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Spanking Moms Spur Aggession in Kids - ABC News

This is a study that finds that kids that are spanked are more 'aggressive'

Really....

I was raised by 2 loving parents who spanked me when they thought that I needed it. My dad actually only spanked me once.

I'm a pretty laid back individual.

My wife and I spanked our 2 kids as needed -- never really after they got older.

Kids are pretty mellow.

It can go bad. One of our neighbors, when I was a kid, used to paddle his son pretty regularly for little or nothing -- and hard too. (There was really nobody to report stuff like that to then). I've heard that the kid grew up to be pretty much the same.

On the other hand, I've seen young kids in public, who are completely out of control. Their parents make vague noises at them, but the kids just ignore them.

My point is that, at times, you need to get a kids attention. Time outs might work, although a lot of people restrain their kids to enforce the time outs. Spanking -- when needed and not out of anger-- also works well IMHO.

Just a rant. I'm actually glad that they said that most parents still do regard spanking as an effective tool.

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I have to agree, when permitted and i got to big for my britches i got spanked, and i like think i turned out alright. Parents these day's have no control over their kids at all, im sorry but trying to reason with your kid aint gonna work sometimes a good old fashion belt across the rear is just the ticket to set em straight. I work at Target and i see kids an their parents and they have no control, if i wouldn't get in trouble at work i'd do what i do everywhere else. Go up to the parent/s and tell em a good swat on the rear works wonders and they wont have to deal with an out of control kid. Alot of the time someone else over hears and agrees with me. And the sad thing is I'm only 18 and i have better parenting skills then some of them out there. Ok end of my rant

 

I spanked my kids, but never when I was angry!!! We both went to our rooms and had a time out first!! lol!!

When my kids "deserved" punishment, I stopped and asked myself,,,

Was this Childish Irresponsibility???

Or Outright Defiance???

Childish Irresponsibility NEVER got a spanking,, how can you spank someone just because they are young and don't know any better??? Grounding worked better for that!!

Outright Defiance,,, well that's another story.

And we always sat down and I made sure that they understood exactly WHY they were getting their swats!!

Never had to do it very often,, and my kids too are very mellow and level-headed adults.

 

I think they have the results backwards- aggressive kids get spanked.

 

My old man used a belt - it was about 2-inches wide and hurt like hell...

I've never used anything like that on my kid but I have given her taps in the back of the head to get her attention when she was younger... We've never had to resort to anything excessive - she's usually quick to pick up on things and was never much of a problem behaviorally... I guess we got lucky...

I see (and hear) the crying, screaming, undisciplined brats in the stores and it takes every fiber of my being to stop myself from walking up to them and back-handing them across the face... Just one good swift smack would be enough... The kid needs to learn that the world does not revolve around them and that, in the grand scheme of things, the world doesn't care whether they're alive or dead...

 

beatings are ok, but a tongue lashing can get results if delivered properly. begin with a good head pop to get their attention..start the scalding scolding, finish up with one last head pop followed with a long hard stare down. this will make them straighten up and fly right.

 

spanking kids when nessary is a good thing I don't know where they get there research BUT I was spanked as a child pretty regularly ( i was a bad a$$) and i turned out ok I have kept my nose clean (no police record )

spanking a kid for a failed test i thing is wrong the better punishment would have been no tv, computer/console, friends, or phone for one month or when your grades improve north of a C+.

 

From the time our kids were old enough to reason with them , my wife & I decided we could always out smart them . Spanked my son once (cause wife told me to) never even had to raise my voice to either of them other than that. We gave them choices & explained the consequences of their actions . If they wanted to stay up late ,it was their choice. No excuses in the morning when it was time to get up.Also , there were no consequences for the truth.Worked out well.They trusted us ..It was , a lot of work ,but very worth it .If you do have to spank a child ,as long as it is not in anger , I don't see it causing any harm. I hated being grounded . I wish I would have been spanked more (its over with sooner )

 

Parents' these days, for the most part, and ya notice, those kids that are out of control the parent's are usually kids' themselves....

