Hey mbnv992,

About a year ago my last girlfriend said to me those 4 little words that every guy dreads to hear and we all know what I’m gonna say right….”Let’s just be friends” and I happened really fast too. I mean I saw it coming but I only had like 3 days notice, she became increasingly cold in those 3 days. At first I was really devastated, but I played the gentleman, looking back now I think that I probably should have told her off lol.*** But I didn’t. she said she needed to focus on school stuffs and the like right now….and I’m sure yall know what comes next right….well I hear that she’s going out with someone else. Needless to say this pissed me off right, but what really pissed me off was that she lied to me. I mean if she had said that she wanted to see someone else it wouldn’t be that big of a deal since I saw it coming. You see I have this thing about people lying to me, I can’t explain it but that just pisses me off.

Anyway the moral of the story is to take a deep breath, look around and realize that things are good you have a good truck, nice family, and your health. Girls come and go throughout life, the good ones stay. You shouldn’t be beating yourself up over a 3 month relationship, but I know from your point of view it was “going on” since the 5th grade. Its understandable that you feel bad. Just take it in step and use this experience as a learning tool…try and look at what went right and what went wrong. Remember the right and lose the wrong for next time. Keep me in the loop and let me know how things are going with yah man. Have a good one.

Signed,
The Don

 

Hey Matt, I think of you as part of the family. Looking back I think the best advise I could give to someone younger is to marry wisely. Pick the wrong one and it screws up a lot of stuff. Chose your mate very carefully. Life is not a rehersal; you only get one chance.

 

i have plenty friends in high school from each group. mostly the fancy rednecks.they always like to play jokes on you like walk up beside you and try to hit you in the nuts. that's why when they come up to talk to the circle everybody covers. but it's ok i got them all back. this one dude that was dumb and funny tried to run up hit me and haul ***. he missed so i go after him and both running i kick his foot from under him and he stumbles leans forwards and rolls and slides on the ground while everybody laughed up a storm at him. that was the funniest thing i have seen in a long time. anyway about the girl situation, try to find an older one. they will show you a whole different time. and it is wierd but like said before you don't find the good ones by looking.i once walked out of the barber shopand there she was with here 15 yr. old niece that i went to school with but did not know here but she knew me. her aunt was gorgeous walking down the road with that tight butt. damn i remember that still. anyway another wierd thing, it was homcoming game and i was driveing around town with a truck full of toilet paper and eggs. i was on a covert mission to rap the principals house good. i picked up 3 friends that were already there hiding then we went riding until it got later. and i saw some folks walking . it was her the hot barber shop girl and her friends. i picked them up and they rapped with us. we got that house good. i always had a feeling that the princapal knew it was me who rapped it but i don't know. anyways about 2 weeks later i walked into school late and as soon as i did i saw the hot girls niece she yelled my name and asked for my number and said that her aunt wants it. i was like hell ya.ok this is long so anyway now crystal is my fiance and i am gonna be an uncle

 

dont sweat it your young. and nice guys win in the long run.
girls get sick of the bad boy types.

 

hey man, sorry to hear about that. ive been in the same boat though. back in november my girlfriend of 2 months dumped me. we really had somethin cuz i swore everything went as good as it does in the movies, then one she decided we werent meant to be together, and i still dont understand why, especially when we were perfect together.

mbnv, you are me are almost alike. i work in a grocery store too, im going on 18 and my best friend is my truck too. im always been the good guy, gentleman who treats girls right. but since i got dumped ive started drinkin alot more than i used to and started smoking again. im still a good guy, but a bad kid.

anyways, the day i got my exhaust on my truck, a couple days after christmas, i finally got my *** over my ex. and its been great. i just decided that im gonna have some fun now and spend my money on my truck cause atleast my truck appreciates it. whenever i need to try to forget the past i just get in my truck, turn on some good music( like kenny chesneys older stuff because i can relate to that) roll the windows down and go drive down some country roads.

you take care and you'll find someone.

 

As I recall, at 18 I firmly believed that girl friends were like underwear - they needed to be changed often. My advise - relax and just let it happen, it will.
Dono

 

Sounds like she did you a favor.Better to break it off now than at the next level, as she refered to.good luck

 

Back in October, I had to call it with my g/f of a year and a 1/2. She lived 4 hours away and we could not manage to see each other enough to go on. She's a year and 3 months older than me, which didn't help my case out much. I just turned 18 3 days ago, and I haven't heard from her since Thanksgiving, but in the last 3 days, we've started talking again (I have no idea what it will lead to!). This girl was pretty, sweet, and smart (she drives a lifted '92 F-150 with a flame job and rollbars and kc's and mudders!--very smart!).

