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Jan 20, 2011 | 07:57 PM

#16

c125bob

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From: Chattahoochee Hills, Ga.

Sorry to hear it. Been there myself. I just want to say that it might be the best thing for you, it was for me. After the smoke cleared I met and married my wife of 34 years. The best thing that ever happened to me ! If not for the divorce I would have never found her. Hang in there buddy, it'll get better.

Jan 21, 2011 | 09:04 AM

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Kwikkordead

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From: Rio Rico, AZ.

Chase I'm 100% in agreement with you.
And you are more forgiving than I could ever be, I would have said goodbye at the first offence.

Jan 21, 2011 | 09:13 AM

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bfife

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From: Twin Falls Idaho

I was told this when I went through my divorce. "Why are divorces so expensive? BECAUSE THEY"RE WORTH IT! " It sucks now, but it'll be better in the end. Kids are tough. love em, let them know you love em, let them know you hurt but you still love em. Mine bought into the Moms got the money deal for a while. but now they understand that if it not important to Mom, it don't happen. try not to bash your ex infront of the kids. after all, no matter her faults, she is still their mother. It won't help your situation to badmouth her to them. the kids figure it out eventually. take the high road no matter what kinda BS she pulls. man this brings up alot of old memories. I am so sorry you have to go through this!

Barney

Jan 21, 2011 | 09:48 AM

#19

PwerStroke99

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From: Montana

Chase like i have told u, if you need anything elt me know, im not that far away. You have a lot of friends in this area who are there for ya. THis really sux, and im sorry you and the kids are going thru this, they are absolute angels that dont deserve this but just be strong for them

Jan 21, 2011 | 11:04 AM

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DieselCamper01

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Sorry to hear this Chase. Wish I had something to offer other than sympathy. The others have already offered the best advice I can think of. Good luck.

Jan 21, 2011 | 11:43 AM

#21

frdf250

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From: Fleetwood, PA

Chase -

Sorry to hear that brotha. You know we are all an ear for ya. whatever you might need. keep your head up, you didnt deserve it. Karmas a bitch just remember. If you need anything, you know were all here for you. whatever it might be.

Jan 21, 2011 | 01:32 PM

#22

Stewart_H

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From: Central Coast of CA

I'm sorry man, truly.

There are things people with compassion wish they could help others with, and loss is always at the top, whether its a loss of a person or loss of a relationship, it all hurts bro.

Wish I could offer more than words, Chase.

Stewart

Jan 24, 2011 | 09:54 AM

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superduty4x4

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Kwikkordead

Chase I'm 100% in agreement with you.
And you are more forgiving than I could ever be, I would have said goodbye at the first offence.

Make no mistake, I would not have tolerated knowing she actually cheated on me. Back in August I caught her trying to set up a meeting with an ex boyfriend (while my parents were watching our kids so we could try to mend our relationship) and in November roughly I found out about her being too friendly in text messages with another guy (not the one she had the affair with). She's made her decision. She's done the crime, now she gets to do the time.

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Originally Posted by bfife

try not to bash your ex infront of the kids. after all, no matter her faults, she is still their mother. It won't help your situation to badmouth her to them.

As much as I hate the woman for what she is putting our kids through, I refuse to drag my kids into this by talking bad about their mom in front of them. They didn't do anything wrong, and I have made an effort to make sure they know that.

I appreciate all the help/support from everyone so far. I hope this process is as quick and painless as possible so I can move ahead with my life in a constructive way.