With my college classes getting ready to start Monday, I would like to ask for any tips or suggestions you can give me to help make some friends. How did you and your best friend meet?

 

I lived in the dorms last year, and some of the people on my floor and in my classes that I didn't like at first became good friends of mine. So, don't pass people off the first time you meet them, give them a second chance and let them grow on you.

 

ranger,

you will find plenty of friends at school, just stick to your studies and come out with a great education. how i met my best friend was at a highschool football game, well actully afterwards, i had a 72 ford truck with a bored out 360 with 3 on the tree, he had a chevy truck with what he thought was a hopped up 350, we ended up at the same stop light, and after my ford walked all over his but, we pulled over at the pizza joint had a beer and like they say the rest is history.
he now drives a ford. how great it is ..enjoy your education.
later,
lee

 

I came to college 5 years ago with my best friend from high school, and that's it. Everyone else to us was new. We were in a dorm that had an awful social life, and spent the first few nights just walking around west philly and trying to meet people. Sometimes it's tough, because everyone is the bada--, the cool guy, the hot girl...yadda yadda. Unimportant if you're yourself. On the first few nights, we actually had a knock on the door from a girl that lived just downstairs who ended up being from my friend's gradeschool and she invited us over to her BF's house. We had a great time, met with hhis friends, and everyone was great. About a week later, they asked us to pledge their fraternity. My roomate and I swore we wouldn't join a fraternity, thinking that we'd become the drunken meathead types. Well, we broke our promise, and met some of the greatest people, a huge majority of whom I still keep in very close touch with, and almost all of my good fortunes were somehow linked to the House. Jobs, girlfriends, best friends...good times. I don't know where you're going, but check it out. It's not for everybody, but just don't give it a cold shoulder.

 

I tend to make friends slowly, in the circles I travel in- work, church, leisure activities ( I am in community theatre and musical organizations). My best friend is the father of my son's best friend- we met working on school activities together. Try to put yourself in situations where you will meet YOUR kind of people- don't go to the opera if you hate opera and prefer heavy metal!

 

Are you a shy guy or out going. If your outgoing like I usually make friends pretty fast. I can talk to about anybody. Im not afraid off people. Im usuallly the one that start a conversation. People are alwys impressed when you go up to them and start a conversation. They feel important. Common intersts as well helps. I admire people who make there trucks stand out in a crowd. By there looks and there efforts on it. I make it a poin to compliment them on it and talk about there truck. Man they will think you are the greatest when you do that. Remeber peoplethinkhatthey are the most important thing around. Take chances,talk to people,dont be afraid. Everybody wants to be liked. You never have too many friends. The first step is to make one. Afer that its easy. Let people know around.

 

Well ranger, I was a loner in school...a shadow. I didn't have but maybe one "friend" and that was uncertain how much of a friend he was. I was too concerned about getting through school.

As for how I met my best friend, well I married her. I don't know if this would work in your case however! You may want to try a different approach! LOL!

 

If you want to be thought of as a brilliant conversationalist, ask people about themselves, rather than going on and on about yourself. I have a habit of either talking too much, or not enough. I now try to 'interview' people, rather than try to impress them with MY stories. See, I'm doing it again....

 

socialize

get to class early and chat with the other students. comparing notes before and after class is also a great way to stay on top of your studies. go see your teachers during their office hours. they like to feel appreciated and will give you the inside track on getting good grades. i went to see one of my professors for some help.

it also helps to make friends who are doing the same major. there's usually a student association for each major. sometimes it's good to know what classes to avoid, or just to share books, and you won't be left without a partner for those group projects. discussing your schoolwork is also a good icebreaker.

i stayed in the dorm my first year and my door was always open. i knew most of the people in my building and had many friends. my thing was also to talk to everybody. just standing in line at the cafeteria i'll start talking to whoever's next to me.

college is also a good place to get involved with things. big part of your tuition goes to support all kinds of campus activities. lot of meetings are boring. you sit around electing the president/treasurer, how to spend the budget. usually you just elect some tryhard to do all the work making posters and stuff. then you go for beer

i read books to kids, i joined a business student's association. they were the best at getting money out of local businesses so we could go places and party. i also volunteered at the health centre looking after drunks and O.D.'s and did the social justice thing.

you can meet girls this way. even if she is not interesting to you she probably has a friend that is

 

Be polite to everyone.
Hold yourself with confidence, not arrogance.
Hold doors for people.
Stay out of conversations that will lead to senseless confrontation.

And as I Dad always told me, while shaking his head......
Its better to keep your mouth shut and let people think your stupid.......
....than to open your mouth....and prove it.

 

Hehehe..
Actually, I couldn't stand him when we were kids.
Then, after not really talking to him for several years, he got a job working with/for me during high school. So, I had to put up with him for 12 hrs a day, 2 days a week minimum... I got used to him.
Now, he's married, just bought a house, and we still get together every weekend. He even married a girl I've known all my life.


The rest of my friends, while all good folks, I find myself slowly drifting away from. With most, it's the wife/girlfriend thing, he ends up not coming around anymore, stops calling... They all think I'm a bad influence
Who, me.

 

I met my best friend in Grade 1, dude. Mind you, we weren't best friends from day one. That's been a more "recent" 15 years.

As for meeting friends in college, boy, that was a tough one. I think I went through a whole month without talking to ANYBODY. Partly because I didn't want to be there, and partly because I didn't fit in there either. Think budding mechanic in a business school. So I got the heck out of there.

Trade school was actually pretty easy to meet friends for me. All like minded individuals, chasing after the same honies.

Tell you a little story. I was sitting in class on the first day. This dude with a weird haircut, a white wife beater and black jeans sat down next to me. At first impression, I thought "I hope he's got the wrong class". But then it got to small talk. Later, around lunch, he says "So, what are you doing for lunch?" I show him my brown bag. He says "me too. Where can you buy cigarettes from? I'm not from around here." So I took him for a mini tour of the campus (I'd been there before) and neighbourhood, and got him his smokes. He ended up being my shop partner too. Haven't spoken to him in about 5 years though. He moved away without leaving a phone number.

Basically, you don't need to go out looking for friends. They'll come looking for you.

 

Pretty good advice above. I was lucky and the college I went to wasn't far from home. Junior college was like a high school reunion everyday there were so many people there frommy high school. At the four year university I went too I had alot of my friends going there at the same time. I did meet several good folks in the same major I was working towards, some of us had several classes together. One guy ran around with soem friends of ine and I knew several of his friends but we had never met, strange but we are friends now. One guy I had several classes with I knew his fiance real well, she was the cute little thing that cut my hair. One gal that I had a class with who was drop dead gorgeous I found out was friends with a friend of mines girlfriend, we became, well lets just say handcufffs are cool and we know each other well. Too bad she's married now.

Most important just be yourself. I make things fun and enjoy life. When you enjoy your life you are generaly a happier person and others will see this.