us our first grand child. My 20 year old lives 20 minutes away working full time, schooling full time, and is a full time parent and homeowner. My 14 year old is just...well.... amazing.

I knew the oldest would eventually move to be closer to her mother as the maternal instincts / urge started to hit her pretty hard.

The twenty year old is so independent that we figured she would be long gone by now. Instead, she is happy to be here. And the house they bought is conveniently located right smack dab in the middle of both sets of grand parents of their son. They are, thankfully, not going anywhere.

The 14 year old? Who knows what life will offer. She is kind, considerate of others, thrives on helping others, is a good student, and on a competitive Nation Champion dance team. If she moves...it will hit us like a ton of bricks.

I mention all of this just to emphasize that you have done well. Your daughter has done well. It is time for her to explore her horizons and reap the rewards and learn from the challenges.

But know now, you will cry on moving day. Do not be afraid to share that with her.

In regards, to San Antonio. She will do fine there once she overcomes the heat. $ 80.00 / square foot there will buy a fine home in a fine community. If she does not know spanish...I would recommend that she learn.

My only complaint about S.A. is the ding dang roads are hard to figure out.

There is a great heritage here in the Great State of Texas. We even let Yankees become honorary Texicans....after they have been here 10 or 20 years. Gotta watch old John Wayne movies and go to the Alamo a number of times though. Plus, gotta love Dr. Pepper.

Good luck to your daughter...and good luck to you.

 

Being a "young buck" I wouldnt worry too much man, theres enough decent guys out there to not have to worry too much about the bad ones!

 

LOL!! How ya doing gallant! Yeah, I'll be sure to give you notice before hand if I'm ever about to serve a coniving punk his own ***...lol.

 

how ya doin there sin, nice to see ya again. Its been a while.
You could prolly sell those tickets for high dollar!

 

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She knows I'm very proud of my "lil' chipmunk",
you're killing me...i can't stop lmao.