Hi all, well, I should’ve saw it coming, but I got dumped today by my girlfriend of 3 months.
Well, let me start from the beginning (for those of you who want to know). I knew this girl back from 5th grade, and we’ve always had a “crush” on one another. Well, time passed, and I bumped into her in the supermarket 3 months ago. I asked her out, and next thing you know, we were boyfriend/girlfriend. I knew since day 2 that this relationship would NOT last, because the way she acted around me. She wouldn’t want to hold my hand, she wouldn’t let me put my arm around her, etc. etc. On top of this, we lead 2 very different life styles. She would get drunk on the weekends, and party, etc. (most of these partys being this mostly guys I may add), and I do nothing of the sort. I'm lucky if I have a glass of wine at dinner Well, today she called and said she was not ready to go to the next level of the relationship, and said that we’re not going out anymore. I’m taking this hard, when I really shouldn’t. I’m the person that all my friends go to for advise. I’m the kid that’s supposed to have the “perfect” life (I don’t drink, smoke, go to party’s, hang out with the “bad” kids, etc.) I’m the “good guy”, and unfortunately I’m finding out that being the good guy sucks. All throughout high school I had no girlfriend. Since this girlfriend, my last one was in 1998. (I'm 18 for those interested in that part My ex GF whom I just broke up with was 16. Hell, I should've guessed that we were going to break up just from her age
Oh well, I know that there are plenty of fish in the sea, life goes on, etc. etc. My point is, since I hardly have any friends now, its very hard for me to actually meet someone in my social group, without already being connected. (I know, kinda hard to explain ) I know some of you are probably like “ya right, this kid is complaining about woosie girlfriend problems, wait until he gets some REAL problems down the road” I know for some of you guys, this isn’t a big deal, but for someone who’s only best friend is his truck, is taking this hard. I know good times will come, but until then I’ll just have to wait and see. The last 2 months alone, I’ve spent almost $800 on diesel fuel for my truck. That’s how much time I spend in it. I need something else to do, a hobby maybe.
I don’t know, I just want to thank all you guys/gals out there for taking the time to read my post. I feel that this is the best place to let it all out on. I know most of you guys fairly well, and some of you are like family to me

 

Well, things will et better I can assure you. I do not know how to console you right now exatly, as I have not been in that situation for a long time, I do know that if my gal left my I wold be devastated.

 

hey man. i have a crazy situation too. i live in a few different places and spend alot of money on gas. i have a few good friends but no real group. the group i sometimes hang out w/can take it or leave it in terms of me being there. i dont really get many phone calls and find myself spending alot of time just driving around (i love my truck). its hard meeting ppl but dont go searching. the good ones always come along when you least expect it. being the good guy can really suck at times. you see the girls go for all the a holes that are only gonna treat them like crap and they only use you as "somebody to talk to". i'm happy being the good guy though. look at it this way: you may not have alot of friends but i'll bet you dont have many enemies. and if your gonna take up a new hobby i can take that diesel off your hands lol. how'd you end up w/a truck like that anyway?

 

You sound just like me ..only 25+ years ago..I was the one also that everybody came to to fix everything from their rides to their boy/girlfriend probs. Just hang in there and listen and learn from it all.

 

Wow Mike, you sound like me!
Only you have a newer truck, not necessarily nicer! Ok, its way nicer...

 

Yup, sounds like me in high school. Very small group of friends, took me forever to find a g/f, and was always the nice guy. Luckily I found a great girl (still not many friends though, but that's sorta how I like it). So just hang in there and good things will happen.

 

Thanks for the comments about my truck guys
I got my truck with the help of my parents, but I do "owe them". I work, I have 2 jobs in the summer, I landscape, and work at the local supermarket (were everyone thinks I'm the manager )
I've realized something very important, that everyone my age should know. (and most people probably know this already ) I've realized/learned (many months ago) that material things mean jack ____. For example, can my truck talk back to me if I'm having a bad day? Will my Omega james bond watch put its arm around me while watching a move? NO. OF COURSE NOT, its only material things. And they mean exactly nothing. You need someone thats there for you all the time. Someone to cuddle with when you feel lonely, etc. I'd do anything to have her back, but its not happening anytime this century.

