Perpetually single?
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Which one? The guy with the Bronco is my uncle-by-proxy, and I wouldn't consider him a hunk. Just rich.
The long-haired guy...I had a contest to guess him, it's Steve "Sting" Borden, my personal favorite "hunk."
The long-haired guy...I had a contest to guess him, it's Steve "Sting" Borden, my personal favorite "hunk."
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>>>> Well carpe, I don't know how old you are but I be 57. Of those years, six were married. I fully agree with you about finding someone of any quality. At my age, most women have had their brains worked over by some guy and there isn't much left. I gave up years ago and
Heh-heh. You know what I mean. Being single is **much** better than being with someone you don't want.
>>> now I won't accept an invite from any woman.
Well, I wouldn't go that far. I still have occasional encounters. They are just shallow to the core. No substance. Last a couple of weeks at most. I don't consider them meaningful relationships. But you end up with shallow stuff because there is no real stuff. I want substance but there is no substance, so I get leftovers. But even shallow stuff is utterly useless, so in the end, I stay single.
Heh-heh. You know what I mean. Being single is **much** better than being with someone you don't want.
>>> now I won't accept an invite from any woman.
Well, I wouldn't go that far. I still have occasional encounters. They are just shallow to the core. No substance. Last a couple of weeks at most. I don't consider them meaningful relationships. But you end up with shallow stuff because there is no real stuff. I want substance but there is no substance, so I get leftovers. But even shallow stuff is utterly useless, so in the end, I stay single.
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I've been single since i was about...ummm...14 i think. I've "seen" plenty of girls, but i've never actualy been in any kind of serious relationship. These days it seems i can find a one night stand easily enough, but nobody seems to want to stick around for long. Oh well, it dosnt really bother me, i guess if i were to die single that would be fine with me. If something comes along, great, if not, ah well. Thats my opinion on it all, and actually most females seem to find that disturbing.
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From: Palmyra
Better to have loved and lost then........... This is true, but, it doesn't feel right when it happens.
A few years after high school I ran into a female friend from school, and we hit it off preatty well. Well 7 years later (last 3 of those years were bad) we split up and it SUCKS. Even though the last 3 years we argued always, I still feel a major part of my life has died. At least we got 2 great kids which mean the world to me. And yes I was one of thoes "I will never hve kids" guys. Love will pop up in your life at strange times. I say just make sure it is the right time and person.
A few years after high school I ran into a female friend from school, and we hit it off preatty well. Well 7 years later (last 3 of those years were bad) we split up and it SUCKS. Even though the last 3 years we argued always, I still feel a major part of my life has died. At least we got 2 great kids which mean the world to me. And yes I was one of thoes "I will never hve kids" guys. Love will pop up in your life at strange times. I say just make sure it is the right time and person.
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From: Montana Territory
Originally posted by Ripsnort
You can't count sheep as friends in high school!
(Hope you're cool with that, I'm a Montana land owner living in WA state so I get my share of "Sheep Flak" )
You can't count sheep as friends in high school!
(Hope you're cool with that, I'm a Montana land owner living in WA state so I get my share of "Sheep Flak"
)
*chuckling*
Do you raise sheep?
MT landowner in WA, that must mean you use this for hunting purposes, that wouldn't be on elk territory would it?
Moderators do get perks don't they?
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Every woman I have ever been with has fit into one of two catagories.
1. WAS cheating on me. OR
2. Was convinced I was cheating on her (even though I wasn't).
Why would I ever want to deal with that kind of behavior again? I have my kids already. There is absolutely no benefit for me having a woman in my life. I'm 37 and have no problem saying I would rather put a bullet through my brain than ever have a woman in my life again. (And no, I don't want a man in my life either.)
1. WAS cheating on me. OR
2. Was convinced I was cheating on her (even though I wasn't).
Why would I ever want to deal with that kind of behavior again? I have my kids already. There is absolutely no benefit for me having a woman in my life. I'm 37 and have no problem saying I would rather put a bullet through my brain than ever have a woman in my life again. (And no, I don't want a man in my life either.)
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mrwizard,
I can commiserate.
