Some one mentioned it,...........its a 2 way street.
I hate to break it to ya' but women are people too........with distinct personalities, likes/dislikes, dreams, and real feelings too!
If you are gonna make it work, there must be a middle ground you both comfortably occupy. She will not want to work on trucks, shoot, go fishing etc. all the time and you are going to have to spend a fair amount of time doing things that make HER happy, but you have little interest in.
Give a little......soon you will find her warming up to your interests.
I have found myself wandering around estate sales and garage sales with the wife for years, BORING at first, but I eventually warmed up to it. Now my wife has become a good fisher-person and accomplished pistol shooter, along with being the occasional junkyard co-scavenger.........she hated it at first, but it soon mellowed until it did a 180 and she can't wait for such outings.........And yes, I have even had to go to that dreaded place called the mall, but it is worth it when she is smiling and bringing a 20" Rainbow trout over the side of the boat on a sunny spring day.

Some relationships are destined to never work,...... yours may be one?
But when you find one with real possibilities........Give a little!.....its worked for me for 26 years.

 

AMEN to that. If it worked that way there might not be anymore wars anywhere.
Great point.

Craig

 

I really don't know what to do guys: On one hand she just wants some attention; But when I give her attention, then turn it away to something else, she gets upset-No matter HOW LONG/MUCH attention I give her....

On the other hand, I can easily get up and walk off.....But I am the type of guy that seems to always ask "What could have been?"

And then it is really getting irritating about the whole school thing.....I am in school right now getting my general eduaction done, but I am almost to just say "F-IT!!!!".....I can not seem to get my work done, no matter how hard I try....And really can't see how art appreciation has to done with ANYTHING.....But oh well....I just know things seem to be on a fast track to know where with it...

And I understand to have anything in life it takes money, and to get more money is to go to school and get certified.....>But it just seems I am not cut out for it.....Now work, I see getting a job as being more important to me right now than driving 40+ miles to school for remedial classes that do not affect anything on my GPA....I feel like just walking in, giving them their little books back and saying the hell with it....

And then she starts on that subject: That to stay with her I have to stay in school......But she really doesnt have a clue how fedup I am getting....At all....


So I ask you guys this: Should I stay in school or not? It's not paying any bills at all, and if anything it is draining me dry....

-Wes

 

thats a tough question man i was going to go to school but with my recent divorce happyt fun time i cant causethe school i was going to go to was in texas i cant leave the state cause of my kids but ill tell ya one thing the girl your with aint worth it you can do a hell of alot better

 

It sounds like you are going to school for something you don't like, or love to do.

I am in a different boat, as I went to school for Welding (which I love), but I was working nights, and the last 2 classes I needed for my degree were night classes. I was recently hired on F/T at the time and there was absolutely no way I could do both.

Now, I would say stick with the school. A degree will follow you for the rest of your life. There is no guarantee a woman will do the same. JMHO though, as I don't know your whole story, and we are two completely different people.

Dump her, stick with school (for something you love to do), and do what you think will help you most in the future. Good luck!

 

fixed it for you.

 

im sure school will get easier if shes out of your life since there will be a little less stress on you

 

Maybe that's your biggest problem right there,,,

Why doesn't she know???

I assume you have not spoken with her about it???

Communication is the glue for a relationship,, don't tell us how you feel, tell her!!!

 

Once upon a time I was in a relationship with a beautiful girl who I loved beyond words. I gave up most of the things I loved to make HER happy. She of course had no interest in doing the same. In the end she broke up with me because I found out she had been cheating on me and had picked up a very bad habit along the way. She emptied out our checking account, stuck me with a chit stack of bills, and spread lies around to mutual friends about me. I was crushed because I had given so much of myself and in return I ended up with a crap load of problems.

On a certain "tear-in-my-beer" night, a friend finally snapped me out of it with a bit of advice. He said, there are millions of people out there in the world who share the same interests as you, have the same idea of a relationship as you, want the same out of life as you... and yet here you sit boo-hooing about someone who had NOTHING in common with you and was only concerned with themselves.

Now I'm with someone who wants to same things out of a relationship. I'm with someone who doesn't mind that sometimes I act like a total buffoon and who doesn't act mortified every time I open up my mouth to talk. Someone who doesn't mind that I throw money at my junk trucks because they know how damn HAPPY it makes me feel. Yes, I'm with someone who actually wants me to be just as happy as they are in our relationship....

Relationships take work, but you shouldn't feel dog tired at the end of everyday because of a relationship. Life is tough enough as it is.

P.S. Stay in school and get your degree. Even if you never pursue your major, that lil' piece of paper goes a long way out there in the world.

 

Ok fellars....Update-

Here's what is now going on: I am reverting back to diesel technology (I have about 3 classes finished in it already), told her whats' what and she seemed to understand.....And I just was hired at Little Caesars'
Pizza.....It'll help out a lot, since my "Oneryployment" is drying up.....

-Wes

 

cool things are lookin up for you wes

 

thanks R3....

-Wes

 

no prob wes you can call me nick if you want to lol

 

School isn't for everyone. I was going to school for a Business Management degree, just cause. Didn't like the classes, couldn't keep my attention, etc...in return, I got C's and D's. Took a step back and realized that if I'm bound and determined to get my degree, I'm going to have to change. So, I changed my major to Criminal Justice, and haven't looked back. I'm pulling my GPA up and yada yada, anyway...

Do what you love. As Dave Ramsey says, the main reason people get degrees is to make money, but if you can make that same money without a degree (trade craft, diesel tech, welder, etc) then do it.

My wife used to hate when I worked on my trucks. HATED IT. I gave it up for a while and nothing changed. When I realized this, I started working on them again whether it made her mad or not. We had a talk about it, and I told her "baby, you know how your horses make you feel? How much fun and enjoyment you get when you are riding or working with them?" She said "yeah..", "Well, that's what working on trucks do for me"

Since then, I ride horses with her, she'll bring me tools. She has even tried to convince me to quit the University and go to a Tech school cause she knows I'd enjoy it. She says
"Baby, I saw this today and can you put it on the truck"
"Oh, I like this, how hard would it be or cost"
"Truck broke down, do your thing" (which lately has been taking it to a dealer, still not a diesel tech )

If you LET women completely take away what you love, and try and change you from who you really are, you will resent her for it. Maybe not now, but eventually you will begin to hate how she breathes, the way she brushes her teeth and not even care if she lets a big one rip. You will feel exhausted at the end of the day, and feel even lonelier than if you were single. Yeah, the sex may be great, but that's what one night stands are for.

Don't LET her take what you love away from you, be willing to compromise if she will, but don't stop doing it.

If she fights it all the way, show her the door. Tell yourself "I don't need that stress in my life"

 

Well this advice will sound useless then, but, I think you need to hear it. Based on my own disastrous experiences with women I can tell you right now with all certainty that no matter how sweet she is, no matter how nice she is, no matter how good in bed she is, she is NOT worth all the aggravation you are dealing with.

This woman is a Class A goldigging, narcissistic, vapid, vain airhead. She will run you into bankruptcy, my friend.

You would do well to remember this little saying my grandma taught me years ago: Beware of the person that is nice to you but rude to the waiter (or mean to the dog).

Run away...now...very fast.