Almost married
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While I agree that the bride needs to get what she wants, there are limits and it helps if you can tolerate it. Hell, if everything goes well you will only get married once too.
Not that this is how you should do it but, but I got married on a beach in Jamacia. An hour before and an ahour after the wedding I was at the swim-up bar. No stress, no hassle, and as far weddings and honeymoons go... pretty cheap. $4200 for 8 days at Couples in Negril. We had a reception stateside 2 weeks later. This plan has drawbacks and I'm sure many people can top it, but we don't regret it.
The best part of the whole thing was the bacholar party weekend a week before. No, it's didn't include strippers or hookers. Well not really.... a bud of mine works on a sportfishing boat; we went fishing for tuna, wahoo, or and whatever else decided to bite. What's a more innocent guy weekend than that? Of course, we had 2 female "first mates" to fetch beer, prime rib sandwiches, and baitfish. They wanted to work on their tan too so they "decided" to go topless and eventually bottomless. But heh, we were there to fish!
Not that this is how you should do it but, but I got married on a beach in Jamacia. An hour before and an ahour after the wedding I was at the swim-up bar. No stress, no hassle, and as far weddings and honeymoons go... pretty cheap. $4200 for 8 days at Couples in Negril. We had a reception stateside 2 weeks later. This plan has drawbacks and I'm sure many people can top it, but we don't regret it.
The best part of the whole thing was the bacholar party weekend a week before. No, it's didn't include strippers or hookers. Well not really.... a bud of mine works on a sportfishing boat; we went fishing for tuna, wahoo, or and whatever else decided to bite. What's a more innocent guy weekend than that? Of course, we had 2 female "first mates" to fetch beer, prime rib sandwiches, and baitfish. They wanted to work on their tan too so they "decided" to go topless and eventually bottomless. But heh, we were there to fish!
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Congratulations, Joe.
I got married 2 years ago...On the Thursday and Friday before the marriage I took some vacation time. It REALLY helped calm me down.
It sounds like a lot of the hard stuff has been done...just remember to be there for your future wife - you're a team, here. She's probably as stressed out as you are, and if you both confront it together, it all won't seem as overwheming as it does now.
Maybe talk to the Maid of Honour and see how everything's going with her - she may know more about what your fiancee is feeling if she's a sister or a good friend
Don't forget, you can delegate some of the stuff onto the Maid of Honour and the Best Man.
For instance, ask your best man to arrange the Tuxes. The Stag - if you're worried about what the plans are...present a outline of what you would like.
For mine, we went go-karting, then to the Keg (local steakhouse - Joe will know what this is - I live in S. Surrey, too), Laser Tag, a Comedy Club, then a nice sports bar to hang out with my buddies, WELL in advance of the wedding.
I think in general, the wedding ceremony is geared for your fiancee and the reception is the party for the familes and friends that are there.
Use the reception to tell those that you care about that you like them in your life - remember - you won't get many opportunites to have all those people assembled in one place ever again.
Above all - enjoy and have a happily ever after!
I got married 2 years ago...On the Thursday and Friday before the marriage I took some vacation time. It REALLY helped calm me down.
It sounds like a lot of the hard stuff has been done...just remember to be there for your future wife - you're a team, here. She's probably as stressed out as you are, and if you both confront it together, it all won't seem as overwheming as it does now.
Maybe talk to the Maid of Honour and see how everything's going with her - she may know more about what your fiancee is feeling if she's a sister or a good friend
Don't forget, you can delegate some of the stuff onto the Maid of Honour and the Best Man.
For instance, ask your best man to arrange the Tuxes. The Stag - if you're worried about what the plans are...present a outline of what you would like.
For mine, we went go-karting, then to the Keg (local steakhouse - Joe will know what this is - I live in S. Surrey, too), Laser Tag, a Comedy Club, then a nice sports bar to hang out with my buddies, WELL in advance of the wedding.
I think in general, the wedding ceremony is geared for your fiancee and the reception is the party for the familes and friends that are there.
Use the reception to tell those that you care about that you like them in your life - remember - you won't get many opportunites to have all those people assembled in one place ever again.
Above all - enjoy and have a happily ever after!
