I am in need of some help.

My oldest daughter (the 23 yr. old) is talking about moving to Texas. San Antonio, to be more precise.

She will be the first to 'move away' from home. (Literally, AWAY!)

What is San Antonio like?
Homes (prices). . .Cost of living (High--Low). . .Jobs. . . Crime. . . .???
Basically, I need to find out as much as I can about San Antonio, in short order.

She is talking about moving sometime in January, if she can find a house.
She works for a large communications company, right now, and she says that she can transfer to Texas, but, I don't know if the money will be the same.

I guess I'm gonna have a hard time letting go. I mean, she is almost 24, a college graduate. . . but. . . she has always been 'near' us, so that IF she needed the 'old man' I was at most, 2 hours away, by car/truck.

I'm just worried that she will get down there & if she needs the 'old man' I won't be there fast enough. (Even if it is just to change a light bulb, headlight, etc.)

She has always been Dad's little girl. (Dang, I'm gettin' old, QUICK!)

Thanks in advance!!!

Keith

 

I have two friends that live in San Antonio, and both believe that, if you had to live in Texas, that's the place to be (neither are native). One came originally from the Bay Area, the other from Florida. I think she'll find the cost of living quite a bit less than in the Maryland/DC area.

 

i live in texas and it is a great country, but san antonio is the last place i would live. if you want to pm me i will go into more detail, but not on a public forum.
and to all of you that live there enjoy it is just not the place for me.

 

Don't panic, just worry. This is the day that has been coming for 23 years,
You old fart. Looks like you have made a good little girl, she is probably smart, and pretty...two very good traits. She will be OK, just make sure she has that sense of who is evil and good, and that she should be with the good people, and run from the evil as fast as she can.

Young men and women are resilient, they adapt easily, and have the energy and will to keep bouncing back from adversity, I know, I was once a young buck.

You might want to make sure their is a 100 percent sure way of communicating with her. The best way is to make sure she has a good cell phone, and you keep the bills coming to your house, and you pay the bill yourself. If she would like to pay the bill later, that is fine also.

Just keep your check book handy in case she needs some money for emergencies, find a way to send her money quickly, until she is settled in and on her own two feet.
As far as San Antonio goes I don't have a clue...but if there is good employment available, it can't be bad.

 

Ol' Blue, relax, they dont ever leave home!
They will always be close to Mom, your check book and in the worst of cases, moving back home.
As much as you love her, niether one of you will like that one!

It'l work out for the best. If you've never been to SA, you can count on going there for vacation about next year some time. LOL

 

924x2150:

I think she is beautiful. She is smart. Too darned smart. A smart_ _ _ sometimes, too. (Just like her Dad!)
The 'young bucks' are what worries me! I was one once, too! I used to be the guy that mothers would warn their daughters about. Ha! Now, I have two daughters to protect.
As for the cell phone, the company she works for gives her cell phone service (unlimited) each month.
Heck, she makes good money, too. She does like Dad reaching into his pocket every once in a while for gas money, though.
She is looking at a 'gated community' at a house that's in the low $200Ks.
Ha! My first house was less than $60Ks!!!!!! She has good taste, I'll say that.

This is kinda hitting me hard. She came home from a business trip today, and hit us right between the eyes. Bam!

As for the checkbook. . . I dunno. I've always told my kids that I can't give them everything they want, and that I can't and won't give one kid something, and not give the same or equal amount(s) to the other 3.
So far, I've lived up to that. It taught my kids and showed them that each one was equal. (None 'more equal' than the other!)

I guess that I have been anticipating this day for a long time. My oldest son. . . I don't worry too much about him. He's got a good head on his shoulders.
He wants to stay around Maryland. He likes seafood too much, to leave!
My daughter. . . she has a good head on her shoulders too, but, I guess I'm gonna have to at least, give her one of the .38s and teach her how to use it.
And, my 14 year old just hit me with the fact that she wants to move to California, for college!
Oh great!!! I just got 500 more gray hairs!

 

If your daughter makes you proud for how she has evolved... you haven't anything to worry about.
She will continue to do you proud no matter where she is.