The trick is finding someone compatible, which often seems like an utter impossibility. And may remain an impossibility for many years. The dynamics of relationships remain misunderstood by me. I know what I *don't* want, but hard to say what I do want (it keeps changing).
Carpe_diem , I totally agree with some of these posts. When a man tries too hard, it's a real turn off. (it gets me in a panic) Most women who are seriously looking for a man, want you to be their friend first. So be yourself, don't worry so much about impressing anyone. And make them laugh (helps a girl relax).
NH_H,
I am not sure I made the focus of my inquiry clear. I have come to reliaze that this whole "dating", "finding" someone paradigm is broken. For me - it is. I am sure it works for other people. If you are only looking for mediocrity, the personals
ads are full of them. (Personal ads don't interest me because if you have seen one
, you've seen them all).
Years ago, I was OK with average and mediocre. Today, I find it unbearable. Being with people like that is a road leading nowhere. My whole point is that conventional "dating" methods are not a viable tool for getting you what you want. Having said that, I don't know what works. I am not sure anybody else does either, seeming to rely basically on luck or divine intervention based on how you see this.
I can commiserate.
The trick is finding someone compatible, which often seems like an utter impossibility. And may remain an impossibility for many years. The dynamics of relationships remain misunderstood by me. I know what I *don't* want, but hard to say what I do want (it keeps changing).
Carpe_diem , I totally agree with some of these posts. When a man tries too hard, it's a real turn off. (it gets me in a panic) Most women who are seriously looking for a man, want you to be their friend first. So be yourself, don't worry so much about impressing anyone. And make them laugh (helps a girl relax).
NH_H,
I am not sure I made the focus of my inquiry clear. I have come to reliaze that this whole "dating", "finding" someone paradigm is broken. For me - it is. I am sure it works for other people. If you are only looking for mediocrity, the personals
ads are full of them. (Personal ads don't interest me because if you have seen one
, you've seen them all).
Years ago, I was OK with average and mediocre. Today, I find it unbearable. Being with people like that is a road leading nowhere. My whole point is that conventional "dating" methods are not a viable tool for getting you what you want. Having said that, I don't know what works. I am not sure anybody else does either, seeming to rely basically on luck or divine intervention based on how you see this.
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From: Foothills of the Cascades
Originally posted by carpe_diem
mrwizard,
I can commiserate.
The trick is finding someone compatible, which often seems like an utter impossibility. And may remain an impossibility for many years. The dynamics of relationships remain misunderstood by me. I know what I *don't* want, but hard to say what I do want (it keeps changing).
mrwizard,
I can commiserate.
The trick is finding someone compatible, which often seems like an utter impossibility. And may remain an impossibility for many years. The dynamics of relationships remain misunderstood by me. I know what I *don't* want, but hard to say what I do want (it keeps changing).
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From: Foothills of the Cascades
Originally posted by Mattsbox99
*chuckling*
Do you raise sheep?
MT landowner in WA, that must mean you use this for hunting purposes, that wouldn't be on elk territory would it? Moderators do get perks don't they?
*chuckling*
Do you raise sheep?
MT landowner in WA, that must mean you use this for hunting purposes, that wouldn't be on elk territory would it?
Moderators do get perks don't they?
(Damn californians
)Step-father and step-brother live there year around so we go back in the summer for fishing (Madison) and bird hunting primarily in the fall. I haven't gone big game hunting in probably 10 years since they just give me Elk/deer meat when I go back to visit. I'm a "Meat" hunting, not a horn hunter, so my work is already done for me
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I think it is just a stage in life to go through this. It's good that you aren't settling because many people do just that and live miserably. I was in this same predicament until almost two years ago. She got the ol' meat hook in my heart and has never let me go. I'm proposing this weekend. See my thread... "Popping the Question."
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Good points.I am glad I didn' thave something permanent before "finding myself". Nor am I Interested in people who have not "found themselves".
My other criterion is that the person should always learn, always move on to something new.
I didn't have that criteria worked out years ago, but now I do.
My other criterion is that the person should always learn, always move on to something new.
I didn't have that criteria worked out years ago, but now I do.
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