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George Carlin once said that marriage was thought up by a woman. If you asked a man he would say" Well let me see, I won't get to hang out with the guys anymore, I will never get to sleep with another woman for as long as I live and if things don't work out she gets half of my stuff. Sounds like a good deal to me"
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Re: Almost married
Originally posted by bigrigfixer
So, my question to you is, how did you guys cope with the 2 months prior to your wedding? AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH
So, my question to you is, how did you guys cope with the 2 months prior to your wedding? AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH
I'm still not coping with it!. Yeah, what you said...AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!
No really, take some time for yourself before you do it. It works for us, 14 years married yesterday!
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Congrats Joe.
As I write this I've been married 2 weeks and 4 days.So far so good.As the new missus says,we're kind of still jockeying for position in our new household.She moved into my house that I've lived in for 6 years.So,alot of adjustment going on.
I don't think I was too nervous leading up to the big day.Actually,
between work(full time and part time job),fishing,and planning for the wedding there was no time to be nervous.
The rehersal dinner was a blast.The ceremony and reception went off without a hitch.The weirdest thing about it all was the feeling that,while up at the alter, it wasn't me up there at all. Strange feeling.I think that I was so at ease, and the time was so right to be getting married that we both kind of felt that we were the only two people in the world.Even though there were 175 family and friends not 20' behind us.
The day flew by,and before we knew it,it was time to start our life together.
I agree with some of the other guys about this being her day.Let her do all she wants to do.Just be supportive and show up on time.
Among some of the things I did for our wedding was the tux rentals.All black for my boys.White dinner jacket and black pants for me.Very classy.I also hired a bagpiper to play for an hour at the reception,seemed everyone enjoyed that.And I also rented the biggest,blackest,get out of my f 'ing way truck for the day.....FORD EXCURSION!What a sweet ride.Enjoy the time up until the wedding day.And make sure you and her find some quiet time together,alone.
Sorry about the long post,but this is a very special occasion.
Good Luck.
Steve
As I write this I've been married 2 weeks and 4 days.So far so good.As the new missus says,we're kind of still jockeying for position in our new household.She moved into my house that I've lived in for 6 years.So,alot of adjustment going on.
I don't think I was too nervous leading up to the big day.Actually,
between work(full time and part time job),fishing,and planning for the wedding there was no time to be nervous.
The rehersal dinner was a blast.The ceremony and reception went off without a hitch.The weirdest thing about it all was the feeling that,while up at the alter, it wasn't me up there at all. Strange feeling.I think that I was so at ease, and the time was so right to be getting married that we both kind of felt that we were the only two people in the world.Even though there were 175 family and friends not 20' behind us.
The day flew by,and before we knew it,it was time to start our life together.
I agree with some of the other guys about this being her day.Let her do all she wants to do.Just be supportive and show up on time.
Among some of the things I did for our wedding was the tux rentals.All black for my boys.White dinner jacket and black pants for me.Very classy.I also hired a bagpiper to play for an hour at the reception,seemed everyone enjoyed that.And I also rented the biggest,blackest,get out of my f 'ing way truck for the day.....FORD EXCURSION!What a sweet ride.Enjoy the time up until the wedding day.And make sure you and her find some quiet time together,alone.
Sorry about the long post,but this is a very special occasion.
Good Luck.
Steve
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From: Drummonds, TN USA
I knew a Lady once that I and several others rented and shared a house with in Mira Mesa California. Not everyone trusted everyone else, and Toni Ann was the duly appointed "TRUSTEE" that kept track of everyones share of the bills, rent, ad etcetera...
What began as a place where everyone except me knew each other from a country tavern in Poway, or from various enlisted clubs in the area dwindled down to just me and her kids, but even I got sick of the bickering and honestly wierd stuff that surrounded her and her extended family.
Eventually - I too left.
Life became simple once again - I could do whatever I pleased being a single man in the military with no holds on me. I heard about Toni and her various "Jerry Springeroid" adventures as time went on, and one day I heard she left for Tulsa Oklahoma. I distinctly recall thinking "God help Oklahoma" at the time...
Months passed, and one fine day I was at the store looking for more stupid stuff to spend my money on - as fate would have it half way down the 'Kitchenware and Sundries' aisle - there she was again.
A month and a half later we walked down the aisle at a tiny chapel next to Balboa park in downtown San Diego.....
We have been a team ever since, though at times an extremely rocky one. It has been proposed that once I come home to stay we split up.
But the jury is still out on that issue....
