To all you guys who are married.

Today marks the 2 month count down. Last month went real quick, and things are humming along a little quick for my liking.

So, my question to you is, how did you guys cope with the 2 months prior to your wedding? did you keep sane with other things, or were you a basket case? I'm sure I'll be one in the week before, but I'm ok for now.

Still a lot of work to do yet. My side of the family hasn't replied to their invitations yet. Catering has to be finalized, (waiting on replies) Tuxes need to be ordered, Dancing lessons underway but far from over, wedding night accommodations for me and her, Limo or rental Lincoln has to be decided, And this is just my department.

Our honeymoon is booked finally, instead of driving down to LA and back to San Fran, we're flying down to LA, going to Disneyland, and going on a Mexican Riviera cruise, then flying back from LA.

One thing I'm not sure I want to look forward to is my stag. My brother wants to dress me up in a grass skirt and a coconut bra, but in the middle of November? I don't think so. I'm okay with getting drunk, but not dressing up. Or down. Should be a good time though.

Tomorrow will be less than 2 months away. AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH

 

I'd stay away from the whole dressing up thing at the bachelor party -- way too many cameras these days and you don't need to see yourself with a bunch of drunk guys on the Internet a few years from now.

Also, don't touch the strippers -- again, too many cameras. Drink, relax, have someone else drive you home.

 

yea, i second that. but have fun out with the guys.

 

Hey I put it off for 4 years. Bought 3 licences. First one, car wreck night before. Got hurt pretty bad. Second one, time just slipped by. Third one, a couple days before it expired went to neighbors and said it gonna slip by again and next thing I know he had the Justice of the Peace was there and low and behold I'm a married man. Been married since Feb. I got a GREAT woman to put up with me for the past 4 years. Good luck with your marriage and wish you many years of happiness!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

My brother knows there's no cameras allowed. As the saying goes, "what goes on the road stays on the road" applies. Not that there's going to be anything to be "not proud of". My fiancee has set some rules for her peace of mind, and that's ok by me. I don't know what's planned, but I'm sure it won't be the wildest stag I've been to, or will attend in the future.

 

The time isn't what got me, it the actual wedding itself. The word nervous comes to mind when I got married. I only wish I had a shot or two of whiskey to lessen the shock of getting married. Right afterward I remember thinking "oh dang, I just got married". It's a really odd feeling at first, but you get use to it.

 

Escape while you can.

 

You're doomed!

We have to get you out of the country ASAP.

Just kidding - I think it's normal to be nervous before a wedding. She's probably nervous, too.

Enjoy yourself - think about how many people out there don't have anybody else.

You're getting married. It's awesome.

Best of luck!

XXL

 

I once heard marriage described as "The triumph of habit over hate", but that is not true. Congrats.
Dono

 

RUN!!!! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!
Seriously just remember that the wedding is for her. Most men I know could give a flip about what color the bridesmaids dresses are or how to decorate. This is her day and you must do all that you can to not screw it up for her because she will never forget the slightest embarassment and it will be with you for your life together. And it will be your fault. She has given you all that she can trust you with and that is to dress yourself and find a Lincoln. Now since she probably picked out the Tuxes but let you think that you did, all you have to do is get the thing on right, and show up on time. Make sure and go to the bathroom at the last minute and don't eat beans or have beers and hardboiled eggs the night before.
My first wedding I kept busy rebuiding my Harley for the honeymoon. I got it finished the night before the wedding. We took off in the middle of the night after the reception. About 20 miles down the road we realize that the rear tire was rubbing. The Harley shop had sold me the wrong shocks. We pulled over and stole some wood off a wood pile and jammed it in there to hold it up. Ended up getting to the hotel at 4 in the morning and the ice was all melted, champaign warm. Be she was a good scout and we just laughed it all off and had a great honeymoon anyway.

 

Congrats for you Joe, hope all goes as planned.

My buddy had it easy. Wedding plans took care of them selves. She didn't deem him smart enough to help out which was fine by him. My other buddy went crazy. I think he's still messed in the head to this day. Maybe it was the carb cleaner.

Now I may be young and nieve (did I spell that right? I'm sure I didn't) but my girl wants a "nice" ring on her finger for the said purpose of "keeping other guys from hitting on her". Now we've been dating for 2.5 years. Is this a hint for engagment or a real answer to getting hit on. Personally I get tired of her getting hit on. Especially at outing where guys don't take no for answer (an her "no" isn't that polite). I don't have any problem getting some sort of ring for her for any reason.

 

We have roughly 11 months to go. The hotel / reception is just about booked, but thats about it. Still need everything else (Church, Invitations, Flowers, DJ, etc). The two of us are very excited. We went out for 3 of the past 7 years (we had a hiatus for a bit). We couldn't be happier with eachother. We also have to totally rethink the living arrangements as well, but that will all happen in time. Good luck! I can't imagine how I'll be 2 months prior to the 'big day'.. uncharted territory!

Oh... almost forgot.. Congrats!!

 

think your scared now? wait till that day! I just got married again)2nd one) in june. things do change but then everything does. just remember to respect each other and be good to one another.

good luck

 

Repeat this over and over with regards to wedding plans:
"Dear, I don't find that offensive"

That phrase did a few things for me. First, it let her know that what she was asking me about was (to me) unimportant, so she should do what she wanted. Secondly, it let her know that if I really did express an opinion, that it was a strong opinion and she should rethink what she was planning. I wouldn't sweat the details unless you have a real problem with something. Regardless of what happens (good or bad), you will be married at the end of the day, and that is the important part. Keep in mind that the wedding is for her, and she has probably been dreaming about it since she was a tot. Do whatever you can to make the day as special for her as you possibly can. I've been married for 9 years, and I can honestly say that my wife is my best friend. She's the greatest. The best advice that I can give is to enjoy the heck out of your honeymoon, because after dealing with a fiance, will-be-mother in law, you are going to need a vacation!

 

i was just along for the ride. did what i was told. agreed a lot. i was up at 5am the day of the wedding standing in a ditch in rubber boots anlong side a highway cutting catails for the centerpieces. i had to bring them to my inlaws house, park in the driveway and honk the horn so my mother in law would come get them. wife didn't want me to see her. one tip:flask. put something mildly alcoholic in it so you can sip it and not get blasted. really helps. otherwise just relax. and you think you're nervous now? just wait until you are standing all by yourself at the front with EVERYONE in the church staring at you. try not to sweat! good luck.