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Mar 22, 2005 | 09:01 PM

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trike1946

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I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. We had to take my father off the respirator last Nov. and sit with him and wait. He lasted about 12 hours. I am 58 and am not sure I am grown up. I miss my father. For those of you who still have their fathers with them, and mothers too, don't wait to say the things you always wanted to tell them. Don't think you have a lot of time. Love them now. Things change in the blink of an eye.
f1, my prayers are with you. I pray God will strengthen you for the road of life ahead.

Mar 27, 2005 | 10:19 AM

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f15terwitha6ter

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Thanks everyone, He had a nice feneral service.

Mar 27, 2005 | 11:22 AM

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Ghostgunn

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I think we are all just kids spending the rest of our lives trying to figure out the " right " thing to do in each situation. You are certainly not alone in your feelings in that field, you have been dealt a great amount of pressure to deal with - luckily you seem to be very focused and have a goood head on your shoulders. I wish you luck, and happiness, as well as for the rest of your family. I , like everyone on this forum are very sorry to hear for your loss. Remember to take care of yourself as you are busy worrying about others.

Mar 27, 2005 | 11:43 AM

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No time to waste!

I didn't have that experience till I was 38. I felt immortal until I started watching my elders pass away one by one. Life is short, so take care of yourself and family and try live each day as if you are going tommorrow.

I think it is a good time to start planning trips to the doctor for you and your sisters. It would be good to keep an eye on your cardiac health.

After my Dad died I got a tattoo honoring him, and I have been wearing his leather jacket for almost five years now. The jacket is ripped, worn out and stinky, people look at me like I am nuts for wearing it, but it is comfortable and it was my Dads. Grab something that belonged to your father and keep it, a wallet, a belt, a penknife, or a favorite fishing pole, anything at all, it is good to hold onto the memory of him.

You will be a better person than your father, it is what he would want.

Mar 27, 2005 | 12:39 PM

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FLgargoyle

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I am sorry for your loss. I understand, because my dad also passed at 46, and I was only 12. I wish I had more mementos of him, so hold on to what you can. And learn from this; to take better care of yourself, get more check-ups, and urge those around you to do the same. My father died of lung cancer; I've made it a point to try to get my loved ones to give up smoking. I think on some level, none of us ever feels completely grown up, and that is a good thing. I am 51; my son will soon be 18, and yet sometimes I'm very much a small scared boy, or a happy-go-lucky kid. You and your family are in my prayers today.

Mar 27, 2005 | 06:16 PM

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jake00

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Man that really sucks, being 25 myself, I can relate. I don't know what I would do if one of my parents passed away. I can offer some words of encouragement. My best freind "had to grow up" at age 16 when his very healthy father passed away suddenly. He was able to do it, When I'm having a crappy day, I ask him how he does it. He says he's got 2 options, sit there, give up and cry, or keep moving forward.

Mar 27, 2005 | 07:21 PM

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sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom mid november lastyear from complications of a liver trasplant.
Its been tough. but just rember that he/she loved you.