I just need to vent about some frustrations in my life, and maybe even get some advice out of this. This might be a little long so if you want stop reading after this sentence. Here it goes.

Okay, a little while ago I started dating this girl and everything starts off great. Then while we are on the phone all she starts talking about is her ex . I mean, WHY she thinks I want to know about her ex is beyond me. So this gives me the first "run away" notion. Well I just flat out told her "Hey, I dont tell you all of the stories about me and my ex's, so what makes you think I wanna hear yours?" She was just like your right and we started talking about other stuff. Well good, no biggie. Well two days later, Im running an errand for work (Jiffy Lube). Well the exit/entrance for walgreens is about 50 feet from an intersection that has its own right turn lane. Well its busy traffic so Its starting to become a pain trying to get out. Well this guy in a 1993 Ford Station Wagon slows down, puts his blinker on, and acts like hes turning into Walgreens, so I take a right to leave. Well guess what, he changed his mind. I T-Boned him leaving a 6 foot crease down the side of his station wagon with my Ranchhand . We pull into a parkin lot to trade info, and he tells me that he was never even going to turn into Walgreens, yea, whatever man. Also, since no one stopped that saw it to help out, the only witness we had was his daughter in the car with him. Yea, I cant really prove anything, so its their word agianst mine (an 18 year old agianst a 40 year old and his daughter). Well luckily he was a nice guy about it all. Said he would get some estimates done and see about just making a personal payment plan through us, as not to go insurance. Also seeing as how Ive worked on that car at work, that helped me out a little bit I guess. Well today I get a call from him. He said the estimates were for $1600, another for $1700, and another for $2500. Yea guess which one he wants to use, . Well on the phone, he was very adament about not going through insurance. That right there is making honestly wonder if he is carrying insurance on that car. This being my first wreck, I made a STUPID mistake and gave him my insurance without leaving with his. I think he is trying to screw me over, which I will not let happen. So thats where I am with that as of right now. Well also today, apparently someone told the girl that I am dating that she could do better in the "looks" department on a boyfriend. WHAT IN THE HELL do I say to that? "Umm, no you cant." I dont think that will work. Worst part is, I think she is gonna listen to whoever told her that. Today has just bummed me out. Why people are so judgemental and shallow is beyond me.

Thanks for listenin.

 

I know how ya feel man, everything builds up, and it sucks. I would get the guys insurance info, or call the police and let them handle this, its the best thing to do IMHO. As for the guy talkin crap about you to your GF, I would get in his face and tell him that you "don't appreciate" his comments, and that you will have to "change his looks" if he keeps doin stuff like that. If she does actually listen to that guy, its better for you since she is shallow, and you deserve a girl better than that. Just remember to keep it real, as in be honest, have good values, and thats all you can really do. Then you know nobody can talk trash about your values, or integrity, and thats what matters.

 

Well, it's because a lot of people ARE judgemental and shallow !!!

Things happen, that's part of life... and sometimes LOTS of bad things happen - to even good people ! I don't believe ALL the 150,000 people killed by the Tsunami considered themselves bad people...

We all eventually get to a place to know that we can't control everything and sometimes we just need to adapt to what is put in front of us....

Be patient, but ALWAYS be ready....

Never let THE opportunity pass you by.... it is amazing to me to think back on the opportunities and decisions that seemed simple at the time, but had a tremendous impact on the turns life presented to me...

Good luck, and make the best of it !

 

Yikes. that is a crummy day. On the bright side, you are 18, and not 40 and driving a 1993 station wagon. As far as the girlfriend, I would send her on her way, she isn't over her ex and once again your eighteen and have a world of girlfriends, cars, accidents, and life ahead. Good luck with the accident, in three years it will be off your record and always have a cop write a report.

 

Dude, as far as the girl goes. There are lots of fish in the sea. If she is going to listen to whoever is saying things then she has problems. I know it sounds stupid, but you gotta live life to it's fullest. Time flies. I was with several girls for long periods and thougt each one of them was possibly "the one". Well, I think I ended up with the right one and I knew it when it happened. You are young with a long future ahead of you. LIVE LIFE
Regarding the accident. I would attempt to find out if this guy does have insurance. If not or you can't find out, go to the cops. Any police here that can help? Sounds like he's just trying to yank you around. Do you know of any body shops that you can recomend he use? You can always also try to find an attorney that might give you a free or cheap consultation. OR, you can play hard ball with the guy and tell him to get lost if he doesn't want to play by your rules. He probably thinks he can walk all over you because of your age.
Anyways, just my quick $.02.
Whatever happens, STAY STRONG AND LIVE LIFE!!!!!!!!!

