I just wanted to thank all of you for your replys, they all have ment a lot For now, I'm just waiting for college to start again (it starts Jan 22) and hopefully I'll meet a nice girl in one of my classes. I probably will not hook back up with the girl I just left, unless she comes CRAWLING back on all fours She liked my truck, parents, my friends, and everything/everyone else more than me. Thats just crazy Oh well, life does go on, even though I'm still in my rotton "don't bother me" teen mood swings. I feel bad, cuz I even act pissy in front of my parents, and they had nothing to do with this. I just can't help acting how I feel I guess.

 

...... I know the feeling.....

 

gtex - sounds like good advise to me Hell most of the people I know (know, NOT my "friends") do drink a lot, etc. etc. Although I probably will not be picking up the habit anytime soon though. I have found out that most of them pick this habit up from their brother/sister. Since I'm the only child, and both my parents don't smoke, or drink, maybe I take after them. Is that a good thing, so far I don't think so, cause I'm getting the s___ end of the stick

 

Somehow I don't think that wasting your money on tobacco or drinking is going to get you into the group of girls you would be proud to show mom.

I don't drink and I don't smoke, and i don't hang around people that do. I had the great fortune to meet a great girl, and we get along great, without drinking or partying. I just wish she was a little closer.

 

Hey Matt -
Don't worry about me I think I like me the way I am. Unfourtnally, most of us "teen" society (at least here in CT) don't operate the way we do. Take my neighbor for example. I've had a crush on her for a LONG time. One problem. She's 16 as well, and has different guys over her house every night her parents work late. (which is almost every night). Of course there is different crowds to hang out in, I just never choose a crowd, period. I was always a loner. College isn't that much different that High School (I go to a community college). Only difference is that in College, people are constantly coming, and going, you don't see your friends in college for as long a time as you would in HS, etc. etc. I think I have to learn to actually approach girls, and talk to them I'm very to myself, I need to "open up".

 

Yeah I went to school with a few of CT's finest. Hopefully you are smarter than that.

 

I try to be

 

Think about what marriage really is, and get over it.

It makes you responsible for someone elses decisions, even if they have poor judgement.

It makes both parties liable if they can be accused of bad faith.

It grants unequal support after divorce if you decide it isn't working.

It opens the male up to losing things the female never earned or deserved and the law (currently) supports it without recourse to speak of.

Do yourself a favor - just paint a target on your forehead, throw away half of what you care about the most, and go get laid in Nevada.

Marriage is an institution formalised in the dark ages to make chattels out of some human beings and in later times - was modified to make suckers out of the rest.

I repeat: get over it.

It is typically taken advantage of the most by people who ignore or never heard of the concept that:

"Love is that condition in which someone elses life, welfare, and happiness means more to you than your own"

- And the victims are invariably those who believe in the above.

I find it all revolting...

(Speaking from much too personal experience)

PS: I don't hate women, far from it. I love them dearly - and that is my downfall

 

amen to that greywolf

 

And yet another perspective on girls...

“Girls are like water, some you drink and some you flush”

Signed,
The Don

 

MBNV,

I say good riddance! I've known a ton of party girls like that in my life. I grew up partying and doing all the wild stuff since I was about 14 or 15. I've been with lots of the "party girls" but I would never consider keeping a long term relationship with them. All my buddies wanted to get with the good girls who hadn't been passed around to everyone we knew at one point or another. I'm sure you still have some strong feelings for this girl so I'm sorry if this offends you but those "action junkie" girls are to be taken out with the other trash.

As I got older I started wanting more and thought I had found it with a cute 18 year old "girl next door" type that had always led a sheltered kinda life and wasn't the party girl type. That went bad as she got into college and started doing all the things she hadn't done in HS like me. Bottom line: I told her to pack her s___ and hit the road.

I guess what I'm trying to say is party girls are fine for what they are good for. If you, like I did when I grew up a little, want more than that then there's no use worrying about her now. Even if you did get back together with her you'd always wonder what she had been doing at all those party's with all those guys and all that bit. You should just wash your hands of the whole debacle and laugh in a couple years after she comes back around when she's just another has been that's tired of getting passed from guy to guy and none of them want to have a relationship with her. Maybe have a good time for old time's sake (safely of course) and send her back on her way to being white trash. That is if she's white I guess but you know what I mean.

 

You are so right Greywolf. I am about ready to start dating again at 56.

 

mbnv992,
What can I say, life sucks at 18. Not to sound to calous (I was recently burnt by a g/f of nearly 2 years) you're young, live life for you. If you need affection get a dog, at least you'll have someone at home whose happy to see you when you get home. From past experience (I'm only 25 so the lessons are fresh on my head) don't get too attached to any woman that isn't old enough to legally drink (in other words 21). EVERYONE, regardless of gender changes in profound ways during this time, any woman you are with now will be someone totally different in 3 years so what's the point. I guess what I'm trying to say is just be you, and have fun doing it. Live life and learn from it, but most of all don't go looking, the right one will fall into your lap when you least expect it.

 

Hey Guys...

Life should not suck at 18...those should be the good years. get out there and live...After that comes working and for many parenting..

18 is for partying, romance, skinny dippin' at the lake with some 18YO hotty..trust me...many more of them will look like hotties when you get a few years down the road :-) I was pretty picky at 18...what a stupid way to be.

 

Well. People change. me and my g/f of 4 years are fighitng now. over stupid crap. I know I have not changed much...and I know she has. We have never had a serious fight, until these last few weeks. I really have no idea on what to do in this situation. And have no idea where this is headed. And for some reason I get the idea it will all come doown to valentines day. Oh well Life must go on!