Update.... Dropped the pan the fluid was fairly dark. There was a small amout of fine metal in the pan. I had ordered the direct solenoid and I installed it after cleaning up the pan. I also changed the external filter while I was at it. Changing the solenoid was a breeze took like 3 minutes. The truck is back together and so far reverse dosent shudder and the truck shifts thru all the gears. It does seem like it is slipping around 5th. I know at this point I'm on borrowed time but at least I have bought some time before I have to get it rebuilt. I would like to say thanks to doug@ gogo. I have talked to him a few times and he has a awnsered any question I gave him and got the solenoid to my door next day. I couldn't ask for anything more and I would reccomend him highly. He knows his stuff!
Also didn't think about it but before I had gauges I did have a shift flare between 3-5th that was caused by the edge juice with attitude that I had set to stock used only as gauges. I ditched the edge and got gauges but again that was a year or so ago.