If she is the "one", I would stay with her. I'm talking soulmate type stuff. Jobs can be found, sometimes great ones are few and far between, but really good women that you love may only come once in a lifetime. Been married over 27 years and would not trade my wife for any job.

 

if she was the "one" i wouldn't think there would be any asking going on in the first place.

many times the "transfering" is a hint at something else.

is she begging you to go with her?

 

YEP gotta agree here!!!!

 

when reading this thread this song popped into my head.........should I stay or should I go now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ag8J...eature=related

 

Yeah she is. she is always trying to find a way to make it all work. She has a lot of family out there and has even made it so I could rent one of her uncle's houses pretty cheap if I wanted it. I still don't know what I want. I'm just going to let it ride a little and then start thinking about it. As crazy at it sounds, I really think she is the one, but I don't want to mess up my life with either decision I make. We spend all our free time together and love every second of it. After 2.5 years, I love her more everyday. I know I'm only 19, but I don't want to give up the girl of my dreams jsut because I'm 19. Heck, I could be 30 and still not be as happy as I am now.

 

Dude, go for it...You're only 19, you can't screw your life up too bad yet...You're at an age that you don't really have anything tying you down to one place. If it doesn't work out you can start out again somewhere else...You sound like you want to go, so go...You have my blessing.

Tim

 

I got married when I was 19. I would not even think about going back and doing anything different. She was the one and still is. If you know this, you can work through anything. Sounds like she feels like you are the one. Go for it.

OH and btw, we have been married over 27 years.

 

Keep your job. Who knows...you two could break up in 3 months and you'll be screwed! I've seen it happen to a couple that was together, and engauged for 4.5 years. They were seperated within 3 weeks.

You need a job to survive in this world...NOT a woman.

 

Good ones are rare, for sure. You can spend your whole life regretting not trying hard enough with someone...but I've never heard of someone pining over an untried job.

 

http://msn.careerbuilder.com/custom/...256723944-JG-5

 

Very interesting data. What it boils down to for me is if I can get a transfer that is just like the job I have now, I'll consider going. If not, we'll have to come up with some other plans. She seems like she doesn't have her heart set on Michigan yet, so maybe she'll change her mind. It'd be great if she went somewhere around her, but that would jsut make everything too easy!

 

There a two couples I went to high school with. They dated through high school, became "high school sweethearts" and later married. I recently attended my 25th high school reunion and both couples are still happily married. If it was meant to be, things will end up working out. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

 

You can be without, just let her go and you will see the light. At 19, you shouldnt be having those "cant be without" feelings.

 

OK boys, here's a great twist. We were talking about this last night and how if I go it better be worth it. I said if you have anything to tell me, you better tell me know" Her reply was basically that he male "friend" might be a little more than that. She said she didn't do anything with him, but she might like him more than she should, but she would choose me over him anyday. Then I wanted to see her phone to look at her text messages and she freaked out and deleted everything. Before she delted them, I noticed probably the last 10 were from him. All those "I'm just texting my female friends" might have been wrong. She said it had only been going on for a few weeks. I got really pissed off. Told her where she could go and to _ _ _ ) off. She started crying. I put on my shoes and left her house. Climbed up in my truck, turned off the cell phone, fired that bad boy up and left a nice long burnout it front of her house. Drove the long ride home and went to bed. Woke up this morning, went to work for 12 hours and still feel like never speaking to her again for the rest of my life. I think we both made it obvious we're done. Called her "friend" and he spilled pretty much everything. It had been going on for three weeks, just talking and texting. She'd call him and tell him I'm coming over and not to call her until I left. He said he knew what he was doing was wrong. I told him I'll ring his neck next time I see his dumb a_ _. I hope they're both happy. I'm done with the whole situatuion. Atleast now I have my choice made for me.

 

Damn, she made that easy. That sucks though.