Do I do now?

Got some bad new today about one of my kids, the yougest one to be exact.

Something I just wasn't expecting. I'm still in shock so I don't know what the hell I'm even writing.

Gotta go think, be back later hopefully to tell the story with a clear train of thought.


Sorry!!

 

P.M. me and clue me in.Im no expert but I have been to hell and back when it comes to children,I might be able to steer you in the right direction.By the way,did you get the picture my son drew for you?

 

Our thoughts are with you!

 

Parks,

Not sure what's going on, but for your sake and the sake of your children, I truly hope everything turns out OK.

Please let us know what's happening.

Tim

 

Boy, did I make a mess of that post.

Please remember I was bombed with something that no one could ever expect in there lives & I was in complete SHOCK!
I have done alot of thinking & hopefully can speak/type clearly now, still don't know what to think about it though.

As some of you know, I have been engaged in divorce proceedings now for over a year with my wife (yeah, it's not over yet. Hopefully soon).
Also along with that, I have custody of our 2 oldest children & she has the youngest.

Everything in the divorce has been settle and agreed upon between her and I, except for the custody of our 3 year old girl (the youngest). During this whole time since SHE walked out & filed for divorce I have been getting slapped in the face by her. She has been telling me & everyone else that the youngest child is not biologically mine.
Yeah right, I know better. This is her way of trying to hurt me. But why the hell would she want to hurt me even worse? She already walked out on me and our 2 older kids, do I do something wrong? I did everything I thought I was suppose to do, to be a good Husband.

But anyways......

This last August I got sick of hearing this crap. I started making arrangments with hospitals & courts (to make it mandatory). I am going to have genetic testing done. Even if I have to pay for it, just so I can backhand her the results and say "shut your (slang word) mouth (slang word). I did no wrong to you, so why would you try to hurt me like that. Now you can't, It is here in black & white".

Well, $588.00 later & genetic testing has been done. Results came Saturday (I picked up the mail yesterday). I have to tell you, those medical papers get kind of confusing. But there is one line I did understand.

Daniel Parks (yeah, thats me) is excluded as the biological father of Amber Willow Parks.


That is when I started this thread. It felt like someone with a rusty steak knife just ripped my heart out. I love that little girl so much. I'm very proud of her. But now it just doesn't seem the same.


Now, I haven't seen her for almost a year now. And with the Official results, I know I have no chance at seeing her at all.
My wife has already filed the paper work to have my name removed from the child & all paper work (birth, SSN, ect.).
I guess I have to find out how/if I'm going to be reimbursed for all the child support I paid.

Seven years of marriage. That child should have been mine. I must have not done the job right.

 

Wow Daniel....thats harsh. It hurts really bad to be cheated on, but I cant even come close to contemplating what you must feel right now. Dont start thinkin that you didnt do something right. Its not your fault she was a (slang word) idiot and cheated on you. Even though I dont know you personally, from what I do know, Id say that you are a pretty damn good father. Your (slang word) of an ex took advantage of you and its not your fault. It will all come back around to her, and also with these "sue happy" days we have, get a good lawyer and get your money back. I am really sorry that this happened to you. Best of luck to ya man, you will over come this.

 

You still can.....you always will be....hang in there, this one is tuff!

 

Well Parks I feel for you, my cousin had the same exact thing happen to him.

Tough call......hope the best for you but the boys have a half sister so the ties are not broken.

 

Fight for custody, and file adoption papers. The court should rule in your favor, since you was married for 7 yrs. Id still fight for custody.

Anyway, sorry to hear about all of this, hang in there bro.

 

You raised that kid for 3 years and loved her like a father. Man I tell you what you are still that kids dad no matter what the papers say. Take her to court and get joint custody.

 

I don't disagree with what anyone said, but I also don't think the courts would rule in your favor in a custody battle for your daughter. The only advice I can give is try to think what is best for the child. I know this may not settle well with you (since you were just hit by a semi, emotionally). I would say to try to work out some sort of deal so that allows you to remain a positive part of her life. It can't be easy, but please hang in there.

 

Wow, my best regards to you Parks, what a bum rap.

The courts always rule to the natural mother most of the time. This is such a personal issue I dont think anyone can say anything to really help. If you can stand it dollarwise, a GOOD attorney may be able to make the deception issue a valid point in a custoday dispute hearing, I dunno. Just try not to lose sight of those two kids that are yours, and let anger and lawyer fees(money) problems hurt your relationship with them. Best of luck to you guy,

 

I think that since this thread is getting so many visits in the Announcements forum, I know that you will receive a heavier amount of comments here in General Non-Automotive. You deserve all the support we can muster for you.

 

Wow, that's harsh. I don't even know what to say. You're right about one thing, though, no court is ever going to award you any kind of custody. You'll be able to see her when she turns 18, but that's of little comfort now. And depending on the state, you will likely not see a dime of child support back. The courts consider the kids first, and they really don't care who pays to support them. The sad fact is that a woman can pick a man out of the phone book, sue him for support, and there's a good chance he'll have to support that child for the next 18 to 21 years. It sounds outrageous, but it's the truth.

Your ex-wife is still one nasty lady. I hope she'll stop and think about the kind of psychological damage she's doing to her little girl. From what you say, I doubt she will.

My advice is to go see a counselor or psychologist. I don't know too many that could get through something like that without some help. There's no shame in asking for help, you know.

 

Hey man good luck with all this. I consider myself very lucky that my parents are still together and happy. I worked this summer with a guy who hasnt seen his daughter in a couple years, and he finally got to see her this summer, he was the happiest guy I have ever seen. Don't worry I'm sure it will all work out in the end.