We went to dinner( I bought ) and then we went to walmart then to krispy cream. OK it was me her and her sister then we went bowling. Her sister's boyfriend showed up We had a blast. Well I thought so anyways. she rode with me and she said what a great guy I have turned out to be dispite my upbringing and put her hand on my thigh. like she was going after something. She said at the bowling alley that she was tired and she acts kinda pissy when she gets tiered( her words) so don't take anything personal.. OK good. On the way to drop her off she said she wanted to just remain friends and thats all. And said that she does not like to be touched( massauges, hugs) and made me promise that whatever happens that we will never loose touch. While she fell asleep she was VERY cold because I keep my AC on in my car ALL the time. So I pulled over and got a blanket out of my trunk and opened the pass door and covered her up When I got to her misu montero sport (her suv) she woke up and then thanked me for covering her up and that I was very sweet for doing that. Her sister thinks she treats me like trash and that she does not like it and they have faught about that even though I tried to avoid it. Her sister seems to like me more than she does even though she has a boyfriend. She has this name that she calls me (turbo) "long story" and her sister started calling me that which I have not a problem with at the alley they had me put on screen as BIG "D" and when we left the parking lot her sister shouted "bye BIG "D" ". I like everyone even the sisters boyfriend he is really cool. I don't want to hert anyone here.
Mom asked me if I wanted to take her to my graduation dinner (Outback steakhouse) that is a week away. I told mom that she is flakey and that it might be a waste. I told her at least my best friend will not back out or pull that crap
I'm new at this as you can tell so I will post as needed if you guys don't mind
Dustin

 

Now you know how us older guys feel

Some of us have had years of this turmoil

Here's something to think about.

As we go through life we meet many different personalities.

I would never have what should be a meaningful relationship with someone I don't like.

You love someone <> You need to like them first <> once you don't like them <> The Love drains real quick.

Every great couple I know that is still together started out as friends, as they grew older ,they understood just how important it was to have friendship that made their reason for marriage.

Not thet you would consider marriage at this time but as an alert to you !

I know of too many marriages that had Physical Attraction,reason of convenience,financial necessity,as the basis or their relationship.

IMO,These never work out in the long run.

I still say play the field,a person never knows what they had until it's gone.

 

Don't worry it gets easier.

Nah never mind just gets harder and more expensive.

 

I wouldnt try to take it anyfarther than her. I would just kinda place her in the "just an aquiantance" (sp?) step of the ladder of friends. Kinda like if she tells you to screw off, no big deal it dont phase you. If she says your an awesome guy, well all the better. Its hard to explain I guess. Ive had so much of this kind of crap happen to me though that its just natrual instinct to place any new girl in that category. It seems to make it all better though cause I guess they me as playing hard to get and are attracted to that? I dunno, but it seems like they call me alot more now. Who knows. I wouldnt loose sleep over that girl though. She seems like the kind of girl who wouldnt be able to make up her mind. One minute she wants you, the next she just wants to be friends.

 

Run. Run like you are on fire. Don't stop.

 

If she is unable to commit to you, why should you commit to her?

If she is giving you the “I like you as a friend” then you know she see you only as a friend and you should take it as that. Go find another person that will treat you the way that you would like.

 

Drop her like a hot potato

 

But you have to at least STOP, DROP & ROLL!

-Matt

 

Lol you guys are great.

"Just friends" means she's already made up her mind that you two aren't going to go anywhere. Rather then taking her out...you can take that money you'd have spent, change it to 1 dollar bills, and....

 

I think that says it all. You have made a friend. Leave it at that. You can't have too many friends. If you both want to do something together, each should pay his/her own way, as you would with other friends.

It sounds like you are interested in the sister. Dangerous territory here.
Well, I don't know. If you are not worried about losing the 'friend'... maybe. I wouldn't. If you stay in the same circle of friends, and the sister is really interested, she'll let you know, I think. (Has anyone ever made "the switch"?)

I agree with Mil1ion, friendship could progress to more, but play the field.

JMO, worth what you paid for it!

 

As my one buddy always says, you have to slay a few dragons to get to the princess Pretty wise for a 22 year old!

 

"....just remain friends...."

This is the mating call of an attention (scarlet woman).

As Matts72 already said, RUN!

 

Sounds like you were gettin led on a little there bud (footin the bill). Maybe she's playin' hard to get? You're young, there's a million (well about 135 million (U.S.)) fish in the sea. You'll know when you find the right one. Don't get in a big hurry.

 

(Has anyone ever made "the switch"?)

Actually, twice.

 

Attaboy!