Thanks for the help so far guys !

Mike

 

huh, maybe its a good thing that i have nothing then?!

well, I went to college, and most of the people said I was pretty smart. eh. what do people know.

 

Hey Matt - Everyone has to have SOMETHING.
Well, at least almost everyone has a family (parents) to turn to if somethings wrong. The people who really have it though are the kids growing up with no family support, etc.

 

On day 2, you should have looked for the polite way out.

Get used to it - it will happen again, I promise you.

SET YOUR STANDARDS AND KEEP THEM.

"Am I going to have to... SLAP YOU?"

"MAYBE..."

~Ren and Stimpy

The last thing on earth you need is a "DISFUNCTIONAL" relationship. We know about them these days, and they are avoidable.

Trust me - I learn the hard way.

 

Only 3 months? You should'nt even be close to being attached yet, well unless that was some good~you know what I mean. Man your to hard on yourself. Take it easy & keep looking. The right girl will come alog eventually.

Now you should be in my position.

Wife & sole companion of 11 years took off in Sept. of last year. Hit me with divorce papers on my birthday & abandoned the 2 oldest kids & took the baby with her.
Yeap, I took it hard & am now starting to recover from it. I realized my kids come first before anything. I quit a job that paid me $2500.00 a week just so I can be home for my kids, now I settle for $1000.00 a week & home nightly. As for my rebound relationship, I found myself a fat chic that need that special kind of love. OK, I'm not to proud of that, but you have to learn how to crawl before you can walk again.

 

Mike, you would be surprised. I have two honest good for everything friends, Beke and Steve. Too bad they are in Minnesota and Massachusetts. I know both of them would open their doors to me, no questions asked. I told my mom I wanted to go to college, she said that she wasn't helping out, neither did my dad. I guess that was the best learning they gave me. I just landed a job and thats going to help out, I really don't know what I would do, I am lucky that they let me live here, practically rent free. I have been home from Maine for 3 weeks, and I can't wait to get out again, I think my next adventure is going to be in the Southwest, Phoenix, I think. If I don't get into UTI, I am thinking about DADC, Denver Auto, and Diesel College. Again, I don't know anyone down there, but that makes it so much better.

 

Time Heals All Wounds

 

Fat girls need lovin' too bro- plus it's really who's inside that counts-now don't get me wrong, overly obese is taking it a bit far, but nothings wrong with a chick who's got a little meat on her- it actually it turns me on.

Plus theyre loyal-and I'll take that over any good looking, slim, fit, and self serving chick anytime. (Not that all good looking chicks are like that of course.)

If your really not into her, and your just looking to use her for meat, there's nothing wrong with that either-as long as she isint cheating anyone, and knows your intentions with her.

As for you mbnv, all I can say is-be glad you kinda knew it from day 2-hope you got some to make the last three months a bit worth your while . It's when you don't have the slightest idea that it's coming and then find out one day, and then find out a week later that it was planned from 6 months ago that it really burns But all the same I know your feeling disappointed bro-good luck to you.

 

I'm 17, and almost the same thing happened one year ago, except I was in a longer relationship. We had been going out for almost a year and a half, so all of my friends were in her "group". Also, she is the lead Stage Manager at my school and I am Technical Director, and if you know theatre, these two have to work seamlessly together. We started arguing a lot and i was "frustrated" in a certain way... We broke up, and I was left with three true friends, and the person I had been hanging out with for 1.5 years was all of a sudden gone.

I found myself driving up and down the Interstate all the time. One day, I drove 200 miles, wasting almost a whole tank of gas. I drove to my Grandfather and Father's grave 35 miles away, and spoke with them. It was hard dealing with such a change, but within three months I was "talking" to a girl who was also getting over a long term relationship, so that helped a lot. Now, I have a new girlfriend and life is better than it ever was with the old, stressful relationship. It had made me forget how to have fun, and that's all I do now. (All leagally!)