It has been more than ten years.
Had someone suggested that I/WE were going to do what we have done I would have been forced to say: "Mister - you are in PURE DIRE NEED of psychoanalysis..."
But so far, we have stayed together if nothing else. If you can call it that, with me being an average of two thousand miles away at any given moment.
I can't really explain it. That's what we decided to do at the time.
~Wolf
"What is 'Love'? What does 'Marriage' mean?
I don't know...
Ask me again next year, my perspective may have completely changed."
~ Myself
"Love is that condition in which someone elses life, welfare, and happiness means more to you than your own."
( ~ Robert A. Heinlein)
"Marriage ( as opposed to 'Love' ) is a legally enforceable contract..."
~ Jubal Harshaw (a character developed by Robt. A Heinlein)
What began as a place where everyone except me knew each other from a country tavern in Poway, or from various enlisted clubs in the area dwindled down to just me and her kids, but even I got sick of the bickering and honestly wierd stuff that surrounded her and her extended family.
Eventually - I too left.
Life became simple once again - I could do whatever I pleased being a single man in the military with no holds on me. I heard about Toni and her various "Jerry Springeroid" adventures as time went on, and one day I heard she left for Tulsa Oklahoma. I distinctly recall thinking "God help Oklahoma" at the time...
Months passed, and one fine day I was at the store looking for more stupid stuff to spend my money on - as fate would have it half way down the 'Kitchenware and Sundries' aisle - there she was again.
A month and a half later we walked down the aisle at a tiny chapel next to Balboa park in downtown San Diego.....
We have been a team ever since, though at times an extremely rocky one. It has been proposed that once I come home to stay we split up.
But the jury is still out on that issue....
It has been more than ten years.
Had someone suggested that I/WE were going to do what we have done I would have been forced to say: "Mister - you are in PURE DIRE NEED of psychoanalysis..."
But so far, we have stayed together if nothing else. If you can call it that, with me being an average of two thousand miles away at any given moment.
I can't really explain it. That's what we decided to do at the time.
~Wolf
"What is 'Love'? What does 'Marriage' mean?
I don't know...
Ask me again next year, my perspective may have completely changed."
~ Myself
"Love is that condition in which someone elses life, welfare, and happiness means more to you than your own."
( ~ Robert A. Heinlein)
"Marriage ( as opposed to 'Love' ) is a legally enforceable contract..."
~ Jubal Harshaw (a character developed by Robt. A Heinlein)
Last edited by Greywolf; Oct 8, 2003 at 11:52 PM.
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I can tell when something is close to my heart -
I end up spending so much time on edits that I eventually see the statement:
"The admin has decided to limit the time you have to edit this post to 60 minutes..."
You have my heart-most thoughts there as they are.
Don't be discouraged, they are lucky who find some one else to share a life with!
And further deponent sayeth not.
~Wolf
I end up spending so much time on edits that I eventually see the statement:
"The admin has decided to limit the time you have to edit this post to 60 minutes..."
You have my heart-most thoughts there as they are.
Don't be discouraged, they are lucky who find some one else to share a life with!
And further deponent sayeth not.
~Wolf
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Bigrigfixer
Don't sweat it, the weeks leading up to my wedding I was happy and excited for the day to come. My best friend just married his sweetheart and he was a wreck until 3 day before the wedding.
I can tell you that after the wedding you will look back and think, wow I got all worked up over this, this was a blast.
Best of luck to you and yours..............
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AAAAAAAHHHHH
Less than 2 weeks to go, people.
Not freaking out yet, but it's getting down to crunch time. A little nervous? no, hmm
Just rambling I guess.
All the catering, decorating, photography and dresses are paid for. The transportation is being donated, the tuxes are reserved, the band and DJ are 95% ready, the honeymoon is paid for, dancing lessons are going ok, wine is being labeled, but the hard alcohol needs to be bought still. Got some mix, but the future mom in law thinks we need more.
AAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
Not freaking out yet, but it's getting down to crunch time. A little nervous? no, hmm
Just rambling I guess.
All the catering, decorating, photography and dresses are paid for. The transportation is being donated, the tuxes are reserved, the band and DJ are 95% ready, the honeymoon is paid for, dancing lessons are going ok, wine is being labeled, but the hard alcohol needs to be bought still. Got some mix, but the future mom in law thinks we need more.
AAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
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