So I have recently been informed that Michelle's only daughter... is expecting a baby girl sometime in early December.

I consider myself a pretty compassionate person but ......What is the protocol
for a "Step-Grandfather" who did more fathering to the child having the baby than the paternal father ?

This daughter is still rebellious to being told things like:

1) But you should actually have a driver's license , not think you can just drive around with a learners permit.You are breaking the law & possibly subjecting yourself to a lot of stress and LEGAL punishment.You are in fact breaking the law & I don't like it as we ALL have to have a license to drive you are No different.
The law is :You require a class 5 license to drive by yourself ..period.
You don't have that !

2) You shouldn't be smoking or drinking alcohol as you are doing more harm to your baby than what you obviously know about.I can only sympathize so far when you end up with a baby that suffers from the abuse you put upon here.
You will pay the price though, with all sorts of things


I guess the thing that bothers me most is ,The paternal Father and Michelle don't really seem to care to say anything about what she does to herself & this new baby.

I would hate to see this or any child in a dysfunctional home


My only thought is to "Stand up for what I believe in and let her know " and hopefully cast good moral standards on this child when she ages enough to understand.


I just don't know what to do until then.

I keep hearing...."I expect nothing ..from you ....that way I won't be disappointed if you give nothing"

I hardly consider that person being....Me.

I hate to say it but, ...this one confuses me.

 

well Dennis,if you are a large part of her life, the only thing you can do is politely keep on badgering her, and end each session with "the only reason i am even bothering you with this is because i care about you, and don't want to see you get hurt" and hope for the best.

one of the biggest heartaches of being a "step" is the fact that most of the time you are only put up with, like a pet.
"but i don't have to listen to you cause you ain't my real mother/father"

it's really a shame, because children these days just can't seem to comprehend the fact that we really do care about them, want to see them succeed, and it breaks our hearts when they fail at something or get hurt because they would not allow us to help.

 

print and mail

http://www.uic.edu/com/eye/LearningA...Syndrome.shtml

 

Thanks jake,

I have continuously tried to reason with her but in here words ,she doesn't want to talk about things like this.

She doesn't want to talk about anything where people try to give her insight into things..any thing

Did I mention she is still single and 24 ?

 

1st, tjc about nailed it. but this is my little 2cents worth. i was a big part of my "step-granddaughters" life untill Nancy passed. i was pop-pop, she's peach. her mom turned out to be a thief, stealing Nans' jewelery, bonds, make-up, you name it, while i was at the funeral home. her rational was it was stuff Nan had before she and i were married. peach called a month ago asking why i kicked her and mommy out of this house. her uncles are setting her straight.
my advice is do what you can. you may not be top of the list, but at least you'll do what's right. some day it'll come back to you and the kid. unless the parent is a total freak show like my step daughter.