My mom left my dad when I was six-months-old. She never told him where we were and I never even saw him until I was five. She always talked bad about him. I hated him so much as I grew up because he never called me or sent birthday cards... just a whole lot of nothin'! But then I grew up more and realized that he couldn't contact me as he never knew where we were! All those years I hated him unjustly! I should have been hating my mom! But, I understand why she did it, she was trying to punish him... Well guess who got punished in the end? I have since spent a lot of time trying to develop a relationship with him. It was not his fault! I know that now. My point is, you're kids may have the same realization one day.... Be there for them if/when they do. They got screwed too!

 

King Triton, I don't see you as the bad parent! Not at all. You have done great! The mom of the oldest 2, should have been drawn and quartered English style. And as for her child molesting ex. I hope he got what he deserves 10 fold!


Speaking ill will of another parent children without any proof to back it up. Is stupid and in the end the kids come to resent the parent speaking it.
As a proud parent of 6. I never speak anything I feel about the wifes ex's or my ex's in any sort of bad way. My oldest is from my ex-wife and 19 this December. We only became closer when she turned 14. Because her mom was speaking ill of me and she saw that her mom was full of chit.
Our 15 year old daughter, 13 year old daughter and 11 year old son are from my current wife. They each have different fathers. None of which pay anything for child support.The oldest is the only one to have any contact with her father. The rest have the phone number and address and don't attempt to contact their kids.
I couldn't love each of them any more, even if they were born of my blood.
Our 8 year old daughter and 5 year old son are from an ex-girl friend. I met my wife a year after, I split off from my ex and the oldest of the 2 was 5 years old.
I would never consider myself a good parent. I will let my kids decide that in the end. I consider myself a parent and a dad.

Huge hugs to you Snowbunny!

 

Any parent that can instill honesty and respect in their children is a good parent. The greatest gift a parent can receive is when their children thank them for all they have done for them. For all those stepfathers out there( including myself) anyone can father child, it takes something really special to be a Dad...

 

Meh, don't let the words of a lush bother you.

 

ya know, king, life and the internet have alot in common.. everyone has an opinion some are good some stink, and not everyone who says something has the slightest clue what they are talking about. Given your ex wife's track record a comment like that from her should mean as much to you as one of those people who tell you the sky is falling

You know who you are and what you are as to anyone elses opinon let em kiss your rump cause frankly isnt what you and your circle thinks of you what matters and not the rest of the world???

what s that thing they say dont sweat the petty stuff?? ( or is it dont pet the sweaty stuff) but i think you get my drift
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I guess the thing that ticks me off most is,after living with their mother for almost 30yrs now,you would think they would be able to piece things together and figure things out!But then they may not want too,due to the fact that they both live on the land she swindled out of her last husband.And not only have the two of them disowned me,but they both disowned their little sisters and brothers!The younger of the two had started communicating with the one in the Air Force,but after things went bad between us,She quit talking to her own sister!MAN,I only hope I am around when karma pays the mother back for causing this!

 

Amen to that ranger! Amen!

Right back at ya, DM!