Never heard that expression before, but that just made a lot of sense..

 

Personally, I think he is giving a lot more than you think. Doing dishes, running errands, laundry, and other assorted chores are giving...and...if I understand correctly, he seems to be giving much more than he is getting.

That type of relationship never works...ever.

FTR, I am happily married to a wonderful woman and have been for the last 10 years...and we both give...alot.

Edit: I wanted to add a little more info from my experiences. I have been married three times; my first marriage ended with me becoming a widower; the second marriage ended in a bitter divorce from a woman that sounds exactly like your girlfriend; this marriage, my third (and last), is the best and strongest.

Here's why: When we started dating in 1998, I was on active duty in the Navy. The first thing I told her was if she tried to make me choose between her and the Navy, the Navy would win. We got married in 2000 and transferred to Italy in 2002 and back to the states in 2004. When I retired in 2007, I was a Chief Petty Officer whose wife was the envy of almost every Chief in the Mess. My wife likes riding motorcycles with me; she has her own 2004 Honda VTX and I have my own 2004 Harley Electra-Glide; she does not enjoy bike rallies but doesn't mind if I ride to one solo. This is because she knows without a doubt that I will never stray, I know this about her as well. She loves the symphony, the opera, plays, and wine tastings; I do these with her and enjoy them, even though she knows that sometimes I really want to be doing something else. She loves watching college football on Saturday afternoons and rooting for the Saints.

I am in school part-time pursuing my degree in Homeland Security Studies; she has a degree in Communications and she's taking piano lessons. I work on my truck and bike whenever they need it; she brings me iced tea (or coffee in the winter) and chats with me sometimes about what I am doing to the truck or the bike. She is currently painting the living room and I help her by moving furniture, the ladder, etc. She likes to paint solo, so I leave her alone and give assistance when she rquires it.

Yes, we have the occasional argument, every normal couple does. The difference is, we each like our space and have no problem giving the other that "me time" when it is needed or wanted. We cook together and clean the kitchen together after dinner every night. On my days off, I help by doing the laundry, cleaning the bathrooms, etc. Our marriage is happy and stable and neither one of us could ever imagine being to each other the way the OP's girlfriend is with him.

You're right, not every relationship is destined to work...you and I just happen to be lucky people.

 

Add your name to your sig line and maybe we'll all remember it!! LoL!!

 

its there lol its in red.

 

Oh, I see it now!! All the way over there ===========================>

Ha! Ha!! Ha!!!

 

lol i had to make it a challenge

 

You know...reading these reply's reminds me of a guy I used to work with in a different job who had a buddy who was having trouble with his bossy GF. As the story goes, this guy had a few handguns which he owned for target shooting for fun and as a small collection. Apparently the GF didn't like guns or like the fact he owned a few and told him to either lose the guns or lose me. She wanted him to toss them off a very long and very high-up bridge into the water for good. So this guy not having any ***** to deal with her did just that. He took each handgun and placed them in a Ziplock bag, thinking he could later retreive them from the water without damage and tossed them over in the middle of the night. The point here is things got so bad that bizzare acts were being done to try and save or make one happy. That is not happiness...that's extreem control and will only get worse. If things are that bad...get out and move on. She'll never be worth all the aggravation.

OJ