KT, sorry to hear about your son in law. He's in a better place now. But keep your chin up about your daughter. She'll come around.

 

So sorry to hear this. Never give up, time has a habit of correcting wrongs.
Dono

 

Man KT I reallt feel for you, just be strong as you alway's have been, and be ready to be there when she reaches out. and keep writing letters in snail mail, and mail them.

And just be sure to out live the father-inlaw.

 

Hi K.T.
I am so sorry to hear of this news and you and your family will be in my prayers. I know what you are going through having been on both ends of a similar situation. As I was growing up my father had a problem with the bottle and it caused my parents to divorce. For years my father and I never spoke a word to each other. It was only after I had "grown up" (mentally) that I was able to forgive him and renew our relationship. But the time lost will never be replaced.
Then as my oldest son reached adulthood, he himself decided that parents were just in the way and I found myself, along with my wife, on the other end of things...our son was going it alone. It took a couple years of tears and heartache before we reconciled and now we are on much better terms.
You make a couple very good points in your post. First off never drink and drive. There is no excuse or reason to get behnd the wheel impaired. Period. Second, seat belts should always be worn no matter if you are driving to the end of your driveway to check the mail. The car should not go in gear without everyone buckled in.
Lastly, prayer. You may not be able to change your situation with the stepfather, but there is someone who can melt the coldest heart and calling on His help is the best move you can make. I too will be asking help in this matter. Please keep us informed as to the progress on this situation.

 

So sorry to hear the news KT I too have been following the story of your move and reconciliation. I will also keep you in my prayers.

 

King, so very sorry to hear about this.

About your daughter...just be positive and loving, that's all you can do. Don't beg. You can't force someone to love you, or to listen. That'll likely drive her away.

Your advantage is the other daughter...be a good dad to the one who accepts you and the other may see the patterns after a time. as far as the stepfather...doing nothing except being loving and positive will do more in the long run than any short term "pleasure" in a dark alley, or a deserved wel-timed cutting comment.

Strength friend. Keep making your mark around town, with the FD and the like. The word will get around about you, and elder daughter will hear.

Erik

 

KT - So sorry to hear about your ordeal. But take it from a son who has a rocky relationship with his father. You should be commended for taking such bold steps to try and patch things up with your kids. I wish my father would have done something even close to what you did. I cant speak for your daughter but IMO you have definitely taken the first step ( and then some). So maybe in time she will come around. Good luck and God bless!

 

That's really hard news to hear. And you're right - my truck doesn't roll without belts on.

I don't want the ticket.
I don't want to be pulled over so that a passenger can get a ticket.
I don't want to be killed, or see anyone killed.

Especially over something that simple to do...

 

Hey KT, fellow San Antone boy here wishin ya luck, keepin ya in mind and in prayer. nuthin much i can say that hasn't been said, but good luck. hope all turns out well for you and the family.

Adam

 

I just cant believe this,and i am sure that after reading what I am going to say,you will be shaking your head in disgust also.But first,out of respect for the guidelines I will not swear and call the stepdad a body part,I will refer to him as D.A. as in Dumb ---.You get the idea.
Ok,first,as soon as I found out about this I started searching to find out where she was,figuring that she was in detox or a cell.I nor her mother wanted her released until we could get her some grief counseling.But D.A. goes against everybodys wishes and bonds her out anyway saying he will spend the next couple of days with her to make sure she does not join her husband.Jerk,But anyway,my son in laws parents decide to have a memorial here and then fly him home to Virginia where he was born,to be buried in a family plot.While at the funeral home,in front of the grieving parents D.A. starts running his mouth about how he is going to sue the funeral home because my son in laws watch is missing.I guess he made quite a scene.It is good that I was not allowed to attend,I would have dragged him outside and done the obvious.My younger daughter said that it was so humiliating that both she and her mother started crying.Even the parents were shocked by his lack of class,but my daughter was clinging to him,she figured he was just acting in her best interest because the watch was worth a thousand dollars.WHO CARES!It was just a stupid watch,the fact that my son in law was cut down in the prime of life (28 years old) far out weighs any material object.Then to top it all off,D.A. informs my younger daughter who lives in a mobile home on his and her moms land,that he is going to increase her rent to help pay for the lawyer and the treatment center!Well thats it,today I went looking at property,and as soon as I can,I am buying a modular home and a mobile home for her.I found 5 acres outside of san Antonio for a fair price,and figure I can have a modular on it in no time.I will buy a mobile home and fix it up for my daughter,grand daughter,and son in law to live in rent free while I put her through college.Another good thing,D.A. has treated my ex like dirt for the last 5 years and told her on christmas day he was filing for a divorce.Good!Then I showed up,and I have a heart.I knew she would be grieving for my daughter and son in law,so as soon as I found out I went to her.To give her a shoulder to cry on.I spent all day with her today,took her with me looking for land,made her smile when I pulled into a Dairy Queen,looked over at her,and in a real devious voice said,Want some ice cream little girl.At the end of the evening she said thank you,I said,for what?She said,you have given me more love and compassion in one day than I have received in the last ten years.I dont know why,but that hurt!I felt bad for her.So we sat down and had a long talk,we both want to put our daughter through college,we both agree that she would be an excellent teacher because of the love she dotes out on her daughter(my granddaughter) and her little brothers and sisters.So we are going to team up to do it.I have also come to find out that my ex has grown very fond of my other kids over the last couple of weeks.And they have grown attached to her.Way Cool!So I dropped a bomb on all of them.First I asked her if she wanted to become a step mom,she said yes,then I asked my kids what they thought about it and they are all for it.So,I figure I will do my best to be there for her as much as I can until her divorce from D.A. is final,then if she still feels the same way and is not just needing a shoulder to grieve on,I will make it official.So,no need to pray for me,mine are being answered,but if you would,please pray for my oldest daughter,that she can quit drinking,and that she will recover from the loss that she has brought upon herself.