 

When I was a kid, my Dad used to dole out the punishment.
Mom. . . well, she was 'an innocent bystander'. DAD was the disciplinarian!
I remember vividly, these words. "Stand back, Louise. I'll handle this."
(Oh boy, do I remember those words!!!)

Yes, Dad used a belt. He used to say, "You don't think I'm going to hurt my hand, do ya?"

I have been the recipient of many, many 'lessons taught'.
I recall one time. . . when we lived in Kingsport, TN.
Where we lived, there was a HUGE maple tree, and a HUGE weeping willow tree.
Well, Dad said, "Boy, go get me a switch. You need some 'direction'."

I went outside, and (being the smart_ _ _ that I was. . . some say that I am, still!), I got a maple leaf and stripped it until just the stem was left, and went back inside, for my 'direction'.
"Here, Dad. I'm ready."
Dad didn't think I was 'that' funny.

He went outside and ripped a tree out of the ground to show me what he meant! (Just kidding! What he DID get, though, looked like a tree in comparison to what I had retrieved!)
Dad got a nice willow branch and proceeded to really give me some 'direction'!!!

What I find amazing is that I can't remember what I did to deserve the 'direction', but, I sure remember the 'lesson'!!!!!!


As for me. . . . well. . . I am the disciplinarian at my house.
Yes, I have spanked my kids, but, only on rare occasions.
In general, I've got some really great kids, and as my dear old Dad has said (on many occasions), "Son, kids will teach YOU patience!"

He was sooooooooooooooooo right.

 

I'm a firm believer in the saying..."Spare the rod and spoil the child."

We were spanked growing up and my siblings and I bear no scars from it.

 

I was spanked a few times, grounded many times and had the talk hundreds of times. Dad always did the spanking and never used anything but an open hand and never above the belt.

My oldest daughter was defiant as hell as a youngster. She was spanked quite regularly until she was 5-6 years old. She finally figured it all out and became a very splendid young lady.

My youngest learned from her sister what not to do.

It bothers me that discipline has left the homes and the schools. Too many parents will not allow the school to correct poor behavior and yet fail to correct it themselves.

Likewise, too many people are spooked by spanking their kids. Sooo many people butt their noses in other people's business and threaten legal action and such.

There is never a need to abuse a child, leave stripes on their bodies or otherwise use extreme force.

 

Kids used to get "disciplined".........grew up to be normal adults.
Kids used to play war with toy guns.............there were no school shootings.

Haven't things things gotten better since we became "enlightened"?

 

My sister and I usually didn't get hit unless we did something REALLY bad or embarrasing. My parents were not abusive at all, thats just the way kids were dealt with when they were defiant. We learned not to be defiant after the punishment. My moms famous lines were: "Wait till dad gets home...." that was usually said when the school would call the house and my teacher would tell my mom what I did to get in trouble. Or "wait till we get out of here" if we were being defiant in public. That usually meant a quick backhand in the car lol! The first line used to send a chill down my spine. Dad had no patients for outright defiance! My sister and I fought like 2 cats in a bag when we were little. My moms weapon of choice besides the back of her hand was a spatula or a slipper. If we acted really bad when dad was home, his weapon of choice was "the strap". Did their actions make me an agressive adult. HELL NO! Im glad they kept us in line with "tough love". My folks raised us the same way that they were raised and they are wonderful people and are excellent role models. I never feared my parents because I rarely acted out to where i needed to get slapped. But when I did, it was a while before i acted that way again cause I knew what the consequences would be. I see many children in the world who could use a bit of tough love. Drives me nuts when i see a parent trying to bargain with a smart mouthed little brat in a store with promises of ice cream or mc donalds. Just let them spend a day with my mom!

 

Growing up, I was spanked with a belt or a hand and Mom was definitely angry when she was doing it. I'm not a basket case because of that. As a parent, I'm not afraid to give my girls a smack in the rear when they need it. But its probably been close to a year since the wife or I have done it and its never been done in anger. We both laugh when we go out in public and see parents trying all that "book" type stuff with their kids. And don't get me started with parents who count!