 

Sorry to here about your problems, wezol. I'd agree as to your girlfriend, though... if she'd actually listen to and heed the "advice" of someone saying she could do better in the looks department, then she doesn't sound like much of a girl to hang on to anyway, at least one of any substance. Hope things turn out okay, bro.

 

On the girl... Your 18 so this is likely not going to be the first girl you lose. It sounds to me like she may be afraid that you will hurt her like, I assume, he hurt her. Maybe she wants you to reassure her, but then again I don't know what she is saying about her ex. Sometimes in a fresh relationship, an insecure person may subconciously sabotage a relationship because they are afraid of commitment for one reason or another.
As for the car accident...
The next time the guy calls you tell him you can't afford the "payment plan" and ask for his insurance info. If he doesn't give it to you, tell him to get bent and file a police report telling exactly what happened. If it goes to court you have all your bases covered. You may consider filing a police report and filing a report with your insurance company that you were involved in an accident with an uninsured motorist.

Keep your head up... things will get better.

 

If it were me, I'd be hard-nosed about it and;
1) Tell the guy it wasn't your fault...you're getting the police involved...you need his insurance info...then tell him to go scratch, and call your insurance agent so he knows that this guy is trying to pull a fast one.
2) Be sarcastic with the girl. Tell her that you're not Dr. laura...that you're too ugly to be seen with her...and that she should return to Mr. Wonderful. Then send her a copy of the movie "Shallow Hal". Like the guys above me said...there's lots of other girls out there.

MR

 

Drop that chick like a hot rivet.

Things that seem like minor irritants at this stage of your relationship will grow very soon to Grand Canyon sized problems.
Tell her not to let the door hit her butt on the way out.

And best of luck with the insurance thing. You are right, the guy is screwing you over, big time.

 

Call the police and get an offical report filed. Besides, I am pretty sure that you are required by law to report all accidents if the damage is over $1000 in most states. You may find out the guy doesn't have insurance, or even a licence.

I would check with your work, if you were running an errand for work, assuming that you were using your personal vehicle, and you don't get compensated for mileage or vehicle allowance, your work should pitch in some. If they don't, then you don't run errands for work anymore in your personal vehicle anymore.

As for the girl, if you can't see yourself with her when you are old and retired, get rid of her now. If you figure you can settle down with her, then work it out.

 

Thanks guys.
I have yet to talk to the girl. Been a few days since Ive talked to her but she got her phone taken away for some odd reason or another. Im just waiting for her to call me and when she does then I will talk to her about it, see what she has to say. As for the accident, still up in the air about that one. Im going to call my insurance guy today and see what he has to say about it, and see just how much my insurance will go up.

 

> Yikes. that is a crummy day. On the bright side, you are 18, and not 40 and
> driving a 1993 station wagon

LOL! I had the same sort of thought.

You know, your accident almost sounds like a scam. I had someone intentionally hit my grand mother's car in exactly the same position as yours, except we had two witnesses less then 20 feet away that said her car was not even moving. Good news, by the time I got done with him, I do not think he was too happy about trying to pull the scam, I know his insurance company was not. Bad thng, my grandmother got so rattled she gave up driving.

Right now I would file a police report, let it work through channels, and take whatever course. If he keeps at it, tell him just to call your insurance company and you will be filing against his. Sounds like he is digging for gold and it is not unheard of someone picking a younger driver out for an accident and hitting them in passing to collect an insurance payment on their trash heap. I bet a 1993 station wagon with 200k+ on the odometer is only worth $1000.

Before doing this, I would get a camera, drive to his house, leave the truck running, take some quick flash pictures, and get out fast. It is not unheard of someone like this causing more damage after the accident/scam to collect more money.

 

I do henchmen work for food, where in Texas you located dude?