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In too deep
I'm in trouble folks. This is humbling, but I gotta get it out - I'm not sure that even this is gonna be enough to help. My dignity is nearly gone.
My third, that's right, third, marriage has crashed - and is burning ... rapidly.
It has been for two years now - but she told me tonight that she has a "friend" - am I blind or does this mean it is over ... completely ... forever? What a fool I am. I've "known" this has been "goin' on" for close to a year, I've been through it all before - twice - all the signs were there. I've denied it, lied to myself. What a fool I am. What a fool I've been. Is it too late now?
If you've read this, thanks for taking the time. And if you are so inclined, I'm asking for a prayer.
Thanks in advance - Glenn ...
My third, that's right, third, marriage has crashed - and is burning ... rapidly.
It has been for two years now - but she told me tonight that she has a "friend" - am I blind or does this mean it is over ... completely ... forever? What a fool I am. I've "known" this has been "goin' on" for close to a year, I've been through it all before - twice - all the signs were there. I've denied it, lied to myself. What a fool I am. What a fool I've been. Is it too late now?
If you've read this, thanks for taking the time. And if you are so inclined, I'm asking for a prayer.
Thanks in advance - Glenn ...
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Glenn - I don't even know what to say.
I don't know how to pray, so all I can offer is support.
Where are you in VA? I'm in Annapolis, MD - probably not too far away.
If you need anything, drop me an email.
Hang in there,
XXL
I don't know how to pray, so all I can offer is support.
Where are you in VA? I'm in Annapolis, MD - probably not too far away.
If you need anything, drop me an email.
Hang in there,
XXL
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I don't think I could continue to trust my wife (if I was married) if she cheated on me. In my book once a cheater always a cheater. I would move on and not look back. Sorry, I hope everything works out for the best.
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I didn't mention we've been seperated for two years - but supposedly had been working things out - had gone to a counseling session just a couple weeks ago.
The real problem is we have a 2 year-old son involved - I do NOT want him to go through what I went through as a kid.
Glenn
The real problem is we have a 2 year-old son involved - I do NOT want him to go through what I went through as a kid.
Glenn
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Originally posted by TOUGHLover
Thanks Big Guy.
I'm in Alexandria.
THX again - Glenn ...
Thanks Big Guy.
I'm in Alexandria.
THX again - Glenn ...
You're not far away at all - isn't Alexandria right past the Wilson bridge (headed into VA)?
We should hang out sometime.
Drink some beer and talk trucks for a while.
I agree with Christop43 - you're one hell of a great person. Any woman who cheats on you simply doesn't deserve you.
go easy,
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but she told me tonight that she has a "friend" -
That should make things clear, but it does raise one question for me - why is she cheating on you? Is she not getting all she needs in her present circumstances? Why?
I have never never seen a situation where it's just one person responsible for marriage failure. It's always both parties.
That should make things clear, but it does raise one question for me - why is she cheating on you? Is she not getting all she needs in her present circumstances? Why?
I have never never seen a situation where it's just one person responsible for marriage failure. It's always both parties.
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Originally posted by carpe_diem
but she told me tonight that she has a "friend" -
That should make things clear, but it does raise one question for me - why is she cheating on you? Is she not getting all she needs in her present circumstances? Why?
I have never never seen a situation where it's just one person responsible for marriage failure. It's always both parties.
but she told me tonight that she has a "friend" -
That should make things clear, but it does raise one question for me - why is she cheating on you? Is she not getting all she needs in her present circumstances? Why?
I have never never seen a situation where it's just one person responsible for marriage failure. It's always both parties.
Of course both are "responsible". I take exactly 100% responsibility for my part, my actions and in-actions, good, bad and indifferent.
And I claim somewhere between 49 and 51% of the blame for the breakdown of the relationship, the marriage. I don't deny that I am ALL responsible for me, and EQUALLY responsible for the deal, the contract ... the VOWS --
That was not the point of my posting this. The point was/is I am very, very troubled by it. Deeply troubled.
Thx again, Glenn
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TOUGHlover,
Take a seat, and a deep breath. Think about all that you have going for you; your health, your job, your kids (if you have them), your relationship with God (if you are so inclined), your ability to think (you sound rational). There are so many positive things in your life that you totally neglect once something like this happens. It is now time to access that part of your life. It sounds like this is not new, just the realization of the end is now bearing down on you. But, it is not the end – by any means. There is something called the human spirit that bounces back if you will allow it to. There are immeasurable avenues for you. Take a good look at your life and all that it holds – without this hiccup.
That is where you should maintain focus, not on the negative.
So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go forward. I may sound crazy, but this problem (as with most problems) is an opportunity to learn and help you grow.
Look at it like this: A door has been closed – there’s no doubt about that, but another door has been opened. Go ahead and go on through it.
Take a seat, and a deep breath. Think about all that you have going for you; your health, your job, your kids (if you have them), your relationship with God (if you are so inclined), your ability to think (you sound rational). There are so many positive things in your life that you totally neglect once something like this happens. It is now time to access that part of your life. It sounds like this is not new, just the realization of the end is now bearing down on you. But, it is not the end – by any means. There is something called the human spirit that bounces back if you will allow it to. There are immeasurable avenues for you. Take a good look at your life and all that it holds – without this hiccup.
That is where you should maintain focus, not on the negative.
So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go forward. I may sound crazy, but this problem (as with most problems) is an opportunity to learn and help you grow.
Look at it like this: A door has been closed – there’s no doubt about that, but another door has been opened. Go ahead and go on through it.