Gentlemen,

Bringing a recent debate with an acquaintance to this board.

Regarding some guys' penchant for going after other men's women. My acquaintance (and I won't use the word 'friend' because I could never have such a person as a friend) took the position that whatever you can get you should take. Other guys' girlfriends, wives, fiancées - all fair game. Even when he's received no overt signals from the target - that is, he's more than happy to go on the offensive.

I know he's not alone, and I am often sickened by this adolescent self-centred lack of brotherhood with fellow men. Couples are going about their lives happily. Be a man and leave them alone. A true hunter finds his own free-roaming prey - it's the lowly scavengers who try to steal scraps from others. These bottom-feeders just spread discord, enable and amplify sleaze. For their slimy selfishness, target couples have to have natural human insecurities churned up needlessly and deal with them. And if the guy is in their social, community or professional sphere, there's the long-term thorn left in their side living in proximity to a slimeball they now know is just waiting for the normal passing cracks that appear over the years, to exploit. These guys seem to think of themselves highly. They appear ignorant that the real men of the world, the decent men who live by a code of masculine forthrightness and decency, consider them slimy trash, an embarassment to manhood, garbage.

 

unfortunately, there are women that do the same. My wife's ex was with one, and after my now wife dumped him, she wanted nothing to do with him... I have always had a rule not to mess with friend's girlfriends or wives, and if I know someone is married, and not separated, I don't get invovlved, because there is a lot of trouble to come from monkeying around like that, not to mention my own morals... besides, the old saying what goes around comes around, how are they going to feel when it happens to them in the same fashion?

 

You ought to see them going after the military spouses as soon as the husbands deploy. Makes me want to start shooting.

Chris

 

i'd never make a pass at my friend's girl. you don't try to steal your friend's girl, or one night stand his sister. but if some lady isn't being taken care of that's another story. now if the boyfriend is a psycho with a gun collection and a violent criminal record you might want to think if the risk is worth it but it's really nobody else's business.

 

I would never chase after a lady who was already in a relationship. But you guys make women sound like they are deer browsing in a field waiting to be picked off. Unless someone is attacked and forced to do something against their will, it still takes two to tango. The person doing the chasing is wrong for starting it and the person being chased is wrong if they don't put a stop to it.