In the meantime, I found a girl that only lives one hour away, who is really sweet and we talk just about every day on the computer or on the phone. She's not a good looking as the previous one, but her sweetness makes up for it.

And I know I'm gonna hear it about not trying local girls......but I just haven't had that much luck with them. A lot of them are "well used", and I just can't deal with that, others like to be in interracial relationships, and I can't deal with that either. The ones that are decent enough that I've talked to, either say they don't have time for boys, or they just find some b/s excuse, or they're already seeing somebody (mostly 19 and 20 yr. old drop-outs), if only they knew what they were getting into......

Either way, I'm not really frustrated, just a little dissappointed that the local ones have such low standards.

But I know there will be more to come and go in the future, so I'm not worried about it, and neither should you.

 

mbnv - I feel your pain, I'm in the same situation as you. My girlfriend of 4 months dumped me a while back. From the start I should of known better, that she was just another stuck up girl and that it probably wasn't worth it. Oh well, you live you learn.

I'm kind of an old fassioned guy that treat's girls right, not the way that society looks at dating these days. But I know there's still girls out there, and i'll find someone someday.

I only have a few true friends, so me and my truck spend a good amount of time together also.

Take care and good luck. As Dennis said "Time heals all wounds"

 

it aint so bad listening to you female friends problems, its what i avail myself to do. and you know, if all those chicks think you are a nice guy, eventually one of them will come around and who knows? also they must have lots of friends too that they might hook you up with...i have just recently rid myself of all the self doubting, the lack of confidence...and you know what? i never saw myself where i am today...it pays to be a nice guy, no matter how long it takes.
IMHO
eric

 

Well, Mike. You got advice that costs most people thousands of dollars, and all in just one day. Take some, leave some. Learn form all of it. Girls come and go. Some come more than others, some dont leave fast enough. A woman will come along and your whole world will get screwed up, then you'll realize its just then that you have it all right side up.
Patience till she comes along, patience when she does.

 

dude ! me and u are a lot alike lol.

the past gf's ive had ive had trust issues with them. they party drink. 2 of em did drugs but one of them stopped cause of me. but when i found out she cheated on me i dumped her right there on the spot. one thing i dont deal with is that. i finally found a girl that i could trust not to cheat on me but i guess i couldnt trust her not to lie to me. for those of you who helped me with my problem in the "what would you do" post, she broke up with me last friday on the way to take her home after school. all the way there she couldnt give me a straight answer on why she was and she tried the "im just too stressed out" deal but isaw right through that and finally she told me the truth and that it was cause she still had feelings for her ex. she had previously promised that she was through with him and that she had takin care of the harrassment problem but that had been a lie. i told her how i felt about it and she was like "well i had made my mind up last night about breaking up with you but i didnt know you felt this way about me" i said "well dont want a gf thats not gonna be happy around me. u lied to me now get outta my truck" i was a little mad and my no cussing rule went down the drain on the way to drop her off. friends say she still has feelings for me and she still likes me. o well thats her fault.

but you will find someone thats right for you. one that doesnt drink a whole lot and do ne drugs cause there are some out there. just like alot of other people have said just listen in on ur friends problems and learn from there mistakes if you can. itll all come out for the best

 

I may get moderated out for what I'm about to say.

I spent my young life as the "Good Guy" and that has some rewards. But, I always wondered why the bad guys got the girls.

My advice: drink beer, **** the easy girls, practice safe sex and don't drink and drive! Keep this in moderation with getting an education and establishing a career. Mrs Right will eventually find you and marry the hell out of you :-)


Moderators, please forgive me if my choice of verabge or content is innappropriate :-)

 

gtex I guess all of us texans are pretty smart. I think that is great advice and really mike already sounds like he is on his way to a good life. Mike my only advice is wait for the good girl. there are many out there and in between enjoy a good and healty(safe) sex life. You will meet so many woman that are wrong that eventually you will quit worrying about it and a good girl(woman) will come along and make you feel special. Until then have fun and make lotts of money and enjoy life.

 

Dump her-she's not worth the time or effort. Find someone else who want's you!