 

Hey bud, she will do just fine. I lived in SA for awhile. Friendly folks and aren't quick to judge. The natives are usually ready help when necessary and everybody gets along regardless of color. They're just simple folks. If she is looking at a gated community in SA in $200,000 range, she is looking at a nice, nice neighborhood. If I had to guess, somewhere around Sonterra. I have/had family all over that part of the county. Very upscale. As far as the stud muffins, yepper, they are there. But it sounds like your daughter ain't too dumb and isn't going to fall for some cowboys line of BS. Seems like the median income in SA was around $30,000 per household. Average cost of a house was around $86,000 and that gets you around 1600 sq ft depending on the area and age of the house. New homes are more expensive coming in at around $80.00 square foot and up. Just have her beware traffic. They drive like idiots and traffic signs are things that just get in the way of you going around somebody. When she gets settled you need to come on down. The mexican food is second to none and spend some time driving around the outskirts. Not a bad place and there are, without a doubt, worse places.

 

Flash- "New homes are more expensive coming in at around $80.00 square foot and up."

Not to hijack this thread, but you have no idea how cheap that is for some of us.

"If she is looking at a gated community in SA in $200,000 range, she is looking at a nice, nice neighborhood."

I just looked at a level jr-acre lot today, in Boring per pete's sake. Asking price.....$200,000. Utilities would have to be brought in....

 

exactly, 200G's here and youre lucky if you can move in without some sorta major repair

 

Keith:

Sounds like you've done a good job raising her, but let's not forget the real reason you posted this...

You'll miss her. A lot. And deep down you know you've been preparing for this all her life, because of how you raised her.

My daughter is only 3, yet I can already see how my life is just becoming about raising and protecting her, teaching her all I know about the world, and reveling in her achievements and her love for me.

Yet I do so knowing she'll break my heart. She will be independent and likely to roam and leave (and tell me off often). She will know what love and respect are, and she will likely take a husband (rrrrrrrgh!). She will follow/lead her family's trajectory.

And I will go on with my life, with other things to do, missing her, enjoying in her letters, phone calls, and visits, and knowing that missing her means I did a good job.

It'll be good, trust her.

Erik

 

$200,000 for that??!?! In Boring? Wow, prices have gone way up. I used to live in Clackamas, my father still does. He bought his house their in 2001 brand new for $200k, and says that it is worth almost $350k now....I can't imagine that, good thing I moved away!! LOL

 

To everyone that has replied, so far:

Thank you very much! Yes, she's serious about going. She's trying to work out the final details about a 'transfer' at work.
Yes, I AM verrrrrrrrrrryyyyyy proud of her. All of my kids, actually.
Yes, I am going to miss her, terribly. She is actually my 'first-born.' (My oldest is actually a step-son, but, I don't call or treat him as such. Never have. I raised him. And, he doesn't treat me as a step-dad.)

As for the house she's looking at. . . Wow!!!!!! (Turn on cowboy accent) DANG, that house is purrrrdee!! (Cowboy accent off.) Sorry. I WAS raised in the South, though.
Oh yeah. . . it is gorgeous. She showed off some pictures on Sunday, when she got back. Stone front elevation. REAL nice!
She isn't too thrilled about the 'extreme' heat, though. Supposedly, utilities are kinda high, there. (I dunno. That's what she said.)

Here comes the 'kicker'. . . . she announced this evening, that she and the guy she's been seeing are talking the 'M' word.
Oh. . . .It is all verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry clear to me, now! The 'M' word. Uh-huh.

Hey, he treats her quite well. He makes good money, and he loves her, and she loves him.
(I just don't know if I can tolerate him for the rest of MY life! Ha!)

I guess I'm gonna have to 'suck it up' and let her live HER life. She has always been independent. Always. But. . . she did know how to call Dad and say that she needed help with a light bulb, etc.
(I know. I'm being selfish. I earned it. I was there for her, from the beginning. Right from the moment I 'cut the cord.')

Anyway. . . I guess there's a new chapter in my life that's about to start.

Thanks again, everyone.
(Oh, and if you have any more info about San Antonio. . . keep it coming.)

Keith

 

My aunt lived there for almost 20 years when she retired, moved back to the DC area a few years ago to be closer to the family. She enjoyed it there, although she has said if she would have stayed she would have moved to a different neighborhood as hers was starting to go downhill fast, which I noticed last time I was there also. Cost of living much much cheaper than DC area for housing. Although she still complains that food was cheaper there. But has also mentioned that insurance and utilities are cheaper here.

Only thing that suprised me was that they drive about as bad as they do in DC, I always thought since its a smaller area, population wise, they would be a little more civil on the roads.

She should enjoy it, lots of cool stuff to do in the area and the winters are much better than around here

 

Well what i would do is i would just check on the internet. you know type in something in google and you will find out information about it. Good luck!