This is just a rant over an injustice I'm witnessing that can have no other outlet.

Maybe some of the younger guys can take a lesson.

I know this couple. 30-somethings. Three young kids, house, dogs, cars. She stays home with the kids mostly and from time to time tries her hand at a part-time job on the side. He's a business owner who does well. Really nice guy - very calm.

Well a little while ago she decides she's just not sure she's happy in her marriage. No particular reason. He bugs her. She's not sure she's loves him anymore. she needs some personal space. Some time alone to discover if she really loves him or not. Some freedom to explore her feelings about her place as wife and mother.

So Mr. Nice Guy rents her an apartment nearby so she can have "her own space" and pays her "child support" to cover all her living expenses.

Mrs. Dipstick lives in spoiled brat la-la land. What does she do with his largesse? Enrolls in a full time arts course - painting. Useless. Self-indulgent. And within a week has this 20-something fellow student spending most evenings there "doing homework" - on the couch. While the husband works to pay for it all thinking that the mother of his children is doing some serious soul-searching about their marriage.

But to the rest of the world I'm sure that she comes off as this bright, pleasant, happy woman that is easy to like and gives little indication of the ignorant, self-centred, vile treachery she and those like her are capable of visiting on a nice guy.

 

Isn't it nice we have this place to rant? Mine is coming in a few minutes.

Anywho, sounds like Mr. Nice guy needs some sage advice from some of his closest friends. If you are friends with him Fred, I'd have a talking to him. Maybe I am being overly judgemntal of her, but she sounds like a golddigger to me! I would encourage him to send her butt packin, and fight for custody of the kids.

Yup, those womens is out there, thank God mine ain't one of them. I bet we see her soonly telling tales of his abusive nature and the reason why she left him blah, blah, blah. She'll divorce him, want half or more of the business earnings and all the kids.

 

stop paying for her free ride, till she files for divorce, and tries to get a court order. then go before the judge with documentation of all the things she has done between the time she left, to show how she has been hosing you.

 

Well I am a female and to me it sounds like needs some kind of talking to and so does the husband, to me she sounds like she wants her cake and eat it but it can't be that way. She sure needs a realality check. Maybe I am wrong but that is my thought. I just hope the guy goes not get raked over if you know what I mean.
Mike always says that he found himself a angel from heaven when he got me the guys he works with worship him by how I am with Mike they always tell me when they see me boy Melissa you have to talk to my wife and tell her how to be a great wife lol. Ask Mike sometime how I am he will tell you.

 

well to add to melissa's post. i will put as the guys at work say " if i walk through sh-- she would be there to clean it up" it is not that extreme but we both love and respect each other. and totally understand our relation ship is work. but us as a team makes it work out great. over 11 years and counting, and can count our fights on 1 finger(actually don't need the finger) we never go to sleep mad, and always talk everything out.
with that i am jealous of all other guys( i never get the make up sex) lol

 

The guy must know whats going on, he couldn't be that blind. He may not want to believe it (you know, blinded by love and all that) but he must see it.IMO, I'd be careful about discussing the situation with him, cause he knows his wife and she knows him probably better than anyone, and it could backfire and have the both of them all over you. Just my .02, for what it's worth.

 

I feel sorry for the kids.

 

love is blind.....this guy has no clue... I've watched it twice

once with my best freind who'es girlfreind (of 5 years) stayed at college for another year to finish her masters degree...

She became involved with a political group, next thing ya know, she and this kid from the group are ALWAYS hanging out, then theyre watching movies together then sleepiing over after hanging out.

I kept telling my freind that she's screwin around on him, she kept stringing him along....he wouldnt believe anyone, untill i produced pictures (had another freind "stalk " em)



the second and more recent time, was my sister in law...... was was engaged to a really great guy, but he worked days, she worked 3rd's at a hospital...

natrually the closeness of not sleeping in bed together isnt there, well, then she found an ambulance driver to fullfill that need... 6 months later, she has us all practically convinced that my freind is a control freak and its causeing serious issues in thier relationship.....

THEN we catch her with ambulance guy at walmart while she's supposedly working"... turns out she would also use some "family room" at the hospital with this guy while thier kids were in another room....

Turns out eerything she was telling us for the last 6 months is total BS.. the ambulance guy is married with kids as well

aww well play in shiznit, smell like shiznit

 

This sounds like a case for CHEATERS. Nothing like video in a court. Worse, she is an unfit mother.

 

In as much as this may be true, the courts rarely see it this way....unless you're the man in the relationship. It is Woman good, Man bad, in most if not all family courts these days.
The guy needs to file for divorce asap to keep from getting "taken" any more than he's going to be by the divorce itself. The longer you wait, the more you lose. And if anybody is keeping track, it's never "cheaper to keep her" ever. You just end up miserable AND broke, instead of just broke.

You could say that I'm highly qualified to comment on this.

 

is the wife atractive enough for the 20 something kid and visa versa? that usually helps for someone to engage in activities with each other. other than that, its very unhealthy for the kids

 

I need more information. How much time does this guy spend with his family? Does he work 40 hour weeks...or 60 hour weeks? Im not placing any blame on her right now without more info. Is he 'there' for her, or does he just 'pay the bills'?

 

Sounds like to me she married too young.

I guess it's true that there is a sucker born everyday since he is paying her way.

 

Yeah, what he said.

To add to that, be very careful what you say to him about his wife. If they get back together and live happily ever after, you will end up the bad guy.

 

people in love would never act like this anyway. maybe he is still, but she defintly is not.

sure, all the excuses in the world will come out from her about her behaviour, but in my opinion, point is she wants to screw around with other people because she got married based on passion, not love and the passion has faded.

and any guy who would put up with this for one second is an idiot.

but if confronted, i bet that the woman, as always, will place the blame on him for whatever obscure reason she can think of.