Hookers & Blow. *joking*

Lisa, there's a lot of good advice here in this thread.

You're a witty and beautiful woman, so I'm sure there's plenty of men for you to choose from.
Some people are jerks, and some put on a good act. (both men & women)
Don't worry yourself sick about someone else's shortcomings.

Personally, I think you need to stop asking "What am I doing wrong?" and start asking 'What do I want out of a LTR?'
'What is acceptable, and what am I willing to compromise on?'
Ask yourself 'Would I be friends with this guy?'

Just be sincere and have fun.
You deserve it.

 

Lisa,
I agree with Jim! You're a beautiful woman & you seem to know what you want.
My only suggestion would be to be patient. Love will find you. God has the perfect someone in mind just for you & he will provide you with that special someone when he feels the time is right!

Love is patient,
Love is kind,
Love does not envy,
Love does not boast,
......etc......
Love never fails!

 

I'm 20 years your senior, but it sounds like what I went through when I was dating. I grew up in a small rural area and dated a girl for about 2 1/2 years. She lived about a half hour away in another town. After we broke up, I had all kinds of guys saying that they taken her out for several serious dates....while we were supposedly seriously dating. It was really hard to trust anybody after that. There were several other dates after that who really despised men who were mean or abusive to women, only to find out that that's who they dated before and after dating me. I had several women tell me that they are really attracted to verbally or physically abusive men. I just can't understand that.
My advice is if you are really trying to find a decent man, (and I've heard all the man-bashing jokes. I know decent men don't exist. ) as fun as they are, avoid the bar scene. Yes, a bar can be a lot of fun and yes, I'm sure there are decent people in the bar, just not a high percentage. Join a church or at least some sort of social group or hobby club.
I'm not an expert on marriage by any means, but I've been married 19 years to a wonderful woman who put up with my many (or is it MAN?) faults and I've easily learned to put up with the very few that she has.
Good luck. When the right person comes along, hopefully your dating nightmares will be long forgotten.

 

Does your Husband or Boyfriend know you are using the computer???, lol....That was a joke.
I for one (being a man), like it when my wife laughs at my jokes. No matter how bad, how old or especialy how many times she has heard them.
I did not read all the replties but I saw/know and trust the people who have replied and I am sure it has been all good honest stuff but add the humor on your list too.
Don't look to hard...things will happen when you are not looking.
See you around!

 

Bewbs! (.) (.)



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OK, obviously a sense of humor is important.

For the most part, all you have to do is replace "men" where you have inserted what women want.

That'll just about do it. We want the same basic things...we just have a different way getting to the same destination....Happiness and the feeling of fulfillment.

 

My wife, the oldest of 7 children, quite a few of them only a year or two apart, always jokes about the time she was growing up and asked her mom about the birds and the bees. Her mom (always exhausted from raising all those kids) was telling her about the birds and the bees and told my future wife (remember who was only a little girl at the time) exactly what a man does when he has s*e*x with a woman.
So my future wife asked her mom: "How am I ever going to convince my husband to put his wanger (slang term folks) in to my box?" (Another slang term)
Her tired mom just replied: "Oh, trust me. You'll never have to ask him twice!"

 

And it took you a year to decide that?

You searching for anything in particular Donna? Or just thread mining?

 

Nope...I got what I want! Thanks for asking though.

 

Might as well throw my .02 in.

Comming from a "nice guy" that was be constantly in the "friend zone," I would say take a moment and step back.

You mention that you are friends with lots of guys, so odds are, you have said something to the effect to one of them, "I wish I could find someone just like you!" That is the worst thing to hear from a woman. You evidently get along great, she trusts you, she enjoys spending time with you, yet you are the farthest from her mind romantically, even though she is looking for "someone just like you."

BTW to answer that, "Well how can you beat the original?"

What is the worst that could happen? You live happily ever after.

My background,

In high school, I was known as the "nice guy." I was friends with all the HS girls and spent most of my time with them, trying to get them to see how great of a guy I was. I was young and inexperienced and did not realize what the "friend zone" was and how evil of a contraption it is that women put on men. After a while and constant rejection because I was "too good of a friend to go there," I pretty much gave up and took whatever attention I could get.

So I spent several years doing this, and out of no-where, I became friends with a woman that would become my wife. She started working at the same place that I did, and I was friends with all the women there, I would get them a stuffed animal as a birthday gift when they had a birthday. Well I guess this got my future wifes attention. Shortly afterwards I left for college and did not think much about it. When I came back for Thanksgiving break, I stopped by to talk shop and see how things were going with the whole gang, and she asked me to wait for her to get off work, I said sure, I thought nothing about it at the time.

So a little while later, I was sitting there, talking to one of my other friends that had just gotten off work, when she comes over, sits down next to me, and lays her head on my shoulder. I look at my other friend with the look of and he is looking at me like . So we continue to talk for a while and he has to go. Just as he gets up to leave, my future wifes mom shows up and sits down and starts talking to me. She worked there too and starting talking to me. I am totally freaking out at the time because her daughter has her head on my shoulder and being the "nice guy" this does not look good and I am the whole time.

Well after a while they have to leave, and my future wife gives me her phone number and tells me to call her later that night. I call and we really hit it off, start dating, get married, have kids, and 16 years later, we are still together.

What I did learn after dating a while was that she was not attracted to me because I was a "nice guy," but because I was confident. I knew what I was doing and did it well. This, plus other experience leads me to believe that women misconstrew arragonce of a bad boy to be the same as the confidence of a man. Nice guys have a hard time to be confident when they are constantly pushed into the "friend zone."

Just a nuget of my experience.

 

I'll be straight forward. I'm currently single and young (19). The one thing I miss more than anything from my past relationships is companionship. Which I include to be: someone to talk to, who understands me; someone to hold for minutes that feel like hours; and someone to send "happy Wednesday" flowers to.