so i met this girl from a freind. we've been hanging out and talking alot(over a hundred textmessages in a 4 day peorid.) . about good month or so now. but this is my delima- I am leaving on the 13th to go to school. now i dont know if she sees me as a freind or something more. but i see her more than a freind. should i tell her how i feel or not? and ask her how she feels aobut me? or not say anything at all?

 

Text her how ya feel, play it as a partial joke, or at least something that can be taken as a joke if shes not into ya.

 

Ask her this: "So...what are your plans for the rest of your life ?"

Let us know what she says

 

are you going to college type school? if so i personally would,nt set your intire sites
on her, and you know what they say THERE MANY FISH IN THE SEA. but of course
if she is everything to you then let her know, better to know now than later after
you wasted alot of time.

 

Text messages? Do your phones do voice? It is an interesting way to communicate, requires no cute coded words and will permit you find out what you're seeking ..... by asking.

 

AND....it wont give you a triple digit phone bill!

A friend of mine had a $226 phone bill for around 65-70 text messages.

You can send me all the messages you want...but dont expect one in return. I would much rather call ya


And about the girl: If you feel very strongly towards her...then tell her! I made the mistake of not saying something back in High School...and I havent seen her since

 

How old are you? If you are young and starting out then figure it is probably going to be a long time and many women before you meet the "Right One". Rarely is the first one of two the "One". Don't worry about it. Plus if you are young, your mind will change a lot between now and the time when you are really ready, so don't jump at the first fish that wiggles by.

If you are headed off to college, you can be friends and keep up the text messaging etc. If she is on the same cell service as you, calls to each other are free in most networks. If she is interested and you give her any sign, she will keep contact.

Going away to school is a perfect excuse(maybe the best of all) to tell her that you really like her and would like to "talk" to her during the school year. Give her all your contact info and tell her you would love to hear from her while you are at school. Plus of course you will have her contact info too, so you can always initiate things and see what happens.

My dad gave me the best advice. Just talk to the woman. You will know where things are going if you get into casual conversation. Women love to talk. And I don't mean talk like us guys do, grunting and scratching and saying little. Talk on anything and everything and listen.

Chances are you guys will keep contact for awhile and then drift apart. This happens and is nothing to be bothered about. If it is going to work, it will work.

One last thing, take up letter writting. This is one thing my wife really cherished about our courtship. Lots and lots of intimate letters. At least for me, I can and will say things that are hard for me to verbalize. Many a woman has been conquered by the pen. My wife and I both have saved our letters to each other from way back. If this is the "One" those letters will be a treasure.

But always remember, as Albert Gibson said, "Women, can't live with them, can't kill them". This is literally true, so get used to it. BTW this is from True Lies, ToOm Arnold.

Jim Henderson

 

yea im young only 20. im going away to the great lakes maritime academy. the school is aobut 4hrs away from where we live. as far as writing i'll have to try that one. as soon as she gets back from vacation i'll tell her.

 

yea man go for it. If i was you id do the classic wait till yall have been hangin out after an hour or so and be like oh hey you want to go see "insert movie here" or something of that nature. Or go get lunch, something you can play off that friends normally do, from there you gotta look for signs, give signs, see how she takes them and go from there. If worst comes to worst shell say no, but hey man your going to be in college youll be surrounded by chicks, and they wont be far from you. Either way good luck.
p.s. If you have confidence then you wont fail, come on your the ladies man, this aint no biggie.

 

I think all us older guys can agree that the only real mistake you can make with women in general is not communicate your feelings. Since we don't "do" sublety very well, that means spell it out in plain English. If she sez no, you can move on quickly, or at least plan your actions according to the response you get.

 

That's classic! Thanks for the laugh dono!

Just call her and tell her how you feel. Spoken words along with facial expressions mean so much more than typed words.

 

If you can see her in person, all the better.

 

Hey Ranger,
I'm NOT gonna say you're too young to find your soul mate. She's gonna land in your lap when it's time. I will tell you this, because time's not really on your side because of your departure for school, if you feel certain that you should make a move, you'd better do it.

The risks you DON'T take, will be your only regrets.

And noone wants those especially when it comes to love. Besides, women like confident men. I wouldn't worry too much if she's not into you as much as you might be with her, because you ARE young, and the world is YOUR oyster. You'll want to know where you stand with her now, rather than later, so view this time as a really big (and good) opportunity.

On the other side of the coin, DO remember, that young girls don't often know what they want either and are incredibly flighty. They romanticize love and relationship like a "shiny penny syndrome". Long distance relationships are VERY VERY hard, and not always a good way to start off, especially not knowing each other very well.

 

That's funny right there. I don't care who you are, that's funny!
Compliments of Larry The Cable Guy

 

Unless she will going to the same school as you, forget about it. A girl left behind to travel back and forth to, just complicates your life. Concentrate on your education for now. You will meet someone in school with common interests. Keep focused on a high grade point average, get the gals after the smell of big paycheck surrounds you . Forget the mens musk oil, money is the best cologne out here to lure the gals.